RFE response may be nearly NC-17 :( What to do?

[TheGunas 0]

My fiance and I received a RFE asking for more information as to how we met and how the relationship was established.

We met on an anonymous advice message board. We flirted for a year before ever taking it off the board.

The problem is with the email proof of our early communications: they are saucy.

Not all of them are baudy but many of them are. We were still largely anonymous at that point, bold, and playful.

Well now...well, they're just embarrassing!

Anyway, my question is: Should I black out the portions of the emails that are NC17? Or leave the sentences in?

With many of the emails, I may have to blacken out as much as 50% of it. My concern is it will make them wonder what we're hiding.

Thoughts??

Nothing is pornographic--just ranging from highly suggestive to semi-explicit.

Gah

[JRF 117]

If the posts were anonymous, how could you establish you were you, and your fiancé to be was your fiancé to be (tortured syntax, sorry)?

Why not submit with the reductions, and if they really want to know what it was that was redacted (I am sure anyone could deduce), let them ask?

Best of luck!

Edited January 9, 2016 by JRF

[TheGunas 0]

Hi JRF,

Thanks for responding.

We eventually told each other our names in private messages and exchange email addresses.

We will highlight those parts in our messages.

I can establish my username was me because in my private album on the site are pictures of me.
People are anonymous on the open forum but strike up friendships sometimes and share their real names and photos behind the scenes.

I appreciate your input!

Edited January 9, 2016 by TheGunas

[yuna628 9,676]

Could you give the wording of the RFE perhaps? It's asking the circumstances of how you met.. which could also imply how you physically met within 2 years. I'm not sure what you detailed when you sent in the application regarding how you first came into contact and then how you met in person. For instance did you say we first were introduced online and began messaging etc.. and then go on to detail how you first came into physical meeting with each other? What evidence did you supply them to begin with?

[Anh map 2,098]

Send a selection of emails that cover the "beginning" of the relationship. Choose ones that aren't so explicit. They have read and seen most everything. You want to satisfy the RFE, not cause additional delay for not sending enough.

[Darnell 8,478]

whoa - hang on a mo

they are more interested in who/where/when

and not 'the what' ...

bear that in mind as yer writing yer letter of attestation answering this RFE.

[Nich-Nick 3,354]

I'm with Yuna. They want to know the circumstances, website, of how you became acquainted so they know it was not a marriage broker website. "we became acquainted in the fall of 2013 on the website www.xxxxxxx which is for collectors of baseball cards. We flirted back and forth until we eventually exchanged emails. Our first meeting in person was when John flew to England June 18-25, 2014 to meet Mary."

Did you write something like that in your original submission? They need to know you didn't pay for services to a website to find an American husband/wife. If you just said "we met on the Internet" they need more specifics because of IMBRA laws.

Edited January 9, 2016 by Nich-Nick

[TheGunas 0]

Hi everyone,

Thanks for your replies.

Some things came up and this is the first I've returned to the thread.

But I wanted to let everyone know I appreciate the responses.

Nich-Nik--We hired a lawyer who bragged about doing tons of these K1 visas.

That should have been our first red flag.

We wrote very little about how we met and that vagueness set off an alarm on their end.

Had we explained the KIND of website ours was--as you did above--we wouldn't have received a RFE.

Anyway, yes, they were most concerned that it was an IMB.

Our response to the RFE is in the mail and we're hoping for an easy approval.

Darnell--Just to be safe, we addressed a bit of everything (who, what, when) including the where.

They mistakenly read "dating website" when we wrote "internet website called (.....)"

It wasn't a difficult thing to address in the end.

We're feeling confident it will all be okay.

Ahn map--I agree it doesn't pay to be too conservative in what we send in. I rather err on the side of too much, than not enough.

That's our original mistake.

Thanks for your advice.

Yuna--Hi Yuna, yes, their question lay more with the kind of website we met on--in other words, if it was a International Marriage Broker. The name of the website lends itself to that kind of conclusion so I don't really blame them. I blame the lawyer we hired for that part of the process. They felt it was fine to submit a single sentence about the place we met and not any other details except the number of times we met afterwards.

Wish I had found VisaJourney sooner!