Spouse does not support in removal of conditions on CR1 visa (merged)

[Destiny Child 4]

On the contrary, questions I have are

1. Did he share his income with you and have put your name in his bank accounts?

2. Did he put you as a beneficiary in any insurances?

3. Did he provide for you and for your child(ren) when you have no job / no income?

4. Did he share the property he own with you?

If he did all that for you, don't you think it's only natural for you to return all the favors to him as a couple when you have an income?

If he didn't do any of these for you, I agree with other posters and get a divorce and get a GC under ROC on your own.

Hi Jam

1. He did provide me food, clothing and shelter when I came to USA. No he did not put my name to his bank accounts

2. No he did not put me as beneficiary in any insurances

3. Yes he did

4. No he did not

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Hi Jam

1. He did provide me food, clothing and shelter when I came to USA. No he did not put my name to his bank accounts

2. No he did not put me as beneficiary in any insurances

3. Yes he did

4. No he did not

What do evidences do you have to prove financial co-mingled for your ROC then?

[Destiny Child 4]

What do evidences do you have to prove financial co-mingled for your ROC then?

we jointly filed for income tax return last year. Unfortunately, I do not have a copy of it and he does not give me when I asked for it.

I have his name as middle name in salary account.

Does that suffice?

[jam2016 10]

What do evidences do you have to prove financial co-mingled for your ROC then?

Sorry, quoted you wrongly!

Edited January 27, 2016 by jam2016

[jam2016 10]

Hi Jam

1. He did provide me food, clothing and shelter when I came to USA. No he did not put my name to his bank accounts

2. No he did not put me as beneficiary in any insurances

3. Yes he did

4. No he did not

So, some yes and some no. It begs a bigger question - do you think he has been a good husband to you?

If so, why not share your income with him for your family?

It's entirely different matter if he is blowing your money on the drugs / gambling and boozes.

But if he is using your money for supporting your family with him, what seems to be the problems?

Edited January 27, 2016 by jam2016

[Destiny Child 4]

So, some yes and some no. It begs a bigger question - do you think he has been a good husband to you?

If so, why not share your income with him for your family?

It's entirely different matter if he is blowing your money on the drugs / gambling and boozes.

But if he is using your money for supporting your family with him, what seems to be the problems?

The problem was that he wanted to invest our money (my and his) in name of his father back in India. Also, it was having best of both the cultures (indian and American).

I did cooking, cleaning, living with his parents, doing everything for them and taking care of house (the indian way) and when it came to money matters it never felt like "our" since he wanted to have his fathers involvement all the time. Please note, father has elder son who is not doing good financially and would also be a stakeholder in this kind of arrangement technically.

All of this set up resulted in miscommunication and mistrust!

[Merrytooth 5,748]

I suspect OP's husband is of Indian Heritage, hence the pressure on girl's family to pay him money (Indian dowry?).

Anyway,

whether to file ROC jointly or with divorce waiver, one STILL has to show good faith/ bona fide marriage.

AND USCIS places huge emphasis on Financially Co-mingled evidence.

BONAFIDE EVIDENCE Example list for ROC

1. Evidence of Joint Ownership of Assets and Shared Financial Responsibility

• Joint Federal / State Tax transcripts
• Joint bank account statements
• Proof of joint credit card use
• Mortgage loan contract or lease contract with both partners’ names in it
• Power of Attorney
• Wills
• Utility / Cable TV / Cell phone / Pets visit / Membership / Joint purchase bills
• Life insurance policy showing spouse as beneficiary
• Health insurance / Dental / Medical Bills
• Car insurance
• 401(K) account information showing spouse as beneficiary

2. Photographic Evidence

• Photos of you two together
• Photos of you two with family (such as wedding, parties, kids’ graduation, etc.)
• Photos of you two in various locations and times

3. Other Evidence in Support of Bona Fide Marriage

• Birth certificates of any children born to you together
• Sworn affidavits of friends and/or family
• Letters/cards from friends and/or family
• Vacation / honeymoon photos / Boarding Passes showing both of you travelling together
• Hotel receipts with both your names
• Other Misc receipts with both partners’ names in shipping/billing address
• Joint Fishing or Hunting license
• List spouse as each other emergency contact from employers

[Merrytooth 5,748]

The problem was that he wanted to invest our money (my and his) in name of his father back in India. Also, it was having best of both the cultures (indian and American).

I did cooking, cleaning, living with his parents, doing everything for them and taking care of house (the indian way) and when it came to money matters it never felt like "our" since he wanted to have his fathers involvement all the time. Please note, father has elder son who is not doing good financially and would also be a stakeholder in this kind of arrangement technically.

All of this set up resulted in miscommunication and mistrust!

OP, if you filed the taxes jointly, you should be able to request a copy of tax transcripts here:

https://www.irs.gov/Individuals/Get-Transcript

By the way, learn to take care of yourself financially. Don't end up with no money and get kick out of house like trash!

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

Let me be the devil's advocate...

Is it possible that OP's husband just want her to help with the bills or even the expenses he incurred to bring her here?

In certain cultures, the man is supposed to be the breadwinner, so when the woman migrate to the USA where there is an expectation of sharing financial responsibilities in the household, there's a strong opposition from the foreign spouse.

I have heard far too many of these stories where the wife keeps or hides all her money and invest in properties back home while the husband is expected to pay all the bills.

I don't condone any mistreatment or harassment from anyone but if OP wants to save her marriage and they only problem is about giving some of her money to support the household then y'all need to deal with it at the counseling.

If any part of my statement above is true, then he may not be such a terrible person.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

I suspect OP's husband is of Indian Heritage, hence the pressure on girl's family to pay him money (Indian dowry?).

Anyway,

whether to file ROC jointly or with divorce waiver, one STILL has to show good faith/ bona fide marriage.

AND USCIS places huge emphasis on Financially Co-mingled evidence.

^^ THIS !

Without some co mingled financial evidence you will have a hard road ahead.

Joint bank accounts, savings accounts, car titles and insurance, loans, health insurance, listing each other as beneficiary

in life insurance policies, work benefits, wills, power of attorney, mortgage or lease.......all important financial co mingling, just taxes

is not enough ! They also want to see joint bank accounts and it's activity on those accounts from marriage on.

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

You said you want to save your marriage...really, REALLY? Did you envision to have a scumbag like him by your side as a husband and a father for your kids in the future?You have a problem bigger than your GC my dear...DIVORCE him and move on

Well, looks like OP doesn't see it that way. Her priority is the GC

[jam2016 10]

The problem was that he wanted to invest our money (my and his) in name of his father back in India. Also, it was having best of both the cultures (indian and American).

I did cooking, cleaning, living with his parents, doing everything for them and taking care of house (the indian way) and when it came to money matters it never felt like "our" since he wanted to have his fathers involvement all the time. Please note, father has elder son who is not doing good financially and would also be a stakeholder in this kind of arrangement technically.

All of this set up resulted in miscommunication and mistrust!

Money matters are always ugly!

So, the very fair question to ask him is that would he do all same things he asked of you if he is in your shoes?

Even with the cultural influences, I guess it's about the fairness to the each of you.

You both need a joint account with some contribution from each party on monthly basics. From that joint account, let him invest / use a portion of it to his family interest and your family interest equally.

You'll also need your own account where he or his family can't touch.

You at least need all the joint statements and joint tax returns for ROC.

[SennaBrigante 92]

There is such a thing as financial abuse. http://nnedv.org/resources/ejresources/about-financial-abuse.html

[Destiny Child 4]

Money matters are always ugly!

So, the very fair question to ask him is that would he do all same things he asked of you if he is in your shoes?

Even with the cultural influences, I guess it's about the fairness to the each of you.

You both need a joint account with some contribution from each party on monthly basics. From that joint account, let him invest / use a portion of it to his family interest and your family interest equally.

You'll also need your own account where he or his family can't touch.

You at least need all the joint statements and joint tax returns for ROC.

I already agreed to this arrangement long back. Surrendered to his request to avoid having joint account and give him expenses in cash.

But after doing that he says I am doing it but very transactional (not doing it genuinely) and that is why he wants divorce now.

I even gave him a blank check to show him that I am trying to do it genuinely. Its all the mistrust that he has developed in his head!

Only god can help me here. Thanks Jam for all your inputs! God bless you

[keenaa 0]

Hi,

Sorry for what you are going through...

options:

(a) If you stay married, than you have remove conditions together.

(b) file for divorce, remove conditions by yourself using VAWA.(Violence Against Woman Act). If you are treated bad than I would file report with Police and move on.

I understand staying married, anyone won't look down on you or your family. Look for yourself and decide what is right for you.

Cheers

Hello All

I am an indian who got married to American citizen and came to USA on CR1 visa in Aug 2014.

Husband has been forcing me and my family to pay him money and have his name added to my salary accounts and make other financial investment since then.

As I did not give in to his demands, he is not willing to apply jointly for removal of my conditions on CR1 visa (marriage based green card).

Can somebody please help me on this?

1. Can I file for waiver without applying for divorce?

2. Can my company apply for H1b visa and get me stay in USA on H1 visa?

3. Is there any other way to save GC?

Thank you for any inputs!

God bless you.