2 years tomorrow since interview

[Rabab-Hussein 4]

Hello

So yeah it will be two years tomrrow since the interview from September 24th 2013. Its been a rough two years i have done all i could .. I have sent out emails to all the reps and congressmen and even president OBAMA himself and nothing was done. I kinda lost hope with everything since there only response is Still Under AP. It really gets on my nerves to see everyone who gets approved in Lome, Togo and we'r just sitting there waiting for just one freaking call to just get approved. i dont know what to do anymore after all these years. Itll be 4 years on 14 of february 2012 since i applied. So yeah i have waited too much.

[TJandJR 69]

I am so sorry your journey has been long and difficult. I understand you must be feeling very alone and upset especially watching others go through with ease. It's unfair that so much power over your life and future is put into the hands of strangers that don't even know you or your relationship. Things like this can put a strain on a relationship. With my own experience (long denied k1 and now a cr1) I feel so much time has been robbed from us. Time we will never get back. And the joy and excitement that comes with a new relationship and growing together and etc...seems immigration has tainted it a bit for us. I too get frustrated and angry and sometimes feel so so tired and drained and pray to God nothing else happens to further delay. I'm just saying...although your journey and feelings are your own and mine are mine, I can relate and I wish I knew how to encourage you. Just keep picturing the day you get the wonderful news you've been waiting for. See yourself rejoicing! Hold fast to that vision. Keep being strong and I pray any day now you get good news.

[Stone23 25]

I am so sorry your journey has been long and difficult. I understand you must be feeling very alone and upset especially watching others go through with ease. It's unfair that so much power over your life and future is put into the hands of strangers that don't even know you or your relationship. Things like this can put a strain on a relationship. With my own experience (long denied k1 and now a cr1) I feel so much time has been robbed from us. Time we will never get back. And the joy and excitement that comes with a new relationship and growing together and etc...seems immigration has tainted it a bit for us. I too get frustrated and angry and sometimes feel so so tired and drained and pray to God nothing else happens to further delay. I'm just saying...although your journey and feelings are your own and mine are mine, I can relate and I wish I knew how to encourage you. Just keep picturing the day you get the wonderful news you've been waiting for. See yourself rejoicing! Hold fast to that vision. Keep being strong and I pray any day now you get good news.

Well I wish you lots of luck with you new petition. But, do you mind if u ask what you sent in as relationship evidence for your K1 that was denied? Just trying to gage what will be enough.

Thanks in advance!

[TJandJR 69]

Here's what I sent.... Copy of plane ticket, almost 2 years of chats about 100 pages, phone records, emails, and photos of us, us with his cousins, his friends, his neighbors. It was a few hundred pages total. And I stayed in his apt with him for 5 weeks. But I only sent about 10 photos and wish I had sent more. The interview went very well my fiance said he was able to answer all the questions easily and the co kept shaking his head yes but never looked up or at my fiance. At the end the co went and talked briefly to another co...then came back and said he wasn't convinced of a bonafide relationship but no reason why. Suggested we get married and file a cr1. Don't let that discourage you. I've seen others get approved on way less than that and had barely known each other when they filed and only visited one week. We knew each other two years when we filed. Just be prepared and know everything about each other, hobbies, friends, families, each other's jobs, etc. Don't act nervous. Best wishes.

[Stone23 25]

Here's what I sent.... Copy of plane ticket, almost 2 years of chats about 100 pages, phone records, emails, and photos of us, us with his cousins, his friends, his neighbors. It was a few hundred pages total. And I stayed in his apt with him for 5 weeks. But I only sent about 10 photos and wish I had sent more. The interview went very well my fiance said he was able to answer all the questions easily and the co kept shaking his head yes but never looked up or at my fiance. At the end the co went and talked briefly to another co...then came back and said he wasn't convinced of a bonafide relationship but no reason why. Suggested we get married and file a cr1. Don't let that discourage you. I've seen others get approved on way less than that and had barely known each other when they filed and only visited one week. We knew each other two years when we filed. Just be prepared and know everything about each other, hobbies, friends, families, each other's jobs, etc. Don't act nervous. Best wishes.

I'm a bit worried because we have a couple of flags that I'm not sure how to cover. First, I'm 18 years older than my husband. Frankly, you can't even tell I'm older. He actually thought I was much younger when he contacted me. We got married a few months after later. Four months to be exact. After we put up our bands (public notice) to get married his ex came forward and said the child she was carrying was his. They had a very bad breakup and she was afraid to tell him. The break up was in June we connected in Seotember. She told him on January 10 and the baby was due early March. We debated but moved forward with our wedding, we had already gotten our marriage license and everything. The news was a blow and blessing at the same time. Cause I'm not able to have more kids and he would of been childless. I was so worried that it would be an issue in 5 years.

Other than that we only told the majority of our family after we got married because I didn't disclose to them that I divorced almost 4 years ago. We only told the ones we were close too, but they all know now.

I'm afraid that our story will sound bogus to a CO.

We have pics. I visited twice and will again in Nov. We talk all the time. Joint credit cards, cellphone, emails, chat. We started a small clothing business. I kept the text the day he told me about his ex.

Thoughts?

[TJandJR 69]

All I know to say is this... Some people with big age differences get approved, some with less get denied. Some people with red flags get approved, some with no flags get denied. It's hard to tell with these CO's. Bogus relationships get approved sometimes and genuine ones get delayed. So all you can do is this, spend as much time together as you can, visit as often as you are able, know each other well, be open and up front about everything. Don't stress on what you have no control over. Sometimes I make myself sick worrying about the interview and all the "what if's". Just be prepared, keep loving each other, save everthing (chats, call records, photos) get to know each other's families and visit often. I know other vj members will come along with more advice more specific to your case especially about the child. The CO may wonder if he is still seeing the mother or wonder why he's leaving his child behind. But I'll let more experienced members advise you on that. Best wishes.

[Stone23 25]

All I know to say is this... Some people with big age differences get approved, some with less get denied. Some people with red flags get approved, some with no flags get denied. It's hard to tell with these CO's. Bogus relationships get approved sometimes and genuine ones get delayed. So all you can do is this, spend as much time together as you can, visit as often as you are able, know each other well, be open and up front about everything. Don't stress on what you have no control over. Sometimes I make myself sick worrying about the interview and all the "what if's". Just be prepared, keep loving each other, save everthing (chats, call records, photos) get to know each other's families and visit often. I know other vj members will come along with more advice more specific to your case especially about the child. The CO may wonder if he is still seeing the mother or wonder why he's leaving his child behind. But I'll let more experienced members advise you on that. Best wishes.

Thanks for your response. We plan was to be together because she told him. It wasn't a very long relationship for them and it didn't ended very well. In fact, co parenting right now is a work in progress, even besides the fact that he with someone else. I'm constantly having to be the voice of reason during their conflicts. The hope is that he can visit his child and she'll spend time with us when she's older and when the mother feels more comfortable with us.

Edited September 23, 2015 by Stone23

[Rabab-Hussein 4]

Thank you for your kind words. I know alot of people are going through the same struggles but i swear it is too much too handle. I hope everything works out great for you.

I am so sorry your journey has been long and difficult. I understand you must be feeling very alone and upset especially watching others go through with ease. It's unfair that so much power over your life and future is put into the hands of strangers that don't even know you or your relationship. Things like this can put a strain on a relationship. With my own experience (long denied k1 and now a cr1) I feel so much time has been robbed from us. Time we will never get back. And the joy and excitement that comes with a new relationship and growing together and etc...seems immigration has tainted it a bit for us. I too get frustrated and angry and sometimes feel so so tired and drained and pray to God nothing else happens to further delay. I'm just saying...although your journey and feelings are your own and mine are mine, I can relate and I wish I knew how to encourage you. Just keep picturing the day you get the wonderful news you've been waiting for. See yourself rejoicing! Hold fast to that vision. Keep being strong and I pray any day now you get good news.

[luviscoming1 14]

Did you file a k1 or a Cr1 visa? Because K1 visas expire in 4 months.

[raven52 233]

Your story is heart breaking.

I totally..,.admire your patience, and the very professional way you wrote of your long wait.

May it come to pass that you get "that call very soon!"

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Hello

So yeah it will be two years tomrrow since the interview from September 24th 2013. Its been a rough two years i have done all i could .. I have sent out emails to all the reps and congressmen and even president OBAMA himself and nothing was done. I kinda lost hope with everything since there only response is Still Under AP. It really gets on my nerves to see everyone who gets approved in Lome, Togo and we'r just sitting there waiting for just one freaking call to just get approved. i dont know what to do anymore after all these years. Itll be 4 years on 14 of february 2012 since i applied. So yeah i have waited too much.

We were in AP for almost a year and a half after the K1 interview and then they refused the visa and returned our case to USCIS.

All in all it took us 5 years to be together.

Never give up, you will eventually succeed.

Email the embassy once in a while and inquire even though you get the same response, it reminds them you are still waiting.

You can also tell them you are both looking forward to marry as soon as the visa is approved and was hoping this would be the "year".

It may be an internal investigation but probably went out to other agency checks and even the embassy has not control over when the AP

will be completed when second and third agencies are involved and backlogged.

I know the feeling, but remain hopeful.....this too shall pass.