A question for people who are marrying filipinos

[K and H 7]

Iam Tunisian and i wanna ask a question that looks maybe stupid but i always keep asking myself about why americans marry girls from philipines and it is always a female never a male.Is marriage always based on falling in love with someone? I said maybe the countries are close to each other and then i found out that they are really far.Can someone from philipines or an american married to will marry a philipinos explain the reason of this common relation.I dont have any problem with anyone for their decisions and hope no one feel offended about what iam saying,it is just my thinking.Thanks

[Darnell 8,478]

man, if'n i could find a Tunisian lass, I'd JUMP! My major malfunction seems to be,

that

they are surrounded by brothers, uncles, male cousins

and

I have huge problems piercing that veil.

GRRR !

Edited January 14, 2016 by Darnell

[K and H 7]

In the Tunisian culture, we have something called 'respect' for women. Muslims don't talk about 'jumping' at the sight of one, like she is an object. This is why our women choose not to marry foreigners. All disrespect and no class or honor.

[Darnell 8,478]

i'm sure there's a problem in verbiage and application of verbiage.

But I digress.

[TBoneTX 45,288]

Possible factors to support your observation:

1. Much older American men have the opportunity to marry far younger Filipinas.

2. Some Filipinas seem to look forward to sending money from the U.S. to support their families.

3. The Manila embassy seems to issue K-1/CR-1 visas freely, unlike in most third-world countries.

4. In recent years, the USCIS has expedited the processing of Philippines-related petitions.

Others can expand on (or refute) the ideas suggested above.

In regard to your other question, the decision to marry can be based on factors besides love: a financial focus (how well can the potential husband support the potential wife), the respect offered by the potential mate, and other considerations. This leads to deeper discussions of relationship psychology that might or might not depend on cultural factors. If I had to pick the most fundamental characteristics for forming lasting relationships, they would be availability and readiness.

The sad aspect is that we seem to get far more information on how to buy a car, a laundry machine, or a refrigerator than we do on how to select a mate. There's great wisdom in the old saying "Marry in haste, repent in leisure."

Edited January 14, 2016 by TBoneTX

[Hank_ 9,174]

Possible factors to support your observation:

1. Much older American men have the opportunity to marry far younger Filipinas.

2. Some Filipinas seem to look forward to sending money from the U.S. to support their families.

3. The Manila embassy seems to issue K-1/CR-1 visas freely, unlike in most third-world countries.

4. In recent years, the USCIS has expedited the processing of Philippines-related petitions.

Others can expand on (or refute) the ideas suggested above.

In regard to your other question, the decision to marry can be based on factors besides love: a financial focus (how well can the potential husband support the potential wife), the respect offered by the potential mate, and other considerations. This leads to deeper discussions of relationship psychology that might or might not depend on cultural factors. If I had to pick the most fundamental characteristics for forming lasting relationships, they would be availability and readiness.

The sad aspect is that we seem to get far more information on how to buy a car, a laundry machine, or a refrigerator than we do on how to select a mate. There's great wisdom in the old saying "Marry in haste, repent in leisure."

all your points could just as easily apply to many other countries.... based on your opinion and not fact - obviously.

[DJ6372 111]

In the Tunisian culture, we have something called 'respect' for women. Muslims don't talk about 'jumping' at the sight of one, like she is an object. This is why our women choose not to marry foreigners. All disrespect and no class or honor.

This statement shows total disrespect for ALL other cultures and religions

Your intial question was disrespectful to the Phillipino culture

Have a happy life

I will ask the mods to close this

[shipm662 17]

Here are some basic reasons for the large number of couples.

1. Shared language. English is an official language of the Philippines.

2. Shared religion: Catholicism.

3. The Philippines used to be colony of the US.

4. Large US military bases used to be there. Most military personnel are male.

5. Exchange rate.

Lots of other reasons, but just wanted to give you a few facts.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

Here are some basic reasons for the large number of couples.

1. Shared language. English is an official language of the Philippines.

2. Shared religion: Catholicism.

3. The Philippines used to be colony of the US.

4. Large US military bases used to be there. Most military personnel are male.

5. Exchange rate.

Lots of other reasons, but just wanted to give you a few facts.

And current miss universe

[Ban Hammer 13,335]

Here are some basic reasons for the large number of couples.

1. Shared language. English is an official language of the Philippines.

2. Shared religion: Catholicism.

3. The Philippines used to be colony of the US.

4. Large US military bases used to be there. Most military personnel are male.

5. Exchange rate.

Lots of other reasons, but just wanted to give you a few facts.

it used to be a colony of spain....

[Merrytooth 5,748]

It is economics.

Women generally marry up, not marry down.

[GandD 5,966]

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[shipm662 17]

Charles,

Yes it was a colony of Spain which was lost to the US in 1898.

[Jpheels22 9]

I don't know about anybody else but I married my Filipino wife because I love her! I never thought about ease of visas or expediting a visa or if the embassy was easier in one country or another. I really was impressed with the culture of the Philippines and how family is so important there and the feminine qualities that you find in Filipinas that is missing in a lot of American women now. Me and my wife have a great relationship and life together and I couldn't be happier. Since the OP asked the question why Americans marry girls from the Philippines then I ask why do Americans marry males or females from Tunisia? That question could be asked of all of us regarding countries of our significant others. I think each one of us would have a unique answer specific to their lives but one common answer no matter what country is that this is the person you love so really it doesn't matter what country or part of the world they are from.

[DJ6372 111]

I don't know about anybody else but I married my Filipino wife because I love her! I never thought about ease of visas or expediting a visa or if the embassy was easier in one country or another. I really was impressed with the culture of the Philippines and how family is so important there and the feminine qualities that you find in Filipinas that is missing in a lot of American women now. Me and my wife have a great relationship and life together and I couldn't be happier. Since the OP asked the question why Americans marry girls from the Philippines then I ask why do Americans marry males or females from Tunisia? That question could be asked of all of us regarding countries of our significant others. I think each one of us would have a unique answer specific to their lives but one common answer no matter what country is that this is the person you love so really it doesn't matter what country or part of the world they are from.

Great post