Age difference..

[JFH 12,191]

If you are denied, you should have no problem settling in Turkey. Many middle-aged British women marry younger Turkish men and settle in Turkey with them. The ex-pat community is very active there so she will have other English-speaking women of a similar age nearby if you settle in one of the larger resort areas. Many of them get jobs in the tourism industry doing the airport meeting and greeting for British tourists or selling day trips.

[Sercaned 2]

Were her three previous marriages to foreign men? It might look suspicious if she has married foreign men before and then divorced them when they've got their green cards.

You must love her a lot as you have given up the chance to be a father. At 53 she's not going to be giving you children. Therefore I would think you should have tonnes of evidence of how besotted and committed you both are. So you have pictures of you and her family? That's good.

Sir i don't need kids. In my opinion this world is going bad. If i have kid i can't die until he/she became rich i don't need it. Yes we have pics. On holidays. When we drinking etc

[Sercaned 2]

So 21 year old Turkish guy married to a 43 year old American girl, definitely be prepared for some extra scrutiny, it is NOT normal for a Turkish man to marry a woman more than 2x his age especially if you do not have similar cultural and religious backgrounds. Could you be approved sure, could you be denied sure, the main thing is to be prepared to present evidence that you are in a bona fide relationship and be prepared for all sorts of questions including ones pertaining to children. And if you are denied-I hear Turkey is a pretty great place.

Yes sir. She is 53. But we don't have any age problem. Because when i was Turkey i was talking to older women. That's my choice already. And also everybody sees grow person in our relationship me.

[Sercaned 2]

If you are denied, you should have no problem settling in Turkey. Many middle-aged British women marry younger Turkish men and settle in Turkey with them. The ex-pat community is very active there so she will have other English-speaking women of a similar age nearby if you settle in one of the larger resort areas. Many of them get jobs in the tourism industry doing the airport meeting and greeting for British tourists or selling day trips.

Thanks for suggesting i'm gonna talk to her

[Arslan12 20]

You have a huge age difference. That is going to be a serious problem. Immigration officials won't like the fact that an 21 year old college aged boy wants to marry an old woman. They may have hard time believing that the marriage has been consummated. You can only overcome by lots of evidence of bona fide of your marriage.

Good Luck

[Sercaned 2]

You have a huge age difference. That is going to be a serious problem. Immigration officials won't like the fact that an 21 year old college aged boy wants to marry an old woman. They may have hard time believing that the marriage has been consummated. You can only overcome by lots of evidence of bona fide of your marriage.

Good Luck

I have evidence as i told

[JFH 12,191]

I have evidence as i told

Then you have nothing at all to worry about.

And by the way - at 21 I was adamant I didn't want children. I also thought the world was going to hell in a handcart and having children was a ridiculous idea. At 29 and happily married for a few years I felt completely differently.

Edited February 10, 2016 by JFH

[Sercaned 2]

Then you have nothing at all to worry about.

And by the way - at 21 I was adamant I didn't want children. I also thought the world was going to hell in a handcart and having children was a ridiculous idea. At 29 and happily married for a few years I felt completely differently.

You might be right. But if i have kids i know myself i won't be happy.. Who wants to be unhappy..

[Arslan12 20]

It is completely understandable that you don't want to have kids right now. But from immigration point of view, officials are looking for possible fraud committed in cases like yours where guy is young but the woman is past the child bearing age. That raises a red flag. Right now you are very young, but after few years if you change your mind and decide you want to have kids, your wife won't be able to fulfill your needs. A human's brain is not done growing up until he is 25 years old. You are still growing up. You may or may not have any problem with your immigration procedure. You can take my words just as an advice to you.

[Cathi 5,795]

What is with the judgmental posts? Just because you don;t agree with the age difference is no reason to be condescending. They cannot be denied based on age alone, it's discrimination. As long as they show an ongoing, bondafide relationship they have a chance. Period. If the tables were turned and it was he who was older, he would be getting a pat on the back.

Edited February 10, 2016 by mimolicious

[cdneh 3,112]

There are people in the world who do not see childbearing and childrearing the be all end all. Some people do not want children.

[notusinganymore 31]

Show up to the interview and bring as much evidence as you can. It's up to the interviewer really. There's always scrutiny and just have to be prepared. It might raise a flag that no one else knows about your marriage. You have your reasons though and if that is bothering you then my suggestion is to let it out in the open so when the interviewer asks, you have a straight answer that you didn't want a big wedding. Rather than sifting through your words to not say you were hiding your marriage. You will have to tell and prove to the family that you are staying for real and time can only tell after you tell them you are married.

[caliliving 606]

a 21 year old male from Turkey who's J1 is about to expire and wants to marry a 53 year old USC woman.. hmmm..shes been divorced how many times? how many kids does she have? does she have a good career?

I am sure a picture would help with this mental image to see if this couple 'fits' together... however, i just cant get the picture of a certain couple on 90 day fiance out of my head.

I know that many foreigners know exactly what they are doing and what they need to collect to 'prove' that the relationship is bonefide to the IO.. some people just want to feel loved and it is sad that the USC is the one getting used:/

[Umka36 781]

Then you have nothing at all to worry about.

And by the way - at 21 I was adamant I didn't want children. I also thought the world was going to hell in a handcart and having children was a ridiculous idea. At 29 and happily married for a few years I felt completely differently.

I was in my 30's thinking I would never get married let alone having kids. Life is just full of surprises, since I am now married with 2 kids. If the OP is happy and able to stick to his plan more power to him.

[mallafri76 1,012]

You might be right. But if i have kids i know myself i won't be happy.. Who wants to be unhappy..

I doubt that the fact that you won't be able to have kids because your wife is "too old" will be that big of a deal to USCIS. Lots of people make an active choice not to have kids. I've known my whole life that I didn't wanna have kids and everyone kept telling me to wait till I'm older, wait till I find the right person etc etc.... I'm now 40, married to the love of my life and guess what... Still don't want kids. The question might come up at your interview though, so you're gonna want to prepare for it.

I think the biggest hurdle for you to overcome will be the fact that her family doesn't know that you're married. That might be a deal breaker for USCIS so I would suggest she tells her family and then you have that "issue" out of the way.

I would also think that with the age difference you have, US immigrations will be looking more closely at your bona fida evidence. But you seem to have a lot there with joint accounts, insurance etc. How about wills and life insurance? Maybe you wanna look into that too.

Speaking from experience, when you have a couple that's outside the norm, like you and your wife and like me and my husband, they will look at your case more closely and they will be wanting stronger bona fida evidence than they would normally want from the "normal" couple. Is that unfair? Sure it is but it's the way it is so you might as well prepare for it.