Separation desparation

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I read alot of posts about how stressed out people are, how the wait and separation is killing them, and how they can't stand to be apart. I'm not like that, not because I don't love and miss my hubby, but, I'm just not that emotional or needy (no offense intended to those who are).

Any more taking the wait in stride, or am I an oddball (as I've been told frequently)?

Guess you're the odd ball. I would miss my hubby so much! I miss him when he is at work! We are tired at the heart. Perhaps our love is more than yours, who knows. I don't see it as being needy (but if it is per the psych docs, then I am!!!!!) I see us as being so into each other yet allowing each other space.

chi

There's no contest going on about levels of love or missing your honey, but you do raise an interesting point. Some associate love with pain. The more pain you feel, the more "in love" you are. So, since I feel less pain, you automatically assume I'm less in love. Since you feel more pain, your love must be purer, stronger, more real.

It's a silly correlation, but the stuff of popular romance. I've been thinking of starting a thread, maybe a poll, about people's perceptions about the links between love and pain. Considering the success of this thread in raising ire while boosting my posting numbers, that one should continue the pace. Thanks for your input!

Edited March 4, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[MichelleandCraig 1]

Do one on the correlation between age and level of maturity while you're at it too, Ms. worried-about-her-post-count, would you pretty please?

*runs off again to snuggle with honey cause we're both feeling like ####### today...OH NO..maybe it's the av...maybe we're...dyingggggggggggggggg*

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Lighten up, sis! The OT is for fun! Go with the flow!

Cya later!

[limah 1]

Well at first, I was trippin a little bit when I came home from our wedding. I was missing the companionship more then the "physical" aspect of our relationship. I was back to an empty house, the phone, computer and web cam. I was sick about it. Literally sick I wasn't eating, my sleep was all off and not just because of desynchronization. But I came to my senses and realized that theres nothing I can do about it. My husband will be here when he gets here.

Of course I miss him and love him. More today than I did 1 year ago. Especially his case has been returned and I realized that we would be apart even longer. I just go on with my day, whatever it involves. I do what I do, wake up and talk to him in our usual times.

I appreciate the things I once dreaded... the phone, computer and web cam.......

Limah

Edited March 4, 2007 by limah

[babybunny 2]

I read alot of posts about how stressed out people are, how the wait and separation is killing them, and how they can't stand to be apart. I'm not like that, not because I don't love and miss my hubby, but, I'm just not that emotional or needy (no offense intended to those who are).

Any more taking the wait in stride, or am I an oddball (as I've been told frequently)?

Shut up.- dayum insensitive heifeah!!you try going through AP for 2 years and 2 months dayum it. til you walk in my shoes. its killing me I cant have My husband!

what you do sit up all dayum day dreaming up things to pizz off people on VJ?

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

First LisaD with the flying monkey, now here comes Shonnie blazin' with heffa !!!!

My goodness I've been distracted from OT wayyyyyyyyyy too long.....

DWRCL

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I'm aware of your stuation, shonnie, but I didn't start this thread for people like you. Some of us aren't like you or others who are emotionally overwrought. We need a space to share too. That's what this is for. Those who this thread isn't for come at their own peril. Those who just wanna make fun of others, take it away!

Take care!

Edited March 4, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[chiquita 0]

I read alot of posts about how stressed out people are, how the wait and separation is killing them, and how they can't stand to be apart. I'm not like that, not because I don't love and miss my hubby, but, I'm just not that emotional or needy (no offense intended to those who are).

Any more taking the wait in stride, or am I an oddball (as I've been told frequently)?

Guess you're the odd ball. I would miss my hubby so much! I miss him when he is at work! We are tired at the heart. Perhaps our love is more than yours, who knows. I don't see it as being needy (but if it is per the psych docs, then I am!!!!!) I see us as being so into each other yet allowing each other space.

chi

There's no contest going on about levels of love or missing your honey, but you do raise an interesting point. Some associate love with pain. The more pain you feel, the more "in love" you are. So, since I feel less pain, you automatically assume I'm less in love. Since you feel more pain, your love must be purer, stronger, more real.

It's a silly correlation, but the stuff of popular romance. I've been thinking of starting a thread, maybe a poll, about people's perceptions about the links between love and pain. Considering the success of this thread in raising ire while boosting my posting numbers, that one should continue the pace. Thanks for your input!

Twisted is all I can say.

Love=pain??????

Maybe in the soaps but not here. Get off the TV for gripes sake!

Ire? Lol...I loves me man and I miss him when he is gone. Like I said...tied at the heart.

chi

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Nothing in this thread put doubt to your love, so be careful when doubting the love of others.

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

Love=pain??????

if love = pain, then it's in the wrong hole

[brnidokiegurl 0]

you didnt

[babybunny 2]

Love=pain??????

if love = pain, then it's in the wrong hole

[Nagishkaw 510]

Love=pain??????

if love = pain, then it's in the wrong hole

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Gotta love this thread! It's attracted all kinds.

Edited March 4, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[babybunny 2]

I'm aware of your stuation, shonnie, but I didn't start this thread for people like you. Some of us aren't like you or others who are emotionally overwrought. We need a space to share too. That's what this is for. Those who this thread isn't for come at their own peril. Those who just wanna make fun of others, take it away!

Take care!

you think missing your better half is a sign of weakness?

if my husband is sick. it hurts me alot because, I cant comfort him. if I am hurting

belive me he hurts he cant make it all better. when I am happy I cant share that with my husband the way I would like. I cant remember my husbands kiss. this is something you apprently are making fun of. its not funny to me. when you are apart so long and you forget his kiss how will you feel? dayum I cant rember. but, I really want to rember again. so dont say anyone is wrong for getting defensive because, certainly I feel that you are mocking those that feel empty when they are apart and suffering from their true love. when you are in true love

being apart really does hurt.