frightened and clueless...

[wishforhumility 0]

I need help. I married my wife in 2004, coming in under a K-1 visa. In all that time, we have

had very few battles, but a couple of major ones - when they have happened.

Because of her job, a travelling nurse, we were always moving from address to address, to

different states, from one end of the country to another, and this played havoc with our AOS

process for, just when we began to think we'd be in one place long enough - to file and be

able to get me permission to work - and do so, her job would move her again .. the stuff

would be sent to the wrong address, the mail wouldn't be forwarded, etc .. at one time, the

Service Center we sent the neccessary information to, lost *everything* - and told us flatly -

we had to start all over again.

Now, finally, after over 2 + 1/2 years and just months away from our 3rd wedding anniersary,

I have only just recieved my permanent resident card and a social security number, enabling

me to finally be able to start work. Now .. she tells me, she wants a divorce.

She "died" in 'complacency' about 9 months after we married.. I don't know why..and I tried

for the first year *solid* - to pick our marriage up and save it .. but she just has not wanted

to know.

Every principle we ever shared, that our marriage was based on, has gone straight out the

window. She won't talk to me, she won't pray with me, she gave up on all things spiritual

and emotional - for both of us, she won't look at me, she won't even touch me .. we sleep in

separate beds, and have done for months - as if it was normal .. but I have been the only one

who has complained about it. Her best friend "Rick", known from childhood, walks in - and it is

all smiles and laughs .. the dogs ... the precious pooches .. get more of a welcome home than

I do.

I have never, ever, tried to force anything on her. In fact, everything during those wonderful

first 9 months together - was very open. Instead she throws up a foolish comment I made in

an argument once as her reason for wanting the divorce, even though that comment came a

year after the complacency started, which killed us - and she even acknowledges this herself.

She helped me so much, during the whole process up til now, that I am panicked .. as I am

absolutely clueless as to what my options are, against being deported - and discarded like a

piece of garbage - just because she feels differently.

I'm about to take my driving test and start looking for work. She says "I'm not completely

heartless. I'll let you work for a bit so they'll let you stay." .. but I'm not so sure that it's as

cut-and-dry as that.

I don't care what happens to me, as long as I can stay here. I have nowhere and nothing else.

What do I do? Where do I go? Would it help if I was married to someone else? .. or better - is

there just some way I can file to continue, and live and work the rest of my life productively

here?

I am absolutely clueless, and really need help. Our nearest Service Center is Tennessee.

Thank you,

Wish.

[Ashleigh-Au 0]

I am sorry to hear of your situation...but you have a green card....you are a permanent resident....you can stay.

[wishforhumility 0]

But what about this I175 thing I keep hearing about? Don't I have to file for that after the

divorce or something .. and I'm not sure I have a green card, only a permanent resident

card .. and I thought that can be withdrawn under certain conditions .. hearing also that

authorities would want to question me on this divorce, to ensure it's bonafide .. before

deciding whether to deport me or not.

Isn't that also one of the other posts in this forum, that a guy was worried about being

deported also had the same as me?

[Jenn! 918]

This guide should help answer some of your questions:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...s-immigration-d

[Ashleigh-Au 0]

If you were married for more than 2 years at the time the Permanent residency card (aka Green Card) was granted you should have a 10 year card. When does the card expire?

[wishforhumility 0]

And how do I know I'm not a "Temporary Permanent Resident" even though I have my

Permanent Resident Card? [i don't know what an I-751 is]

[Ashleigh-Au 0]

is there an expiry date on the card?

[wishforhumility 0]

When does the card expire?

The card expires next year.

[wishforhumility 0]

is there an expiry date on the card?

Yes - it expires next year.

[Ashleigh-Au 0]

is there an expiry date on the card?

Yes - it expires next year.

in that case you should find out what an I 751 is....

[wishforhumility 0]

Yes - it expires next year.

in that case you should find out what an I 751 is....

So where do I find out what one is, where do I get it from, and do I start this

now? - because she hasn't filed for divorce yet.

[helpingafriend 0]

I have found a few things that may help - most importantly to answer the question of where to find the I-751 form..

US Immigration Forms www.usimmigrationsupport.org/subscription_forms.php?NS_cid=87

Lots of forms there, but the one in question is there and available to print. It appears that that I-751 form is used in the unfortunate event of a divorce, or other permanent change that affects the petitioner. As for whether or not you would want to do this before the divorce, I have not figured that one out yet.

While searching for that, I also found another site that may be of interest with others' experiences with this process..

I-751 Experiences www.skyweb.net/~rlls/intro/cprexptsc.html

I hope this helps. If someone else has any other information, please post. (this is all new to me, but I do try to help where I can)

-helpingafriend

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Yes - it expires next year.

First to get some information straight, form I-751 is the application to Remove Conditions from an alien's permanent residency, and this is performed 90 days prior to the expiry date on the conditional green card. Since your green card expires next year, you are not permitted to submit this application at this time. Check the exact date of expiration on that card, and calculate when 90 days before that date is. Bear in mind that the form is typically filed jointly with the US citizen spouse, and is sent along with all evidence that the parties are in a bona fide marriage and conducting their lives as husband and wife. (Evidence that they reside together and mingle their social and financial lives).

In the event that the marriage terminates in divorce prior to the filing deadline for form I-751, an alien can self-petition to remove the conditions, once he or she has a divorce decree without waiting until 90 days before the conditional green card expires. This process (self-petition) is commonly referred to as "Waiving the Joint Filing Requirement of form I-751". Once again, all the evidence should be submitted to demonstrate that the marriage was bona fide, but ended in divorce. The decree would be necessary to submit this waiver.

If the filing date arrives and you are not yet divorced, you can do one of two things. File jointly with you US citizen spouse, if she is willing, and if this petition is not adjudicated before you become legally divorced, replace it with a waiver once a divorce decree is available. Or, wait to become divorced and then file the waiver. If your conditional green card expires while waiting to file the waiver, you could be subject to removal, per USCIS regulations.

Edited February 24, 2007 by diadromous mermaid

[meauxna 15]

There is a forum at Visa Journey about Removing Conditions. You can find it here: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...amp;s=&f=86

[JenT 0]

I have found a few things that may help - most importantly to answer the question of where to find the I-751 form..

US Immigration Forms www.usimmigrationsupport.org/subscription_forms.php?NS_cid=87

Lots of forms there, but the one in question is there and available to print. It appears that that I-751 form is used in the unfortunate event of a divorce, or other permanent change that affects the petitioner. As for whether or not you would want to do this before the divorce, I have not figured that one out yet.

While searching for that, I also found another site that may be of interest with others' experiences with this process..

I-751 Experiences www.skyweb.net/~rlls/intro/cprexptsc.html

I hope this helps. If someone else has any other information, please post. (this is all new to me, but I do try to help where I can)

-helpingafriend

Uh, no. No need to pay for a subscription anywhere. Forms are available directly from USCIS:

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/men...00045f3d6a1RCRD

Edited February 27, 2007 by JenT