Surprise! Surprise! Surprise!!!!!

[yamilet 0]

wow, im sorry to hear this, i hope everything will work for the best.

[alone 0]

Hi Kevin, Sorry to hear about you and your lady. Since you posted this I've thought about it and read all the replies. My Sweetie and I have had a long discussion about this, and tried to put ourselves in your position. It is difficult and painful to even think about this situation happening to us. You see I cannot live without my Sweetie. If she would not move here, and that was the only reason, then I would move there but living without her is not an option.

There are a few rules I try to live by. One is to pick your fights carefully, don't be hasty to engage in any and every battle that comes along. When you do enter a fight, make damn sure you are willing to pay any price to win. Count the cost BEFORE you go into it, but also count what it would be like to live without the victory.

Another rule is: if it is worth living for, it is worth dying for. Three things, God, Family, Country, in that order of priority are worth livng and dying for to me. If my Sweetie told me the same news you have just received, and the only reason was she was scared to come the USA, then I would be on her doorstep as soon as possible. I would stay there until we worked it out or they killed me. As I said, I can't live without her, and don't plan to live without her. I would beg if that would do any good, I would beg her father, her brothers, or anyone else that I thought might make a difference. Because love is not love until it you give it away. Every day I want to make my Sweetie feel like the most wonderful, most beautiful, most fantastic lady in the whole world, because to me she is. Every day I want to make her the happiest lady in the world, those are my goals. I am not ashamed to say these things to you and the rest of the world, because I want everyone to know how much I love this lady, and will do whatever is necessary to be with her the rest of our lives.

I was looking forward to meeting your fiance as our interviews are on the same day as you know. Keep in touch, and hang in there. If you really love this girl, then fight for her.

Dean

Wow, Very well said Dean!!!

[azcactus 0]

Hi Kevin, Sorry to hear about you and your lady. Since you posted this I've thought about it and read all the replies. My Sweetie and I have had a long discussion about this, and tried to put ourselves in your position. It is difficult and painful to even think about this situation happening to us. You see I cannot live without my Sweetie. If she would not move here, and that was the only reason, then I would move there but living without her is not an option.

There are a few rules I try to live by. One is to pick your fights carefully, don't be hasty to engage in any and every battle that comes along. When you do enter a fight, make damn sure you are willing to pay any price to win. Count the cost BEFORE you go into it, but also count what it would be like to live without the victory.

Another rule is: if it is worth living for, it is worth dying for. Three things, God, Family, Country, in that order of priority are worth livng and dying for to me. If my Sweetie told me the same news you have just received, and the only reason was she was scared to come the USA, then I would be on her doorstep as soon as possible. I would stay there until we worked it out or they killed me. As I said, I can't live without her, and don't plan to live without her. I would beg if that would do any good, I would beg her father, her brothers, or anyone else that I thought might make a difference. Because love is not love until it you give it away. Every day I want to make my Sweetie feel like the most wonderful, most beautiful, most fantastic lady in the whole world, because to me she is. Every day I want to make her the happiest lady in the world, those are my goals. I am not ashamed to say these things to you and the rest of the world, because I want everyone to know how much I love this lady, and will do whatever is necessary to be with her the rest of our lives.

I was looking forward to meeting your fiance as our interviews are on the same day as you know. Keep in touch, and hang in there. If you really love this girl, then fight for her.

Dean

I wish she would have fellt that way. Talked to her last nite asked her why and what could I do and all of the questions Begged her ( even tho I don;t do that) to reconsider and to think about it some more. We will see.

Not sure why so many people are giving azcactus such a hard time without really knowing the details, as if there's an expected way to grief. The man is emoting in his own special way. Give the man some respect and let him grief the way he wants to. If it makes him feel better to trash his ex-fiancee, let him be. Instead of speaking ill of a man in grief (whichever way that's to be defined) give the guy condolences or don't say anything at all. We're all different, that's just the way it is. You and azcactus will not grief the same way.

As for going back to the Phillipines in search of women, that's his prerogative. Just remember, azcactus, that you probably won't find your "true love" in a matter of days or even weeks. If you think you found it you're only fooling yourself. Finding the right person takes time.

So how did you meet your mate?

[GabachaYucateca 0]

Well, how did she respond when you asked her to reconsider?

[azcactus 0]

Hi Kevin, Sorry to hear about you and your lady. Since you posted this I've thought about it and read all the replies. My Sweetie and I have had a long discussion about this, and tried to put ourselves in your position. It is difficult and painful to even think about this situation happening to us. You see I cannot live without my Sweetie. If she would not move here, and that was the only reason, then I would move there but living without her is not an option.

There are a few rules I try to live by. One is to pick your fights carefully, don't be hasty to engage in any and every battle that comes along. When you do enter a fight, make damn sure you are willing to pay any price to win. Count the cost BEFORE you go into it, but also count what it would be like to live without the victory.

Another rule is: if it is worth living for, it is worth dying for. Three things, God, Family, Country, in that order of priority are worth livng and dying for to me. If my Sweetie told me the same news you have just received, and the only reason was she was scared to come the USA, then I would be on her doorstep as soon as possible. I would stay there until we worked it out or they killed me. As I said, I can't live without her, and don't plan to live without her. I would beg if that would do any good, I would beg her father, her brothers, or anyone else that I thought might make a difference. Because love is not love until it you give it away. Every day I want to make my Sweetie feel like the most wonderful, most beautiful, most fantastic lady in the whole world, because to me she is. Every day I want to make her the happiest lady in the world, those are my goals. I am not ashamed to say these things to you and the rest of the world, because I want everyone to know how much I love this lady, and will do whatever is necessary to be with her the rest of our lives.

I was looking forward to meeting your fiance as our interviews are on the same day as you know. Keep in touch, and hang in there. If you really love this girl, then fight for her.

Dean

Dean with all due respect I am not independently wealthy and could not move my children there. I would not subject them to going from first world to third world just because Nerissa decided she doesn't love me or doesn't want to live in USA. Fortunately for me there are many many many women there who do want to live here. I am certain that I can find one in the 100,000's that I can click with. At least why I am there I can try to see Nerissa if she wants to and find out what her fears really are. I can tell you that she is the work horse there and provides for her mom teenage brother her own daughter and her 23 y/o brother when he's not working which is most of the time according to her. I think as the interview date approached her family, and she told me they adviced her against going to USA because they were afraid they would starve and have no money. Even tho her mom is only 46 she doesn't work because she is unskilled.

[azcactus 0]

Well, how did she respond when you asked her to reconsider?

She told me her mind was made up.

[s2convt 0]

It's easy to assume who is right or wrong when there is a break up. The OP has his own why of dealing with heartbreak and we all need to respect that. We don't know all the details that led to his loss, and should not judge.

I agree with with the OP's reaction. To begin a break up by not answering his phone calls and then telling him on YM is gutless and shameful. There is not only one person to blame.

To the OP. Do what makes you happy and I hope you find peace in all this.

Edited February 24, 2007 by s2convt

[esojrd 0]

So how did you meet your mate?

I've known my mate for 4 years before we even started going out. She lived in the US with her sister and we used to go out (me and her along with a few other people) about every other weekend. Nothing special, just going out and having fun as a group. She finally went back to her country and one day I asked her sister what happened to her since I haven't seen her in a long time. Her sister told me that she went back to her country and gave me her phone number if I wanted to call her. I called her and we started talking every day after that.

You see, our relationship didn't materialize in a few days or weeks. It actually took 4 years for us to realize we had feelings for each other.

[azcactus 0]

So how did you meet your mate?

I've known my mate for 4 years before we even started going out. She lived in the US with her sister and we used to go out (me and her along with a few other people) about every other weekend. Nothing special, just going out and having fun as a group. She finally went back to her country and one day I asked her sister what happened to her since I haven't seen her in a long time. Her sister told me that she went back to her country and gave me her phone number if I wanted to call her. I called her and we started talking every day after that.

You see, our relationship didn't materialize in a few days or weeks. It actually took 4 years for us to realize we had feelings for each other.

You are one lucky guy. I would say the majority of us had not had that luxury of meeting a foreigner like that. We use the internet probably.

[azcactus 0]

Hi Everyone....Great news, I am going to PI on my trip as planned before she dumped on me. I am looking forward to seeing the sights and have one young (32) lady who has agreed to show me around the area. She is a college grad and works for BPI as an admin asst. and has secured the week off for leave. She really makes me laugh and realize that it's just the nature of the game that somethings don't always work out the way WE PLANNED. Will check back in now and again and maybe better news will follow.As far as the former fiananceme' she and I have agreed to meet to exchange personal documents that we each obtained from the other during the process. I am just glad that she showed her true "qualities of love" before coming to USA. I have read in other forums about those ladies. Hope to gets lots of pics to share.

Kevin

[Niels Bohr 72]

GOOD LUCK ON YOUR JOURNEY!

I hope things work out for you!

[David-and-Mae 15]

Looks like things really didn't work out for you and your ex-fiancee. Anyhow, I hope you'll have fun on your trip back here in PI. It seems like you have found (again?) the girl that you want to spend wonderful days here... Good luck to you! May you find the true happiness and love that you've been looking for. Have a safe trip!

Mae

[Bobbie 1]

Dear Kevin:

Im really sorry to hear this. A break up is tough, much less one that everyone works so hard to put together. I think she must have missed the fact that western union sends money straight away every where. Again, ...my thoughts are with you.

Bobbie

[MM_MS 0]

I would be devastated if I got news like this. I know I can be a smart#&* at the drop of a dime ... but am nauseated by this post. The more I read, the more sick I feel.

It makes me sooooo grateful for the relationship I have. After reading this post, I feel like the luckiest woman walking the planet!

[Mononoke28 135]

It makes me sooooo grateful for the relationship I have. After reading this post, I feel like the luckiest woman walking the planet!

Amen!