Help me please, how can i be with my fiancee?

[Georgia16 2,858]

My head is spinning. Okay what to say. Can it be that because of his work back then, he thought it was better to make sure the money would be made to his ex for their daughter? Because he was an over the road truck driver driving through states all of the time, 80 hours a week? That it would be better to automatically pay for his daughter. How sure is the chance that it is because he is behind on child support? And if he is disabled now for 8 years, he could never have been behind that much, or it would have been paid off already, does not make sense right now. Spouse, okay that means married. Well i am going to America if everything goes well this coming year, and depending on how long i can stay away, it will be around 1 or 2 months. What can i do in the time i am there? Is is wise to get married spontaneously? Not the first day i get married, but somewhere in between the 1 and second month i am there?

Then at least the asset problem would be 3 times instead of 5 years. And if we have to wait until his daughter is 19 then i am willing to wait. I will look for jobs in the meantime that want to sponsor me. Another thing. I want to get to know his ex wife. Why? Because it is better for all of us. Say that he is behind on child support, i do not think so, but say that he is. After i would be with him, we can decide as a couple to pay of that debt if there is a debt. That should be much easier then to have a little amount being drawn from his account. His daughter turns 17 in january, so i will keep on being busy and hope time will fly. Say that i have a talk with his mother when i am there, and i explain all about sponsoring, she has to count a family of 4 then? She has two sons living at home with her. One is 23 and the other is 25. Oh wow, i really do not know what to think now or what to do. I get so much info.

Are there people in here that are on facebook too? I have problem with loading this page a lot, and i am on facebook to find solution, jobs etc. Is there anybody who knows a lot and who wants to befriend me on facebook?

You can get married but you can't stay there you have to go home.

It can't really see a company sponsor you for work visa since you have to have to be able to do something an american can't do.

You can look for sponsor while you are there, one person on vj got a local business man to sponsor. You just have to try.

My head is spinning. Okay what to say. Can it be that because of his work back then, he thought it was better to make sure the money would be made to his ex for their daughter? Because he was an over the road truck driver driving through states all of the time, 80 hours a week? That it would be better to automatically pay for his daughter. How sure is the chance that it is because he is behind on child support? And if he is disabled now for 8 years, he could never have been behind that much, or it would have been paid off already, does not make sense right now. Spouse, okay that means married. Well i am going to America if everything goes well this coming year, and depending on how long i can stay away, it will be around 1 or 2 months. What can i do in the time i am there? Is is wise to get married spontaneously? Not the first day i get married, but somewhere in between the 1 and second month i am there?

Then at least the asset problem would be 3 times instead of 5 years. And if we have to wait until his daughter is 19 then i am willing to wait. I will look for jobs in the meantime that want to sponsor me. Another thing. I want to get to know his ex wife. Why? Because it is better for all of us. Say that he is behind on child support, i do not think so, but say that he is. After i would be with him, we can decide as a couple to pay of that debt if there is a debt. That should be much easier then to have a little amount being drawn from his account. His daughter turns 17 in january, so i will keep on being busy and hope time will fly. Say that i have a talk with his mother when i am there, and i explain all about sponsoring, she has to count a family of 4 then? She has two sons living at home with her. One is 23 and the other is 25. Oh wow, i really do not know what to think now or what to do. I get so much info.

Are there people in here that are on facebook too? I have problem with loading this page a lot, and i am on facebook to find solution, jobs etc. Is there anybody who knows a lot and who wants to befriend me on facebook?

You can get married but you can't stay there you have to go home.

It can't really see a company sponsor you for work visa since you have to have to be able to do something an american can't do.

You can look for sponsor while you are there, one person on vj got a local business man to sponsor. You just have to try.

[mjgf77 0]

Oh i forgot to answer his passport question. He can have a passport, he does not have one, because he can't travel. If he wants to he can get one, no problem

When i am there, i am going to look everywhere for work. Who knows i get lucky. It is always good to have a great mindset, and better for workplaces to see who they are dealing with.

[mjgf77 0]

Can i bother you all, because i do not want to be a problem. Say if his mum wants to sponsor us, if i talk to her again, will we have to count a family of 4 on 100% or 125% of poverty, or do we count her 2 adult sons to the mix too, they are 23 an 25

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

I've spent years working with special need children, their divorced parents, and child support issues. I am speaking from experience. Never has a parent agree to terminate child support before the age when the state mandates the end of child support for a special needs child. Why? Because the state would never grant SSDI/SSI when there is another person who would legally required to provide support.

"Hey my dad and mom agreed to end child support early, so Indiana give me money." Not going to fly.

Read what the OP wrote.

States don't pay SSDS/SSI. The federal government does.

[mjgf77 0]

I gave you little information.I did not just find info now, i have been for at least a year now. You have a right to your opinion. I know finance is important. I can tell you that it is alright to give your opinion, but you do not have to be so blunt about it. I can tell you from my experience i know what poverty is, if there is a person who knows what it is, to live in poverty, what hunger feels like, what having no home feels like etc then it is me. We had to live on 400$ per month with 8 people! I know the importance of having money to pay rent, bills etc. I have a brain and i am not looking for a quick solution. I am asking for the possibilities. And like you can not pay anything with love, you are right. But only having money does not let you keep a relationship either. Don't be one of those people to judge a book by it's cover, and do not be the person that judges that same book by it's cover. or that same book based on it's first page, and with that i mean the info you know about me, from what i said in here. I know quite well how the world works.

[tonyb919 107]

I gave you little information.I did not just find info now, i have been for at least a year now. You have a right to your opinion. I know finance is important. I can tell you that it is alright to give your opinion, but you do not have to be so blunt about it. I can tell you from my experience i know what poverty is, if there is a person who knows what it is, to live in poverty, what hunger feels like, what having no home feels like etc then it is me. We had to live on 400$ per month with 8 people! I know the importance of having money to pay rent, bills etc. I have a brain and i am not looking for a quick solution. I am asking for the possibilities. And like you can not pay anything with love, you are right. But only having money does not let you keep a relationship either. Don't be one of those people to judge a book by it's cover, and do not be the person that judges that same book by it's cover. or that same book based on it's first page, and with that i mean the info you know about me, from what i said in here. I know quite well how the world works.

Your absolutely right!

GOOD LUCK IN YOUR JOURNEY

[Ash.1101 1,756]

I think one of the big problems is that you're going to have interviews with people who are going to flat out judge you.

If you come in on a K1 visa, you'll have to prove finances not once, but twice. The first at the k1 interview, and the second at the AOS interview. You will be judged both on your fiances financial ability to support you and the legitimacy of your relationship.

Proof doesn't mean what you feel in your heart, it's what you can put on paper.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

My head is spinning. Okay what to say. Can it be that because of his work back then, he thought it was better to make sure the money would be made to his ex for their daughter? Because he was an over the road truck driver driving through states all of the time, 80 hours a week? That it would be better to automatically pay for his daughter. How sure is the chance that it is because he is behind on child support? And if he is disabled now for 8 years, he could never have been behind that much, or it would have been paid off already, does not make sense right now. Spouse, okay that means married. Well i am going to America if everything goes well this coming year, and depending on how long i can stay away, it will be around 1 or 2 months. What can i do in the time i am there? Is is wise to get married spontaneously? Not the first day i get married, but somewhere in between the 1 and second month i am there?

Then at least the asset problem would be 3 times instead of 5 years. And if we have to wait until his daughter is 19 then i am willing to wait. I will look for jobs in the meantime that want to sponsor me. Another thing. I want to get to know his ex wife. Why? Because it is better for all of us. Say that he is behind on child support, i do not think so, but say that he is. After i would be with him, we can decide as a couple to pay of that debt if there is a debt. That should be much easier then to have a little amount being drawn from his account. His daughter turns 17 in january, so i will keep on being busy and hope time will fly. Say that i have a talk with his mother when i am there, and i explain all about sponsoring, she has to count a family of 4 then? She has two sons living at home with her. One is 23 and the other is 25. Oh wow, i really do not know what to think now or what to do. I get so much info.

Are there people in here that are on facebook too? I have problem with loading this page a lot, and i am on facebook to find solution, jobs etc. Is there anybody who knows a lot and who wants to befriend me on facebook?

When people in the US apply for disability, it generally takes a good bit of time to get it. Two years or longer is not uncommon. During that time they usually are not working and end up on state Medicaid rolls, etc. If your fiance was not behind on his child support prior to becoming disabled, going through the disability process would have been an excellent time for the default to have begun.

Usually SSDI is only garnished if the delinquency is substantial. It's also pretty much the only debt that can be garnished from the benefit. It's considered a very serious matter. That's why people who have large child support arrearages cannot get passports.

You should carefully consider whether you want to give up your life in your home country, and come into such a situation. Dealing with the baggage of someone else's past marriages is never easy. It will be doubly difficult for an immigrant.

Regarding supplementing income with savings - it doesn't matter if you are a fiance or married. The amount needed to meet shortfall is three times the shortfall - not five.

Regarding your fiance's mother becoming your sponsor - it is doubtful that her grown sons are her dependents as defined by the IRS. If she is not claiming them on her income tax return, then they would not count in household size.

Edited November 14, 2015 by Rebecca Jo

[mjgf77 0]

I understand that. Me as immigrant can take money with me too that i can show in a bankaccount. I can show our relationship is legit, i got tons of evidence, so the love part is safe. I am asking in here how it works if i add money to the mix. That when he does not meet the financial requirement how much i need to show in $'ers. I am asking questions because i want to be informed correctly. I think i am nit the only one who has been in this kind of situation. And i think i am nit the only one who got to America with the help of a sponsor. And having a sponsor does not mean people can not make it afterwards. So my question is, if i have to wait until his daughter is 19 then it is fine. The question is, will he meet the requirement then, and how much money is wise for me to have by that time?

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

I understand that. Me as immigrant can take money with me too that i can show in a bankaccount. I can show our relationship is legit, i got tons of evidence, so the love part is safe. I am asking in here how it works if i add money to the mix. That when he does not meet the financial requirement how much i need to show in $'ers. I am asking questions because i want to be informed correctly. I think i am nit the only one who has been in this kind of situation. And i think i am nit the only one who got to America with the help of a sponsor. And having a sponsor does not mean people can not make it afterwards. So my question is, if i have to wait until his daughter is 19 then it is fine. The question is, will he meet the requirement then, and how much money is wise for me to have by that time?

19 may have nothing to do with it.

I have known people who are still paying child support for children that are in their 30's.

If your fiance owes a sum of back support substantial enough to get his SSDI garnished..........well it's hard to tell how old his daughter will be before the back support drops off.

[mjgf77 0]

that is the problem. I never said he is behind on his child support or that he is on medicaid. It can be that his ex and him arranged this that the money for his daughter is deducted and send to the mother because he was always from home and only came home one weekend per month. His ssdi was arranged through court. He tried to hold his employer accountable for his accident as they were, and the lawyer he had did not do such a great job and he got a couple of thousand dollars from that settlement. I have considerd everything and went through it and i am sure i want to do this. I just want to be prepared. If i can show i have the 3 times of the amount he is missing than it is fine too right?

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

You never said he was behind on his child support.

The things you are telling us about his income indicates he likely is.

It is possible that his child support is being deducted from his bank account, and not from his SSDI. It would be better for you if that is the case.

It is also possible that the Social Security Administration is docking his SSDI before they give it to him. If that is the truth, then the income he can show for sponsoring you is obviously far lower.

Without the answer, without knowing which situation is the truth, then there is no answer for the amount you must have in savings.

[Ash.1101 1,756]

Unless you can continue to make that money, you may not be able to use your own money to help out.

At my fiances interview, he was asked how he was going to support himself before he got his work authorization, he went to show the Consualte Officer his savings of 17000 CAD (Roughly 13000 USD), in which the officer told him that he didn't need to see that as proof. Unless you have enough to essentially sponsor yourself, which you clearly don't, they most likely will not take your income into consideration. We could easily live off 13000 for the 90 days it takes work authorization to go through, but that doesn't matter. It's not -his- money that should be supporting him.

You're basically playing with luck at the point where you're hoping they'll take your income into consideration as you're not a USC, general rule of thumb is that it's not YOUR job to support yourself while you're trying to immigrate here.



Generally if child support is taken out of the check, that means there is a court order that allows for it to be there. It's not just a simple agreement or a monthly withdrawl from the bank account. A third party that ISN'T your fiance or your fiances ex has the authority to remove the money before it even hits the bank. That means you're in court order territory and it's more complicated than a simple agreement.

My ex and I have a child support agreement, he pays me once a month by giving me a money order, he could also do auto payments that would send me the payments from his bank to me. If he stopped paying, I would go through the general attorneys office and set up what your fiance currently has in order.



First, you need to find out if the child support is taken out BEFORE it hits the bank or if it comes out of the bank once his paycheck is in the bank. If it comes out BEFORE it hits the bank, it's most likely a garnishment.

Edited November 15, 2015 by Ash.1101

[tonyb919 107]

Edited November 15, 2015 by tonyb919

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Unless you can continue to make that money, you may not be able to use your own money to help out.

At my fiances interview, he was asked how he was going to support himself before he got his work authorization, he went to show the Consualte Officer his savings of 17000 CAD (Roughly 13000 USD), in which the officer told him that he didn't need to see that as proof. Unless you have enough to essentially sponsor yourself, which you clearly don't, they most likely will not take your income into consideration. We could easily live off 13000 for the 90 days it takes work authorization to go through, but that doesn't matter. It's not -his- money that should be supporting him.

You're basically playing with luck at the point where you're hoping they'll take your income into consideration as you're not a USC, general rule of thumb is that it's not YOUR job to support yourself while you're trying to immigrate here.

Generally if child support is taken out of the check, that means there is a court order that allows for it to be there. It's not just a simple agreement or a monthly withdrawl from the bank account. A third party that ISN'T your fiance or your fiances ex has the authority to remove the money before it even hits the bank. That means you're in court order territory and it's more complicated than a simple agreement.

My ex and I have a child support agreement, he pays me once a month by giving me a money order, he could also do auto payments that would send me the payments from his bank to me. If he stopped paying, I would go through the general attorneys office and set up what your fiance currently has in order.

Without being rude, once again that is consulate specific as to whether or not an immigrant can 'self sponsor'. It is not uncommon for conoffs adjudicating in first world countries to be far less rigid about the I134 than they are in - say - the Philippines.

We don't get a lot of evidence for the consulate in the OP's country. But it's not like people are begging to get out of there to come to the US.

With some savings held mutually by her and her fiance, they would probably stand a good chance of passing the financials.