Mother in Law

[Ontarkie 14,378]

I'm sorry but having your friend keep the AOS when things are this bad is not fair to him. Get him to pull his support.

You don't put a third person in the middle of this mess.

[blesskaye 2]

I'm a US citizen, my wife just became a US citizen, she decided to have her mother move here and live with us, it's been a living hell. Mother in law is in the process of getting her green card (application submitted, have her work permit, and social security number already). A friend of mine sponsored her only because my income (previous tax return) was not sufficient. I say it's been a living hell because she is asking us to get a divorce and asking stupid questions such as "you are cheating on your wife aren't you" This all happened after her application for green card has been submitted and waiting for interview. I feel that I have gotten taken advantage of my status and she is trying to tear our marriage apart. My question is, is there a way for me to put a hold on her green card processing?

I really think this is a family problem and not an immigration problem. The way I see it is that it will not impact your MIL much because her daughter is now a citizen and she can file for her. In my humble opinion, once you withdraw the petition, it's going to increase your marital problem and drive a wedge between you and your wife. At that point, your wife may just divorce you.

I believe you and your wife should go to counseling and see if you can work out your problem, and your wife should be able to "control" her mother.

Good luck to you.

[dkdex 0]

To me this is a "husband and wife problem"..,.,.,and a minor problem of 'immigration' as you have not stated your wife's views on what the MIL is saying or doing.

Until that is known, how could the problem be properly addressed?

Maybe I missed something, but I read nothing about your wife's position about this.

Wife sides with her mom

[nane1104 146]

Then what do you think pulling the affidavit of support is going to do to your marriage?

Is the person who signed it aware of the issues? I guess it would be his/her decision to pull it.

I still say this is not your immigration problem, it's a marital problem. My mil could say all kinds of ####### about me, my husband would always have my back. If he didn't, I wouldn't be with him.

[Boiler 45,913]

Sounds like what you need is a Divorce Lawyer.

Now

[Unidentified 2,930]

Sounds like what you need is a Divorce Lawyer.

Now

Why? He just needs to talk to his wife. Why does people jump to divorce as soon as there a bump on the road?

[kamw 93]

I'm not a fan of divorce but this isn't a bump. The fact that mom doesn't like him isn't a big deal. The fact that wife agrees with mom is the scary part. If she's not defending him now, when will she? Is she going to support mom undermining his authority when they have kids? Why did mom's attitude towards him change after they got married? Was she only playing nice to get her daughter papers?

If the Mom is going to go her way after she gets her papers it might not be such a major deal. Marriage counseling will help fix the cracks. If mom intends on sticking around and wife is not going to confront her this is going to lead to divorce.

Edited September 12, 2015 by Penguin_ie

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

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