How to deal with an EXTREMELY stubborn spouse?

[Boiler 45,505]

I do not see how it is a cultural issue.

[2far 185]

We have been compromising. We realize we have a hard road ahead, but we are willing to get through it together.

...unless you take this job opportunity with the living arrangements. Then he's leaving you.

I would have found some of your blind comments and lashing out to be cute, but then I realized that you are young and you are in way over your head.

Many have spoken with the voice of reason, but unfortunately you keep stomping your feet and plugging your ears, completely unwilling to hear what those that have walked your path already are saying.

It's time to grow up a little and consider that you may be wrong. It's possible that your "family" is unwilling to help you for some very legitimate reasons. It's also possible that his family is so nice and welcoming to you for reasons that you are unwilling to admit.

I wish you the best, but I don't see this working out long term. You can continue rationalizing your way trough this and whining about how no one understands you now...

[Darnell 8,478]

Are you not willing to bend yourself? It seems you are aligned with different poles, neither willing to shake their conviction. But marriage or any relationship means compromise in matters great and small, and communicating effectively as much as possible. If both are immoveable, there is deadlock, which is damaging to a healthy relationship

Are you not willing to compromise yourself? In the absence of any information relating to the content of the disagreement, it's not easy for us to give better counsel.

eh - if it's a decision about money and he's not there , i say just do it, stop asking his opinion about it - he doesn't understand usa money matters anyway. same thing if'n its about YOUR educational stuff in the USA - stop asking him about it, he doesn't have any base to give an informed opinion.

if'n he was face to face, i'd say bake a batch of Brownelles (chocolate brownies made with chocolate exlax bits) and give him several a day across a week. but that's just me.

I do note some cultural stuff, but suggest you blow it off and not address it at all,

as

his physical presence is an issue at the moment, and if'n he was actually there, I feel he'd 'forbid' you to do 'the thing'.

So for now, just do it, and not tell him anything about it.

[sorry Maves, I hijaaked yer reply]

[Darnell 8,478]

To everyone who replied in a constructive manner - I thank you truly. I just want to inform you all I will no longer ask for help or guidance on this site. I'm sorry for any inconvenience I've caused anyone. I wish you all well and again, sorry. I won't bother anyone with my posts ever again.

there's an option, see-able when logged in from a PC,

to

close yer account. If that seems the feasible path for you, well hey ! It's an option !