Regret marrying k1 pinay

[Lee&Ana 88]

Unfortunately I can see this thread being locked real soon now. It was an interesting read while it lasted. I'm sure it has degenerated into a TOS issue.

BTW other than the US are there other countries that severely restrict the entry of Filipinos?

They are restricted from most countries that the living conditions would be more favorable than where they are from for fear that they would overstay and return.

[cristina16 81]

Unfortunately I can see this thread being locked real soon now. It was an interesting read while it lasted. I'm sure it has degenerated into a TOS issue.

BTW other than the US are there other countries that severely restrict the entry of Filipinos?

It is challenge too to get Tourist visa to Europe and Canada too. But if you have a previously issued US B1/B2 Visa- it is easy to get one from other countries.

[cristina16 81]

Thanks for the advice christina16. If you don't mind me asking, how come you are waiting until June for POE?

You are welcome..

Work commitments and my future hubby understands. We agreed to it before we even file for the petition. So I am not one of those rushing to fly and leave everything I have in PH. My only challenge now is planning a wedding miles away..

[The Conqueror 47]

Lee,

You are a restless case. Let your friends who said you are "NICE" read this thread. Now I am 100% sure why your wife acting that way...... The problem is NOT your wife it's YOU!!!! Listen to yourself.

I hope you let her go because she deserve much more

RESPECT.

I rest my case.

This whole thread is such a wasted of time. I hope the moderator sees that.

How about start a topic UNGRATEFUL USC selfish Husband who doesn't deserve Filipina wife? Poor Anna... Tsk tsk

[Hank_ 9,174]

@ Dahlia.. As I was reading the latest posts (wincing as a few "got off topic" ) I too felt the real problem is looking back at him in the mirror each morning. Until he too sees this, nothing will improve.

I feel sorry for his wife and understand her desire to go back to the Phils.

[Boiler 45,481]

He said earlier 25 and mid 40's so the age is really not a major issue.

I was thinking the same, quite normal.

I think the problem here could be helped by a pre screening service, seems you get more information when adopting a dog than you do when marrying a wife.

PI do the CENOMAR for those leaving, something similar for the other side?

[Terapin 10]

Before I give my thoughts. Some background. I lived in Phills for a while. I'm 50 she's 45. Both of us slept in a holiday inn express,last night. She also has a b1 visa.

Now that's out of the way. I'm going to tread lightly.

Tampo - one of our first disagreements, with tears streaming down her face, she said "Baby I'm Asian we don't do direct" There are some huge cultural differences between Phills and here. Saving face is one of them. Learn to listen and read between the lines. Communication will come but it takes trust,time,love and patience. Even though people say it doesn't matter,coping mechanisms are different when your 20 as opposed to someone older. Be a partner not a parent.

Plans - plans work best when all parties are in agreement. Are you sure she wants to make 14 dollars a hour? Yes, I'm sure you have the best intentions, but maybe just maybe she wants a 9 dollar job and send half of it to her family back home.

Las Vegas - when I lived in NYC, she had the opportunity to meet a lot of of phillipinos. From bank executives to ex bar girls. Took a while for her to figure out who to ask for advice. Now that I'm living out "in the province" She will be in a town that is 2% Asian. It's a tough adjustment no matter where you live, be aware of how hard it really is. Put yourself in her shoes for a while.

Cooking- I can't tell you how many times I asked for second helpings of sinigang... Why don't you cook with her one night? Make a meatloaf together, she cooks what she knows. She is cooking for you, feel free to cook for her.

Did you ever think how odd it is the fascination we Americans have with pork for breakfast?

As a outsider, it seems that you both have a lot to learn about each other, and culture.

And to end with a smile. We walked out of a Chinese take out joint a few months ago. She looked at me and said "well I guess I just met the 2% Asian community in this town"

[Hank_ 9,174]

This isn't about me, I didn't open this can of worms on the internet for the whole world to see... this is about you.

Edited February 3, 2016 by Hank_

[Transborderwife 4,666]

You asked for opinions, you're receiving them. No need to attack.

[Ryan H 3,812]

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Edited February 3, 2016 by Ryan H