HELP HELP me get my Child

[Abi516 0]

I sponsored my husband and his two children. One child came before the other. My husband and his child had.a issue. He lost his child to Foster home. ACS got involved..they were back and forth in court. During this time there was a period of unrest in the home. My husband and I are now seperated. I kept the second child. The last hearing the child was to return to him, however the child is in foster care. At the end I learnt why I was eliminated. My husband informed ACS that we are seperated. Out of curiosity and wanting to know what are my options as a stepmother/Sponsor/affadavit of support... I was informed that my husband told them after several attempts to speak with me ...that I refused family counseling...I was floored... they do not know if I have an option being that I am the one that sponsored the child from Jamaica. I did my research...I cannot find any case like my case. I have know rights as the stepmother. Personally my husband worked against and manipulate the situation so well to hurt me... "I think.." But am not even concern about this grown man...My concern are towards his child. I am a mother of my own child.. And I feel like no one is going above and beyond for this child. I got contact with the child on Facebook. He is happy,with his foster parents. He showed me his report card. He asked for a game.. never dawned on me to tell him that his dad and I are separated, so I told him that is dad and I will buy it together for him... he said he is cut in half ....half of him wants to come home but he also loved it there. I was too happy to hear that he is well. I started to hear from him every day on fb..before mu moment was short lived, He unfriend me. Indirectly my husband friend told me I make my husband look bad when I promise the child something and he dont have that money now....so I got my cue....every family has their issues and this is mine. ONLY a handful of people tell me to try get him back...I am hit with step parents has no right. The mother of the second child gave me guardianship. I need to know what rights I have as the child sponsor and affadavit of support.

[Darnell 8,479]

federal rights? none. federal responsibilities? some - if'n the child utilizes federal means-tested benefits, you are to repay the federal government for them.

there are some states rights and responsibilities but if the child was removed from your home and put into foster care, either there is a huge problem OR a judge made a mistake.

IMO, you married a player, and he's played the system ..

Edited February 2, 2016 by Darnell

[aaron2020 11,651]

Hi,

You have no rights as a stepmother. Petitioning for the child and being the sponsor for the I-864 does not give you parental rights.

The mother can not give you guardianship when the father has a right to his child. You do not have more rights to his child than him. In fact, you have no rights over his child.

The child is his. The law states this. You do not have any rights to the child. If the mother objects, then she needs to deal with custody; not you. You have no parental rights, so you can not do anything.

Sorry.

Edited February 2, 2016 by aaron2020

[Jawaree 718]

He has most rights to the kid, his intention did not seem haughty from the beginning,

every family goes thru rough patches, so why would he cut you off , and allow his seed

to be in foster care rather than have the kid with you, I am not sure but in some states

I think depending on the child age they can voice their choice on where is more stress-

free & they would like to live to a judge...that though applies when its both biological parents,

and the child is say 15 yrs & older.

I say keep in touch with the biological mom & kid if you can. If he got physical with the kid

in foster care and the biological mom is in your corner....who knows

[Abi516 0]

The child was not remove from my home. Before the seperation. Our home was the home ACS visit to return the child. We were waiting to start counseling. My husband had so many excuses about where to go for counseling... Maybe I am being misunderstood... I am not looking to take his child away from him. Am not seeking parental rights... I just want to help get him out of foster home to be around family... his sibling...and be able to...communicate and visit his family. I intend on giving full access to his children. He will be free to take his children whenever he take care of whatever he told, the court. He refused to come home, for the sake of his children... because of our marital issues...certainly there is more to this story... but I believe in making sacrifices for our children and family.... I hope I clarify enough. Am not trying to take his child away. I want to know how can help to get him out of foster care and be with me,until he gets his ducks in rows. The court already said he could return to his father. But the accomdation that was provided the child said no....the case is technically close...

During that time my husband told them I refused counseling and that am busy...

[Abi516 0]

He has most rights to the kid, his intention did not seem haughty from the beginning,

every family goes thru rough patches, so why would he cut you off , and allow his seed

to be in foster care rather than have the kid with you, I am not sure but in some states

I think depending on the child age they can voice their choice on where is more stress-

free & they would like to live to a judge...that though applies when its both biological parents,

and the child is say 15 yrs & older.

I say keep in touch with the biological mom & kid if you can. If he got physical with the kid

in foster care and the biological mom is in your corner....who knows

[Abi516 0]

The biological mom is in Jamaica, inthe beginning, she told them she is unable to take care of him. Lastly I heard my husband is trying to get his own apartment. Hopefully its soon as possible. So he can be with his family. That's what important to me...

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Oh I think your husband will be with his family soon.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

Your title is a bit misleading, as it is not truly your child. I understand that being stepmother can make it feel as if this is your child. As stepmother, your rights, if any, are limited. The child himself said he likes where he is and feels happy there. So, obviously he is being well cared for, no worries there. The best thing you can do to reunite this family...father and children, is handle your marriage. Take care of your marital relationship and allow this father to do what he needs and wants to do for himself and his children. You cannot make him come home just because you think its the best thing for the children. Talk with your husband, decide if your marriage is able to be saved, go to counseling if that's what you both want. If not, then the children should live with their father once he is able to provide a home for them. It sounds as if this is what he is working on.

Stepmother role is very difficult...your mother but your not mother. I've been there so I know exactly how it feels, but you have to allow the father to decide what is best. You cannot overtake that.

Good Luck!

Edited February 3, 2016 by LionessDeon

[madtownguy 164]

No rights, I had something similar happen. You would have had to legally adopt the child for you to have parental rights.