Divorce after 2 years of marriage to Philippine wife

[caliliving 606]

It seems as though everyone has given him some solid advice. However, it seems as though he hasn't been back on since asking the question??

[Darnell 8,478]

perhaps he was busy filing the divorce petition, and getting a restraining order against her (common in divorce cases) and the sherrifs showed up to witness the evacuation. (hers) .

That's my hope, anyway.

[going2PH 2]

I am sorry i was not in the forum long time. Thank you all for your kind truthful advice. I am not spineless but caring about my family.

I was divorced once and it hurts me to hurt my kids. Her philippines friends say to me she is not good wife and tellme that.

I am getting close to making a choice. Thank you my friends. It is all true. my wife is selfish and hates men in side . she cant trust them because of what her father did to her mother. I just want her home taking care of our daugter until she is in school then she can work during day all she wants.

just want to come home to wife . not nobody

i need love tooo. thank you my friends. I will write more later on what happens this year. God bless you.

[Unidentified 2,930]

I am sorry i was not in the forum long time. Thank you all for your kind truthful advice. I am not spineless but caring about my family.

I was divorced once and it hurts me to hurt my kids. Her philippines friends say to me she is not good wife and tellme that.

I am getting close to making a choice. Thank you my friends. It is all true. my wife is selfish and hates men in side . she cant trust them because of what her father did to her mother. I just want her home taking care of our daugter until she is in school then she can work during day all she wants.

just want to come home to wife . not nobody

i need love tooo. thank you my friends. I will write more later on what happens this year. God bless you.

Sounds like the two of you did not talk about expectations and what you want to do in life before you two got married. It's 2016, not a lot of women want to stay home all day. They want to work and it has nothing to do with not loving you. Yes, this woman is not in love with you. But don't expect all women to be stay-at-home moms.

[POA 178]

Sounds like the two of you did not talk about expectations and what you want to do in life before you two got married. It's 2016, not a lot of women want to stay home all day. They want to work and it has nothing to do with not loving you. Yes, this woman is not in love with you. But don't expect all women to be stay-at-home moms.

You got it!

[Pitaya 2,577]

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[going2PH 2]

we did talk and she agreed until my Daughter was 5 and in school. that is the hard part. i ask her if she can stay home until our dauther was in school and then she can work during the day so at nite we can be home as a family. too many couples do shift work and never see each other and the family dies. she agreed but now changed her mind...

[going2PH 2]

how can i win custody of my daughter? anyone have ideas thank you for your help.

[Alaska2012 462]

Well being new in a country it's hard to get to know new people and by being a stay at home mom makes it even harder. When you work at least you get to interact with other adults. Yeah maybe she agreed to stay home but maybe reality caught up with her. Maybe she's just downright depressed, lonely or homesick? Moving to a new country leaving everything you know and love behind isn't easy.

[jam2016 10]

Well being new in a country it's hard to get to know new people and by being a stay at home mom makes it even harder. When you work at least you get to interact with other adults. Yeah maybe she agreed to stay home but maybe reality caught up with her. Maybe she's just downright depressed, lonely or homesick? Moving to a new country leaving everything you know and love behind isn't easy.

This I can understand but from the OP 1st post, it seems to me that he is married to his wife whole family and not just with her.

[going2PH 2]

she has tons of philippines friends here maybe 30 total. oncce you find 1 philippine lady they all know each other. so friends is not the issue.

she just has no soft spot for me in her heart. l have had women love me and she shows no sign but she loves me but is not in love with me if you know what i mean big difference.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

we did talk and she agreed until my Daughter was 5 and in school. that is the hard part. i ask her if she can stay home until our dauther was in school and then she can work during the day so at nite we can be home as a family. too many couples do shift work and never see each other and the family dies. she agreed but now changed her mind...

Honestly, I am in your camp here. You agree ahead of time that this is how you wanted to raise children and honestly, it is what is best for them. Regardless of what other people tell you, lots of women love staying home with kids and want that quality time with their children, but just many times can't afford it. Your wife has a right to make her own decisions, but if she is working, that money should be going into your household expenses, not just on her family's, especially given that it seems to really be a choice for her to work rather than a necessity.

I also don't know what kind of superhero your wife is, but I couldn't pull a nightshift and effectively watch children during the day. Heck, my little guy is 8 months old and the longest I've been away from him is 4 hours and that was just last week! There is not a way in hell my husband would stay with me if I worked opposite shifts to him, away from the kids, just to send money to another country rather than pay our bills. It is really unacceptable and don't let anyone let you think otherwise.

[going2PH 2]

thank you for your advice sweden! appreciate you.

[Unlockable 7,315]

how can i win custody of my daughter? anyone have ideas thank you for your help.

I actually think you would have a case for gaining primary custody of your daughter. My suggestion would be to focus on what's best for your daughter than to try to convince someone to do something they are not willing to do.

Consult a family attorney who specializes in custody cases.

Good luck to you.

[going2PH 2]

NuestraUnion

thank you i will try. i feel it is best for her because i am good when it comes to protecting her. my wife has rages of fits a lot and can neglect my daughter. thank yo so much.