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You can dissect it to death all you want but the poster said:

"she told her man that she wants to go home but her man wont let her, anyone there can give an idea how can my cousin go back to Philippines? Her man will not buy her a ticket to go back?"

Yeah - he doesnt WANT her to go back therefore WONT LET her go back. What part of holding someone against their will dont you understand? I stand firm, call the cops.

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I am just thinking about when I moved to the UK to live with my SO for 3 months. We had been apart for SO long, it was very odd to adjust to seeing each other every day. We fought a LOT every day for the first few weeks. I knew the language etc, but I felt really alone, scared and just wanted to go home. I almost packed my bags every day for the first 2 weeks. Eventually we got used to being around each other every day and had an absolute blast for the last 2 months. I REALLY didnt want to leave by then! I just think 2 weeks is not enough time to adjust from long distance to living together. Obviously if there is abuse of any sort etc. that is completely different. I just hope she doesnt decide to leave too early and change her mind down the line. Besides that, if she still is unhappy and needs to leave, I would have a very honest talk with the fiance and make sure he understands she IS leaving. If he still refuses, hopefully family and friends and charity can pitch in. Not sure on his legal responsibilities, though he definitly has a moral obligation to get her home if that is her true wish.

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AOS

Mailed AOS, EAD and AP Sept 11 '07

Recieved NOA1's for all Sept 23 or 24 '07

Bio appt. Oct. 24 '07

EAD/AP approved Nov 26 '07

Got the AP Dec. 3 '07

AOS interview Feb 7th (5 days after the 1 year anniversary of our K1 NOA1!

Stuck in FBI name checks...

Got the GC July '08

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Philippines
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Hello everyone,

I would like to ask an idea about my cousin's case. She came here as k1 visa and been here already for 2 weeks, she realized that she is not happy with her man and wants to go back to Philippines, she told her man that she wants to go home but her man wont let her, anyone there can give an idea how can my cousin go back to Philippines? Her man will not buy her a ticket to go back? Do you think its his obligation? Help... :help:

HAVING GONE BACK TO GERALDINES ORIGINAL POST I HAVE TO WONDER WHY WE HAVENT HEARD MORE FROM HER. IM SURE THERE IS MORE TO HER COUSINS STORY. GERALDINE IS HERSELF MARRIED AND LIVING IN HOUSTON AS FAR AS I COULD DETERMINE FROM THE PROFILE SO IM SURE SHE HAS COUNSELED HER COUSIN HAVING GONE THROUGH THE ADJUSTMENT TO LIFE IN THE U.S.

I JUST KNOW I FIND THIS VERY SAD.

I KNOW THAT THERE IS NOT ONLY AN ADJUSTMENT PERIOD TO DIFFERENT CULTURE BUT HE MIGHT BE DIFFERENT IN HIS USUAL SURROUNDINGS. WHEN I GO ON VACATION TO SEE RELYN IM NOT SURROUNDED BY MY NORMAL ACTIVITIES AND STRESSES. DIFFERENT PERSON IN THE PHILIPPINES.

AS A PARTNER TO RELYN I HAVE TO EASE HER INTO "HOW I DO THINGS" AND ADJUST MY SELF TO "HOW SHE DOES THINGS". VERY IMPORTANT TO LET HER CHANGE THE HOUSE IN WAY SHE FEELS COMFORTABLE TOO.

THESE MAYBE THE ISSUES THEYRE FACING BUT WE DONT KNOW. WE CAN ONLY GUESS. I HOPE WE HEAR FROM GERALDINE AGAIN TO GIVE US MORE INSIGHT.

4 september 2005.....relyn and patrick chat on filipina heart for first time

19 december 2005....patrick flies to meet relyn and m'r (son) for first time

24 decemeber 2005.....we are ENGAGED!

25 december 2005....we fly to boracay. patrick and relyn exchange wedding rings on plane....lol but true

3 january 2006....we meet with attorney to discuss annulment of relyn marriage.

(husband absent for 6 years)

20 august 2006.......patrick returns to philippines

21 august 2006......patrick birthday

28 august 2006......we travel to baguio city till september 5

4 september2006....we celebrate in bagiou our 1st year anniversary of knowing each other.

10 september2006.....patrick back in u.s

19 april 2007....back together for another trip

21 april 2007....we travel to province relyn and family are from for a chance for me to meet extended

family. we are there for more than a week.

7 may 2007....return to the u.s.a.

JULY 2007.....annulment sent to judge desk awaiting decision

OCTOBER 2007.........JUDGE GRANTS ANNULMENT......YIPPEE GETTING CLOSE TO FILING I129F

31 december 2007 I29f sent via US postal priority mail

4 January 2008 NOA1

6 MAY 2008 NOA2 (GUESS THE TOUCH WAS A REALLY GOOD TOUCH)

10 MAY 2008 RECEIVE HARD COPY I-797 NOA2 IN SNAIL MAIL

22-23 may 2008-early medical(passed)

22-27 may 2008-son's medical....very long bcoz of tuberculin test

20 june 2008-my patrick visit me again for 4time

23 june 2008-interview u.s.embassy

27 june 2008-got my visa yipeee so quick!

2 july 2008- fly in tacoma wa, with my patrick and son

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Vietnam
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I think geraldin needs to clear up the OP; This is how gossip/rumors gets started, partial and biased story. In a perfect world, we would hear both sides of the story, but with one post like the OP, there is too much information left out.

07/??/00: Met Fiance

05/??/06: Rekindled with fiance

10/20/06: Proposed, with a yes!

12/23/06: Met fiance in person after over 6 years

12/24/06: Engagement party in Vietnam

01/01/07: Went back to America

01/03/07: I-129F Sent to CSC

01/08/07: NOA1

03/26/07: NOA2

04/04/07: NVC Receives case

04/13/07: HCM Consulate Receives physical file

04/24/07: HCM Sends Out Packet 3

05/03/07: Packet 3 Received

05/07/07: Packet 3 Sent

06/23/07: Packet 4 Received FROM honest neighbor BLOCKS away (sent to wrong address, actual receive date ???)

07/12/07: Interview Date!!! BLUE SLIP

08/31/07: Went in personally with sound advice from M.E. and got the PINK SLIP!!!

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I think geraldin needs to clear up the OP; This is how gossip/rumors gets started, partial and biased story. In a perfect world, we would hear both sides of the story, but with one post like the OP, there is too much information left out.

You know..too many times in other threads this has been the case. We all leach on to a 10 sentence post and have it all figured out. I personally have this guy pegged to be a kidnapper but you're right, we dont have a clue about him being that the poster is neither the USC nor the beneficiary.

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Vietnam
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You can dissect it to death all you want but the poster said:

"she told her man that she wants to go home but her man wont let her, anyone there can give an idea how can my cousin go back to Philippines? Her man will not buy her a ticket to go back?"

Yeah - he doesnt WANT her to go back therefore WONT LET her go back. What part of holding someone against their will dont you understand? I stand firm, call the cops.

What part of a moral obligations dont you understand??? The USCIS process isn't something that happens over night. She had several months to think about her decision and accept to marry her fiancee (till death do us part). Two weeks later, she tells him she wants to go home.

Maybe the "Amercian Dream" wasn't what she expected. Maybe he didn't live in a castle or have the nice things that she dreamed about. It's easy to make quick decisions when you really don't love someone. Maybe she should have thought about that before she decided to come to America.

You'd be cruxifying him if he had bought her a ticket home. I can just hear it "If he really loved her he wouldn't let her go".

Who knows, love's tough and there are many difficult things to work out. Jumping out of a relationship reflects that she did not marry for love rather thought it was an opportunity to move to a better place.

And then again, you know the saying opinion are like a$$holes......

K1 Time Line

Don and Linh

October 22, 2006 - Sent I-129F

November 2, 2006 - NOA1

January 30, 2007 - NOA2

February 8, 2007 - Arrives at NVC

February 12, 2007 - Arrives at Consultate in HCMC

February 28, 2007 - Consulate sends out Packet 3

March 8, 2007 - Packet 3 recieved

May 11, 2007 - Packet 3 recieved by Consulate

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Correct me if i'm wrong , but if she does not get married in 90 days. If she just go to INS, she will get deported. That sounds like a free trip to me.

She really doesn't need a deportation on her record, which would make immigration to this or other countries difficult for her, she voluntarily wants to go back, her fiance should be the one flipping the bill.

Jun 26, 06 - 129-F filed

Sep 27, 06 - NOA2

Nov 28, 06 - INTERVIEW SUCCESS!!!

Dec 12, 06 - VISA IN HAND

Dec 29, 06 - MARRIED!!

Jan 8, 07 - filed for AOS and EAD

Apr 3, 07 - EAD approved!!!

Apr 7, 07 - EAD card arrived!

May 10, 07 - Interview....APPROVED!!!

May 23, 07 - GC in hand

Feb 10, 09 - I-751 sent to CSC

Feb 12, 09 - NOA1

Apr 20, 09 - Approved!

Jun 12, 09 - Card Production Ordered

Jun 19, 09 - 10 year GC Received

 

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Not sure about others on this forum, but I personally did research into the Philippine Culture and had an acquaintance who was a friend of the family who was also a PASTOR. Even before filing a Fiance Visa (1987) I had already talked with this "counselor" for many hours. As soon as my Fiance arrived in the U.S. we visited this "counselor".

It would be a good idea to find a qualified Filipino and do some counseling if that is possible.

Hello everyone,

I would like to ask an idea about my cousin's case. She came here as k1 visa and been here already for 2 weeks, she realized that she is not happy with her man and wants to go back to Philippines, she told her man that she wants to go home but her man wont let her, anyone there can give an idea how can my cousin go back to Philippines? Her man will not buy her a ticket to go back? Do you think its his obligation? Help... :help:

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Maybe the "Amercian Dream" wasn't what she expected. Maybe he didn't live in a castle or have the nice things that she dreamed about. It's easy to make quick decisions when you really don't love someone. Maybe she should have thought about that before she decided to come to America.

I don't want to sound negative, but I have to say after living in the Philippines for three years that there are a lot of "misconceptions" concerning living conditions in the United States. You might call them "embellishments" or "exaggerated tales" of the "perfect" life in "Paradise". That is why I personally feel it is necessary to have contact with a trusted Filipino who has already lived for some time in the U.S. to rely on for consultation - some sort of counseling concerning the realities of life in the U.S.

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Vietnam
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Maybe the "Amercian Dream" wasn't what she expected. Maybe he didn't live in a castle or have the nice things that she dreamed about. It's easy to make quick decisions when you really don't love someone. Maybe she should have thought about that before she decided to come to America.

I don't want to sound negative, but I have to say after living in the Philippines for three years that there are a lot of "misconceptions" concerning living conditions in the United States. You might call them "embellishments" or "exaggerated tales" of the "perfect" life in "Paradise". That is why I personally feel it is necessary to have contact with a trusted Filipino who has already lived for some time in the U.S. to rely on for consultation - some sort of counseling concerning the realities of life in the U.S.

I couldn't agree more. If you truley love someone and accept them as your life partner then you should be able to attempt to work things out. If she decided to return home because life in America didn't meet her expectations within the two weeks, then shame on her.

Too many people see the fiance process as a means of dating, unfortunatley it's not. It's an application to legally spend the rest of your life with some you love, for better or worse.....

K1 Time Line

Don and Linh

October 22, 2006 - Sent I-129F

November 2, 2006 - NOA1

January 30, 2007 - NOA2

February 8, 2007 - Arrives at NVC

February 12, 2007 - Arrives at Consultate in HCMC

February 28, 2007 - Consulate sends out Packet 3

March 8, 2007 - Packet 3 recieved

May 11, 2007 - Packet 3 recieved by Consulate

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Philippines
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Maybe the "Amercian Dream" wasn't what she expected. Maybe he didn't live in a castle or have the nice things that she dreamed about. It's easy to make quick decisions when you really don't love someone. Maybe she should have thought about that before she decided to come to America.

I don't want to sound negative, but I have to say after living in the Philippines for three years that there are a lot of "misconceptions" concerning living conditions in the United States. You might call them "embellishments" or "exaggerated tales" of the "perfect" life in "Paradise". That is why I personally feel it is necessary to have contact with a trusted Filipino who has already lived for some time in the U.S. to rely on for consultation - some sort of counseling concerning the realities of life in the U.S.

I couldn't agree more. If you truley love someone and accept them as your life partner then you should be able to attempt to work things out. If she decided to return home because life in America didn't meet her expectations within the two weeks, then shame on her.

Too many people see the fiance process as a means of dating, unfortunatley it's not. It's an application to legally spend the rest of your life with some you love, for better or worse.....

yea i must agree maybe she expected too much from her fiance' or maybe theres a hidden motive then..Living in a foreign country is surely a hard thing u gotta have a lot of adjustments by both sides.. Her fiance should have to make an effort also to make her understood things..

and im just wondering where is that thing called "LOVE" ... If im with my honey i couldnt ask for more well there are obstacles might come along and thats the thing u both should be prepared of...think..decide....pray!!!!!

give yourself more time girl!!!!! be open-minded!!! best wishes!!!!

Nov. 24, 07 - sent petition I-129F[Nov. 30, 07 - NOA1( cash checked) after 3 touches

Feb. 15, 07 - NOA2(yayy were so happy)tnx God

March 01, 07 - NVC recieved our petition

March 06, 07 - Received letter from NVC(petition will be sent to Manila Embassy)

patiently waiting aaggiinnnn...

March 18-24 - honey's second visit(wow super excited)

Mar. 15, 07 - INTERVIEW DATE REC.!!!!

MAY 15, 07 - Medical

MAY 22, 07 - INTERVIEW VISA APPROVED!!!! THANKphili.gif GOD 4 THIS!!!usa.gif[/=3]

JUNE 08, 07 - POE LAX - GOING 2 USA 2 B WITH MY HUBBY BOB-O!!!!!!!!

Wedding - June 30, 2007

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You'd be cruxifying him if he had bought her a ticket home. I can just hear it "If he really loved her he wouldn't let her go".

HELLO!!??? MCFLY!!!???? HE SHOULD BUY HER A TICKET HOME!!! I dont condone ANY situation in ANY thread that supports holding someone against their will NOR do I condemn someone if they want to leave a relationship! Get a grip ma'am. Unlike you, Im not here to judge whether she is in "love" with him...whether she had true intent when she came into the relationship and decided to come to america and I sure as hell could care less if she's a gold digger...the point is that the OP stated he wont help her get back home. When you quit ADDING pertinent information to the original post maybe you'll read what's already there! And for the record - you dont know me so dont assume what I WOULD be saying if he did the honourable thing and bought her a ticket home. I dont CRUCIFY people who do the right thing.

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Philippines
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Hello everyone,

I would like to ask an idea about my cousin's case. She came here as k1 visa and been here already for 2 weeks, she realized that she is not happy with her man and wants to go back to Philippines, she told her man that she wants to go home but her man wont let her, anyone there can give an idea how can my cousin go back to Philippines? Her man will not buy her a ticket to go back? Do you think its his obligation? Help... :help:

that is so sad. i dunno what happened in between them but for sure its negative.

my love always is always asking me about my life when I get to US and he would always say that he would let me go back whenever i want to and he would buy a ticket for me. I"m just so lucky having a man like him. He loves me a lot and I do love him so much, too.

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I couldn't agree more. If you truley love someone and accept them as your life partner then you should be able to attempt to work things out. If she decided to return home because life in America didn't meet her expectations within the two weeks, then shame on her.

Too many people see the fiance process as a means of dating, unfortunatley it's not. It's an application to legally spend the rest of your life with some you love, for better or worse.....

Well maybe one day all of us can achieve the loving relationship you have with your partner. Where are your statistics that too many people see the fiance process as a means for dating? Relationships fail even between two people from the same country. Is this your first relationship? Probably not. Why did your others fail? Did you want to leave? Im sure if you gave this forum a few sentences of your past relationships we'd have your ex's accused and hung based on your biased post. You have no clue whether or not they were in love! You assume.

 
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