Being divorced .. need precise info.

[Dan J 277]

You can file for removal of conditions on your own if necessary as long as you provide proof that it was a bona fide marriage. But that part isn't your problem.

As far as the job, do not rely on the shared car. Yes you may have a right to it, even in the divorce proceedings, there are so many ways she can mess that up. Either carpool with a co-worker or if available, use public transportation. Its also possible there may be a charity that offers transportation services in some form.

The best thing you can do is try to get independent as soon as possible. This is going to be hard as yet haven't yet worked in the country. Your wife may be obligated to support you (either alimony or I-864), but it may take some time to get that worked out.

[Fandango 1,440]

Ok .. I got handed legal papers for her initializing the divorce today. She turns round and

tells me frankly "I don't care what happens to you."

I have a job interview tomorrow. This is good news, but since we share access to the car,

I have chosen a shift for when she will be home at night. Question:

What if, after I recieve the decree absolute, she decides to change the locks? Or stays out

deliberately late - until I lose my job?

If I try to get in to my home, she calls the police and does the "harassed woman" act

(although I have never, ever harassed her - but I ask since part of this divorce decree

she's filing against me says "The plaintiff asks this court to enter a mutual 'Ex-Parte'

Restraining Order enjoining the parties from harassing the other..."

I don't know any services here.. and don't know what to look for.

Sounds like she's making arrangements to attempt to remove you from the home. But that's just my opinion.

As far as the Affadavit of Support...and please confirm or deny this yourself....but if you became a public charge, then she would be held financially responsible. Maybe that little caveat will be enough for you to reason with her to stay in the home and just maintain a 'peaceful co-existance' instead of what seems to be an ugly fight brewin.

[wishforhumility 0]

>>Sounds like she's making arrangements to attempt to remove you from the home. But

>> that's just my opinion.

You're right, that's exactly what she's trying to do. She says "I just want you out!" .. I say to her,

"You don't just *dump* your family, like yesterday's trash, for the garbage man to collect .. it's

not an automatic 'right' just because you woke up one morning and decided you feel differently!"

She says "I want you to get a job, and just move out." .. like it's so simple. She owns the car.

She has no reason to hate me. Where we live, in Arkansas, we cannot get public transportation

out to where my job will be, should I get it. She would make it so much easier on herself if she

complies .. but logic isn't one of her forte's.

Am I able to get legal-aid help of some kind with this? Anybody know?

[maya62 7]

Am I able to get legal-aid help of some kind with this? Anybody know?

Try here:

http://www.arlegalservices.org/Home/Public...ine/helplineLAA

I don't see divorce listed as one of the services, but ask if there is help with divorces. Relative to the immigration portion of your situation, you could also check here for low/no cost help with removing conditions:

http://www.dolr.org/offices/index.php (not sure which office is closer for you).

Best wishes,

Maya

[meredith pa 0]

If you move out...

dont forget to change your address on the USCIS website!!!!!!!!!!!! check ont he uscis ...

address change is important..since they will be sending notices by mail...