Wife abandoned in foreign country, need serious help please!

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Juani your need an attorney in the State where you will live, because the attorney has to go to the Court with you. I just represent people when I am convinced that they have an immigration case, and I believe the Court will not approve your case.

You have to think that you need a place to stay in the USA, because you will now show up in your husband's house right? He is a disgusting man, but he was very clear that he does not want to continue with the relationship anymore.I wish you the best. I rest my case,lol

Sandra, it will probably be Florida, and I have a friend in Miami who will let me stay at her house. On the other hand, my husband is sharing an apartment with his friend, and this friend said he will not deny me entrance. Of course, I won´t be going alone, specially knowing that my husband´s misstress is befriending on FB certain people that have been in an out of jail all their lives for things like cocaine trafficking, assault and armed robbery.

Do you know any attorney that you would recommend?

And just for the hell of asking, is there any way I can find my USCIS records? Are they even available to me?

Edited July 30, 2015 by Juani

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Filing a tax return as married, filing separately is perfectly legal and and appropriate, particularly as there is no "it's complicated" filing status - and it requires the social security number of the spouse. Not only that, but as someone else said earlier in this thread, spouses are not dependents for tax purposes. For veteran's benefits? I don't know. But, it could very well be that there is no "separated" option and veterans are either married or not with no in-between. That doesn't mean he's done anything criminal or underhanded. He could have just answered honestly. Someone who knows more could speak to that.

Meanwhile, going online and registering with a bank from abroad, accessing bank account information, changing a marital status from "separated" to "married", then cleaning out the balance? I don't know if there are legal penalties for that. That's another something that someone else who knows more could help you with, particularly if either the other account holder or the bank had a problem with it and, I don't know, filed a fraud claim or something, which may have happened because the account was closed. Who knows. It's possible.

As for your re-entry into the United States - it's a long shot. Working, going to school, having a life in another country for five years typically means someone lives in that country. Ailing parents and deceased pets aren't going to go very far in terms of reasons to stay out of the U.S.

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Meanwhile, going online and registering with a bank from abroad, accessing bank account information, changing a marital status from "separated" to "married", then cleaning out the balance? I don't know if there are legal penalties for that. That's another something that someone else who knows more could help you with, particularly if either the other account holder or the bank had a problem with it and, I don't know, filed a fraud claim or something, which may have happened because the account was closed. Who knows. It's possible.

It was a JOINT account that my husband opened for both of us. I didn´t even bother to register for my own username until I found out about his infidelity (which he was lying to me about, even after I suspected something wrong, to the point of convincing me and even make me feel guilty and apologize to him).

As for the marital status, it was HIM the one changing MINE from married to separated, until I called the bank to have it corrected and gave them specific orders of not allowing my husband access to my personal information. You got it backwards

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OP did the bank email you anything to sign re: your request? If theres a joint" & or either name "

a simple phone call wont do it....operative word "he opened acct" Changing the acct to single might

be a bad idea because it states you are no longer his wife & is agreeable on that, You would need

the bank card & PIN # to et money from the acct. Die to the money laundering act foreign and

intertwined US transactions are scrutinized & not only in very large sums.If not divorced why change it

to single?

No longer his wife and having a life in Spain will not be an easy sell to USCIS, however if you get your

foot in the door with that card to see an immigration judge , be sure to have docs showing all

the claims you made here and best wishes again

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The vast majority of the claims have nothing to do with the issue.

[belinda63 3,038]

So far all the proof she has that she didn't intend to abandon her residency is her word and maybe a bank account.

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I have my UK Bank account, left 11 years ago.

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OP did the bank email you anything to sign re: your request? If theres a joint" & or either name "

a simple phone call wont do it....operative word "he opened acct" Changing the acct to single might

be a bad idea because it states you are no longer his wife & is agreeable on that, You would need

the bank card & PIN # to et money from the acct. Die to the money laundering act foreign and

intertwined US transactions are scrutinized & not only in very large sums.If not divorced why change it

to single?

No longer his wife and having a life in Spain will not be an easy sell to USCIS, however if you get your

foot in the door with that card to see an immigration judge , be sure to have docs showing all

the claims you made here and best wishes again

It's bigger than that. The money in that account came from a lump sum Veterans benefit pay-out. Veterans benefits are protected from seizure - by federal law - and are not considered a marital asset.

She had no right to touch it.

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It's bigger than that. The money in that account came from a lump sum Veterans benefit pay-out. Veterans benefits are protected from seizure - by federal law - and are not considered a marital asset.

She had no right to touch it.

My husband was also working a regular job and never sent a dime to Spain during the whole year. On the contrary, he was spending it in strip clubs and alcohol. His side dish is also a well known piece in the area, has been arrested for marihuana possession and her friends aren't what you'd call the best company. She pretty much has been taking advantage of mentally weak soldiers since long ago, even make a guy join the Military and jump into Iraq just to take advantage of the benefits. She will crush him. The last person she added to her friend's list on Facebook is some ghetto individual who's been in and out of jail for cocaine trafficking, armed robbery, assault and such things. My husband is truly in danger right now. But if that's the life he wants, so be it. I just want to be able to rebuild mine with gainful employment and put my studies and skills to good use.

Like you said, it's bigger than that.

Edited August 1, 2015 by Juani

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You need to stop stalking his girlfriend. That is going to get you into trouble. He made his bed let him deal with it.

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OP did the bank email you anything to sign re: your request? If theres a joint" & or either name "

a simple phone call wont do it....operative word "he opened acct" Changing the acct to single might

be a bad idea because it states you are no longer his wife & is agreeable on that, You would need

the bank card & PIN # to et money from the acct. Die to the money laundering act foreign and

intertwined US transactions are scrutinized & not only in very large sums.If not divorced why change it

to single?

No longer his wife and having a life in Spain will not be an easy sell to USCIS, however if you get your

foot in the door with that card to see an immigration judge , be sure to have docs showing all

the claims you made here and best wishes again

I had my own username and password, that's the point, I just never bothered to check, out of pure trust for my husband. We are talking about an almost 11 year marriage here, you know.If my husband sleeps on a couch and is talking about moving to a bigger apartment in order to me to move soon with him, I put his own needs above mine (pretty much as I had been doing during all my marriage). He knew how to play the victim´s card well and I fell for his trap. He was lying to me and made me a lot of promises of a future together. The moment he got the regular paycheck from the VA is precisely when his mistress came into play. She smelled the money a mile away.

This stupid midlife crisis my husband is having will cost him his mental health, I know

I on the other hand got registered for using the account AFTER I found out about his infidelity. And the amount I got was insignificant, bare $2700 total. It was then when he closed the account and gave orders to the bank to list me as "separated" and took me out the car´s insurance policy. I had to call the bank telling them what my husband had done. The guy on the phone couldn´t believe it.

Meanwhile, he´s still listed as "married". He´s trying to claim that it was me the one leaving him. I had tried to contact him to no avail, sent him a few messages but nothing. I had talked to his friend and he told me that he will corroborate everything.

I know he´s using this to play his ptsd card too. You don´t break a 12 year relationship over a 10 minutes Skype call, after betraying your wife in such a coward manner. He even had his side dish sending me derogatory messages and threatening me, I have all her rantings as well. It´s just so cruel and humiliating. He took away all my trust and innocence, I cannot allow him to screw my future too.

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You need to stop stalking his girlfriend. That is going to get you into trouble. He made his bed let him deal with it.

You are absolutely correct. But I´m just finding out that my whole life has been crushed in the most cruel way and feelings are still very strong.

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UPDATE: Miracles DO exist! Mine was performed in the way of putting in my path the nicest CBP guys that could possibly be found.

I made it, I'm currently back in this wonderful country and will for sure be very careful about this second chance I was blessed with.

I'm currently working in an amazing company, with wonderful people around that have been giving me hope and faith in my future. I came here completely broken and thanks to them I'm on the wonderful path of rebuilding myself.

I want to thank everybody who participated in this topic for their priceless advice and support, I feel so blessed right now.

It's like I had never left. So far I got my state ID, my driving permit and a full time job. I want to make things right and walk the path to become a part of this country!

Any advice for me? I guess I need to make peace with the IRS for all the time my husband mislead me, but on the other hand I guess he always claimed me on his taxes (whenever he paid them, that is), so I'm quite lost on this subject and need your wise counsels. Of course he doesn't know I made it back, for all he knows my GC is revoked. I'm afraid he'd try to harm me if he knew, so neither him nor his family know anything. We are still currently married as far as I know and he will not try to come to terms with me.

Thanks again everybody.

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Good for you! Thanks for returning with the positive update.

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Thank you! Now, like I said, I truly want to make things right and be able to obtain my citizenship.

I suppose the physical presence requirements restart the day I reentered the country, right? And being I am still married but no cohabiting with my husband, would that also affect the time needed to become a citizen? I guess I'd have to wait 5 years instead of 3, correct?

Also, my GC is valid until 2018, so I guess I'd have to apply for a renewal of it before I can naturalize. Which I don't think is a big deal.

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