Help Settle an old argument

[Nikita2Charles 32]

Thank you but more in a sarcasting way to bring attention to the other partner INSENSITIVITY.

We enjoy the same kinda of music but at time we do have our differences in taste but yet my wife is always loving and patient and try to understand what's the music is about the story behind it, a little background sometimes help.

[Fandango 1,439]

I think it's thank you.

D & I like the same music, but he's a Kevin Smith nut and we actually went down to London for one of those 'evening with ks.' I think they're stupid, I think his movies are 'EH' and the whole 'ooooh lemme ask you questions and you can tell stories for 4 hours!' was not what I wanted to do.

I did it anyways, D enjoyed himself soooo much. I thought it was pretty sh!t, but I enjoyed the fact that he was like a pig in sh!t.

And he said 'thank you baybee, you're the bestest'

[rebeccajo 14]

Why would a concert be such a big deal?

[luvaLimey 0]

I've been reading the replies, and there are some very good points being made, but I feel I need to clarify a few things.

The argument has never been about the concert; it's about the perceived unspoken words at the end of that sentence.

Person # 1 is dead sure person #2 meant "F*uck you"

Person # 2 Is dead sure they meant "Thank You"

This only gets argued about because it gets dragged up during arguments about other things as evidence that Person # 1 can in fact read minds.

Also: Each "side" was written by a different person, and then I copy/pasted those perspectives into the post.

As to the selfish/selfless assumption: I think it was pretty freaking selfless for person #1 to offer (without being asked by person #2 at all) to drive 1000 miles out of the way while they were on a road trip, pay for tickets to person #2s favorite band, and sit through what they consider to be a crappy band. Maybe person #2 was selfish in wanting to see the band and enjoying themselves in spite of Person #1s obvious boredom and discomfort?

[Jenn! 918]

I'm still confused. What was actually said???

[Savanphil 3]

I'm still confused. What was actually said???

[luvaLimey 0]

I'm still confused. What was actually said???

"I know you're <bored>/<not having fun>/<etc...>, but I am, so..."

And there was a pause, so there was something unsaid in that instant.

It must be pointed out that there were many "thank you"s and "I love you"s and "you're so freaking awesome"s that arose from this situation.

The argument isn't about whether a thank you was ever said or not, but what was meant in that one instance.

[LaL 418]

maybe it is fluck you given the other party's inflammatory posting history

unless this isnt an isolated incident, i fail to see how a *pause* two years ago is relevant in fights today.

[luvaLimey 0]

See now, this is why I just copy-pasted his non-gender-specific view and my non-gender-specific view. I knew some people might remember his posting style and have a bias against him.

I'm still not going to say which one of us was person #1 and which was person #2, but assuming things based on past behavior in this situation isn't going to help.

[LaL 418]

past behavior does not point you towards what was more likely said?

context and behavior patterns have everything to do with it. I am not biased against the other, the flock you may have well been cheeky, but I just have doubts that it would be a *thank you* coming from someone who is loose with language.

Edited March 13, 2007 by lal_brandow

[luvaLimey 0]

So, if He was person #2, you'd assume it was a "#### you" response?

What if I was person #2, which response would you assume it to be?

[Otto 83]

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Edited March 13, 2007 by Karin und Otto

[Fandango 1,439]

Oh damn, now I forgot what your fiance's nick was, luva

[luvaLimey 0]

This sexy creature: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showuser=19920

[Ban Hammer 13,332]

my thoughts - why dwell on it?

and i remember that user name. why isn't he on anymore?