Parents blocked her from coming

[duckhunter1 18]

I'm doing both. In parallel. It's called multitasking.

This girl is nothing but a professional girlfriend. Man to man every few months to get money for mom and dad's alcohol problem and her baby's needs. It's so sad to see this kind of life actually exists.

If someone ever asks her about her career what would she say?

[j&ana 363]

Well hopefully you be able to move on with your life. Maybe find the right girl , but right now the only thing I see is a person with revenge only on his mind and nothing else

[Hank_ 9,174]

It's over and I accept it but I have filed a civil suit against her. I have a very expensive high profile lawyer in Manila. She has informed me this is a very simple case and a classic example of marriage scams there. This is going to cause some long term problems for her. Perhaps she will learn her lesson.

To waste of time and money. I almost want to laugh on this one. You won't cause jack with her life.

[Umka36 781]

As others have said, just move on with your life. You are just prolonging your pain for what, revenge? I get it that you want her to feel your pain, but it's not going to happen. Take it as a lesson learned, and be thankful that it ended sooner rather than later. You got off easy in my eyes.

International relationships are expensive in both time and money. It's not for everyone.

Edited September 28, 2015 by Umka36

[LionessDeon 2,060]

I'm doing both. In parallel. It's called multitasking.

This girl is nothing but a professional girlfriend. Man to man every few months to get money for mom and dad's alcohol problem and her baby's needs. It's so sad to see this kind of life actually exists.

If someone ever asks her about her career what would she say?

So what?? If this is their way of survival why do you care? You're not over it if you're wasting time effort and money on a frivolous lawsuit. It will accomplish nothing. I know you're hurt and upset but truly it is best to forget her forget her family and move on with your life. Find a new hobby, exercise, take long walks in the park. Do anything you can to clear your mind of this negativity and heal your heart. Time heals all wounds. Blessings to you! Edited September 29, 2015 by LionessDeon

[duckhunter1 18]

You all are funny telling me all this stuff. Yes I've moved on and have met someone else. Planning a trip to Phil. in November now to meet her.

Just so you know, my attorney says this civil case will be simple simple to win. What will happen is that she won't be able to pay it, could get in some trouble but no likely. But perhaps years from now she will be with a foreigner and prepare for a flight to his country. Upon boarding the aircraft she will be stopped and not allowed to fly unless the case is settled, at which time the new bf/fiance will have to pay it, which he'll want to know what's going one. Then I would likely get paid and she would have explaining to do. There's a method to my planning it's not revenge I just want my money back. Her trickery and deceit created a combination of sadness and anger. One always reaps what is sown.

[Boiler 45,314]

Just like if you say have a civil judgement awarded against you in the US you could not leave the US?

You still have not said on what basis you are suing her? Breach of Promise?

[Mike-eeh and Odie 193]

You all are funny telling me all this stuff. Yes I've moved on and have met someone else. Planning a trip to Phil. in November now to meet her.

Just so you know, my attorney says this civil case will be simple simple to win. What will happen is that she won't be able to pay it, could get in some trouble but no likely. But perhaps years from now she will be with a foreigner and prepare for a flight to his country. Upon boarding the aircraft she will be stopped and not allowed to fly unless the case is settled, at which time the new bf/fiance will have to pay it, which he'll want to know what's going one. Then I would likely get paid and she would have explaining to do. There's a method to my planning it's not revenge I just want my money back. Her trickery and deceit created a combination of sadness and anger. One always reaps what is sown.

Let me tell you a little bit about the Phillipines. It is a third world country where money talks. Your lawyer is just entertaining you for money, just like your ex. There is no real justice system in the Philippines. Justice comes to those with money, and your lawyer knows this. Your ex is poor and your lawyer knows she would not be making money off her, so she will milk you for as much as she possibly can until you:

A. Give up

B. Drain your bank account and can no longer pay for her "services."

This will be the real scenario after all your money went to your lawyer in Manila. Your ex attempts to get on a plane and they stop her. Minutes later, she calls her new fiance to simply wire her 5000P (about $110 USD) to pay off security, and off she'll go to America.

Don't believe me? I'll tell you a personal story that happened just this year. My wife and I visited the Philippines in March. She was using her AP to return home. Security stopped her and looked at her card and her marriage certificate. They "acted" like they never saw a EAD/AP combo card. They told her "We are sorry, but we don't know if this card is legitimately an advanced parole paper. But if you were to pay a "travel fee," we can let you pass." Basically this travel fee was a $50.00 USD bribe.

Was this wrong? Could I have made an issue of it, knowing it was basically a bribe? Maybe call the local police? Sure. But it [paying the bribe] was far less expensive than missing our flight and risking my wife not leaving the Philippines.

So my thoughts to you would be, save your money, she isn't worth the hassle. Is she a bad person getting away with $500.00 of your money? Yes. So why invest more in her? You'll only lose more money you do not have on a person who could care less. Save the money you would spend on that lawyer for your new love. She is most likely more deserving and cares about your well being.

[Hank_ 9,174]

There are Immigration officers that are not very aware of AP cards either, I know of a Filipina that came back from the Phils only to have the immigration officer hold her while he "learned" what an AP card was.

[Zedayn 485]

You all are funny telling me all this stuff. Yes I've moved on and have met someone else. Planning a trip to Phil. in November now to meet her.

Just so you know, my attorney says this civil case will be simple simple to win. What will happen is that she won't be able to pay it, could get in some trouble but no likely. But perhaps years from now she will be with a foreigner and prepare for a flight to his country. Upon boarding the aircraft she will be stopped and not allowed to fly unless the case is settled, at which time the new bf/fiance will have to pay it, which he'll want to know what's going one. Then I would likely get paid and she would have explaining to do. There's a method to my planning it's not revenge I just want my money back. Her trickery and deceit created a combination of sadness and anger. One always reaps what is sown.

Congratulations on meeting someone else, but you have not moved on.

Your thinking is flawed. I mean theoretically it sounds good, and from what you pay your high-priced high-profile lawyer, it will be made to sound just as good. But the reality of it is, you will pay tons of money for nothing. You will never ever know what happens to her, whether your thinking of what will happen to her will actually happen or not. You are basically paying for the thought in your head that she will be screwed out of ever having a decent man in her life, and of course you will never know what happens.

If a relationship doesn't work out, it's best to move on. Your relationship didn't work, so just move on.

A few years ago I spent a lot of money on 4 separate trips to Colombia. The first 2 were to meet and spend time with my ex, the 3rd was to go with her to her K-1 visa interview, and the 4th was to go pick her up and bring her to the US. I was crazy in love with her. We got to the US no problem, married a month later and filed AOS. 3 months after that, she walked out on me. I may never know the answer to why, but my belief is that she only dated me and agreed to marry just so she could come to the US and get her green card. Her sister had even coached her on how to do it! It seemed her plan was flawless.

One day we had a huge argument, she called the police claiming I abused her, went to a women's shelter, and probably tried filing for VAWA. But there was no evidence of abuse...because it never happened. It took me a month to withdraw the I-864 for her AOS application, because I hoped and prayed she would come back. She didn't. Filed for divorce from her, which should have been a quick simple thing. It wasn't. She wanted spousal support! As in! I settled with her out of court just to get her out of my life and move on.

Don't you think I really wanted to sue this girl too?? I wanted to sue her for every cent I ever spent on her, I wanted to have her charged with immigration fraud, I wanted to screw her life over so much...that's how angry and vengeful I was about my ex. But I moved on, and slowly over time I have gotten over what happened to me. You can too.

Just let it go.

[Mike-eeh and Odie 193]

There are Immigration officers that are not very aware of AP cards either, I know of a Filipina that came back from the Phils only to have the immigration officer hold her while he "learned" what an AP card was.

Oh, I know that, Hank. But you know when you "just know" that they know, but they act like they don't know, just to solicit a bribe?

[Hank_ 9,174]

Oh, I know that, Hank. But you know when you "just know" that they know, but they act like they don't know, just to solicit a bribe?

Yes I knew what you were saying before, well aware of the "ignorance" until...

But the scary is there are U.S. immigration officers that don't know what an AP card is.

[j&ana 363]

You all are funny telling me all this stuff. Yes I've moved on and have met someone else. Planning a trip to Phil. in November now to meet her.

Just so you know, my attorney says this civil case will be simple simple to win. What will happen is that she won't be able to pay it, could get in some trouble but no likely. But perhaps years from now she will be with a foreigner and prepare for a flight to his country. Upon boarding the aircraft she will be stopped and not allowed to fly unless the case is settled, at which time the new bf/fiance will have to pay it, which he'll want to know what's going one. Then I would likely get paid and she would have explaining to do. There's a method to my planning it's not revenge I just want my money back. Her trickery and deceit created a combination of sadness and anger. One always reaps what is sown.

Some things are not a simple as they seem. Again the Lawyer is going to tell you it a simple case. HE or she sees easy money

There is no law saying a person has to go thru with the visa process

Did you inform her and or her family that the money you give and spend on them need to be pay back?

Correct me if I am wrong but in another post you stated she is 22 would she not need a parent advice letter from her parents at the interview to come here and marry you? What is to prevent her from saying "my mom will not give me advice letter". Is it her fault or her parents fault then?

How do you know she even wants to find a decent guy and leave the Philippines. If she is a scammer she will have no desire to leave, she can just stay there and scam others.

So you are willing to spend more money to get less money

Simple case ok

Edited September 29, 2015 by j&ana

[j&ana 363]

If you really want some sort of satisfaction or revenge. There are websites where you can report the scammer. List her on every site you can and also make sure people in the Philippines knows. That should not cost you any thing it will be a lot less then lawyers fees. others will know also

Edited September 30, 2015 by j&ana

[CvM & LPC 0]

Do you have any other sort of experience trying to identify frauds and such? I just happened to stumble upon this feed and I ended up reading everyone's comments. When I read that you were worried about spending all this money for her family, etc. Now you will spend even more $$$ on a lawyer with no real results and another trip to PI with your new girlfriend that you just met? It sounds like you were in love with the idea of having someone and not really the girl, if you were able to move on that quickly. But anyway, if you think what you are doing is right, then more power to you. But from my seat visiting over a dozen 3rd-world countries and spending weeks in each of them, I am pretty sure she didn't love you at all.