fighting a lot in marriage jealously wife and her family

[iamsad 1]

Hi,Everyone Appreciate your help

we have been marriage over 7 years thought internet i come to us 2 years ago on IR1 Visa I have 10 years green card Since I come to states I see so many wrong things happen to me I see a lot of things been apart from my wife and her family distory everything I know She been cheating with me during my process times for visa Application I find out so many wrongs things and lie has been telling me over the internet from past few years when i come to states everything was different I come to junk house which is have no door nothing her kids been living in this house with her and they distory everything staring bed room to kitchen and guest room everything they left empty stole money jewelry one of her son is die last year and her daughter is still around trying to tell her mom she wanna come back to home with us which is unfair she have boy friend she is 30 years old she hate me i don't like her she been calling me names and she don't respect me and my wife is all cared about her mother and grandkids i have no family here i have no friends i don't know anyone here i don't go out side with anyone i am stay home all day and night feeling person er coz of her she is so jealous everytime some things come up she is scraming and yelling at my face some times she trying to hit me which is i respect her and i am trying to save my marriage she making me pay all bills and which is i do and i am trying to save my marriage god knows i am trying but i do not love her anymore after that everything she do to me and her family is so rude and disrespect specially her mother i just cant stand it anymore everytime i am trying to talk about move on she said she will call to immgration office to take my green card from me and everything i have nice job she is get jealous from me and my everything last week i buy me new cell phone she got so freak out about it i cant wear no clothes i cant wear no new shoes i can't wear nothing new she so jealous she is old maybe i am young coz of that but she was not like that before she was nice now she is getting rude hateful and not nice person anymore i have nothing against her but i trying to tell her to be clam down talk nice she dont listen she is on some kids of medicines which is she is always so sick all the time and she trying to control me and my life which is not gonna happen now i am trying to move on i cant stand this fighting and this marriage anymore even thought i left her in home i will still pay her bills and everything but she need to leave me the hell alone she is so jealous of everything i am trying to get i have no car nothing right everytime i am telling her i need car and getting something she got pissed off and said that i need to pay her bills first she dont care or give about what i am getting or not she is behind of some bills i am trying to cut like internet and orther also she been eating 75000$ from college student loan u can call it maybe they been calling her to pay this money back she do not have nothing she been disable since 1999 and she getting monthly check from government every month my marriage has been faith and i enter to faith marriage and we been married 7 years and i come to us 2 years ago so she is not nice person anymore i am trying so hard to work on everything she dont cared or do anything all she cared about her family which is unfair i need some help please i want to move on she keep said she will derport me to thought and witness of someone idk her drugs friends she been smoking with them from long time i dont know anyone i dont smoke i dont drinks i cant understand it anything at all

Appreciate your help

[Cheezees 1,514]

US citizens ALWAYS threaten to deport their green-card holding spouses. Go ahead and divorce her. You already have your 10 year green card and she DOES NOT have the power to deport anyone.

Again, get divorced as soon as possible. She cannot do anything to you. Don't tell her you're leaving. Just leave and then file for divorce. Good luck!

[Moustafa/Crystal 65]

Make a plan...find a nice cheap place to rent. Maybe even a cheap hotel for a week or two. Pack up your things and leave. Contact legal aid or save up a bit of money and file for divorce.

As my husband says, you are free here in America. You do not have to stay if you do not like it.

[Boiler 45,525]

What country are you from?

Edited July 20, 2015 by Boiler

[kkk1 42]

Hi,Everyone Appreciate your help

we have been marriage over 7 years thought internet i come to us 2 years ago on IR1 Visa I have 10 years green card Since I come to states I see so many wrong things happen to me I see a lot of things been apart from my wife and her family distory everything I know She been cheating with me during my process times for visa Application I find out so many wrongs things and lie has been telling me over the internet from past few years when i come to states everything was different I come to junk house which is have no door nothing her kids been living in this house with her and they distory everything staring bed room to kitchen and guest room everything they left empty stole money jewelry one of her son is die last year and her daughter is still around trying to tell her mom she wanna come back to home with us which is unfair she have boy friend she is 30 years old she hate me i don't like her she been calling me names and she don't respect me and my wife is all cared about her mother and grandkids i have no family here i have no friends i don't know anyone here i don't go out side with anyone i am stay home all day and night feeling person er coz of her she is so jealous everytime some things come up she is scraming and yelling at my face some times she trying to hit me which is i respect her and i am trying to save my marriage she making me pay all bills and which is i do and i am trying to save my marriage god knows i am trying but i do not love her anymore after that everything she do to me and her family is so rude and disrespect specially her mother i just cant stand it anymore everytime i am trying to talk about move on she said she will call to immgration office to take my green card from me and everything i have nice job she is get jealous from me and my everything last week i buy me new cell phone she got so freak out about it i cant wear no clothes i cant wear no new shoes i can't wear nothing new she so jealous she is old maybe i am young coz of that but she was not like that before she was nice now she is getting rude hateful and not nice person anymore i have nothing against her but i trying to tell her to be clam down talk nice she dont listen she is on some kids of medicines which is she is always so sick all the time and she trying to control me and my life which is not gonna happen now i am trying to move on i cant stand this fighting and this marriage anymore even thought i left her in home i will still pay her bills and everything but she need to leave me the hell alone she is so jealous of everything i am trying to get i have no car nothing right everytime i am telling her i need car and getting something she got pissed off and said that i need to pay her bills first she dont care or give ###### about what i am getting or not she is behind of some bills i am trying to cut like internet and orther also she been eating 75000$ from college student loan u can call it maybe they been calling her to pay this money back she do not have nothing she been disable since 1999 and she getting monthly check from government every month my marriage has been faith and i enter to faith marriage and we been married 7 years and i come to us 2 years ago so she is not nice person anymore i am trying so hard to work on everything she dont cared or do anything all she cared about her family which is unfair i need some help please i want to move on she keep said she will derport me to thought and witness of someone idk her drugs friends she been smoking with them from long time i dont know anyone i dont smoke i dont drinks i cant understand it anything at all

Appreciate your help

Sorry that you are suffering this much. Also sorry to say your wife has some mental issue same as my soon to be ex wife had. If you sit down with her and talk that will not make any change. For this matter you need to run away from her as much as you can to save yourself. You can't save marriage, when partner is stubborn and acting irrational. The more you will try to save more it will destroy. YOU NEED TO SAVE YOURSELF FROM ABUSE. Save yourself. Shift to some shelter if you don't have money and then try to find job. You need to give detail like in which state you are. After you provide detail you, people will post helpful things on this and will try to save you from miseries. Bring yourself together and try to save yourself. She can't make you deport. Best wishes.

Edited July 20, 2015 by kkk1

[Darnell 8,478]

Nice to see you back ! We gave you some great advice 3 months ago when last you visited - what happened since then?

[Boiler 45,525]

Forgot his login?

[iamsad 1]

Thank you all so much for best wishes and comment And Yes I forget my login Id and password I am so stress now days I am making plan to Move on one day she is sweet another day is she is Hell I just can't understand anything at all But I know I don't love her and She knows it too after all this things happen to me and she treat me like so I won't be longer to be here This is best place to come help from people I really Love Visa Journey and so nice people here Thank you all again for support and love I am just alone and I need to starning working hard to save money like get a cheap place and I have job but I will look to see if I can find a cheap car I am still working on everything but thank you all again and best wishes for you all

[Jawaree 717]

So OP you have a job dude why not move out, you were told get a room

you have a job, ppl really should know a person well B4 marriage especially

where theres an age & culture difference....which lend credence to 2 sides

to a story.

[Sandra G. 5,048]

Divorce and move on. Change your phone number otherwise she will call you 24/7.

[Idy Fdez 34]

What marriage are you trying to save? Sorry but it's clear... there's no love there!! Move out, file for divorce ASAP and be happy!!

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

Your marriage sounds like hell. Run like the wind, file for divorce and laugh at her loudly if she threatens to get you deported. She can't.

[JeanF 32]

Get out.

As quickly as possible. This relationship sounds poisonous for you both, you need your happiness bro.

[D N Medellin COL 75]

First piece of advice is to use a period (.) at the end of each sentence. Second is get out, get a divorce and move on.

Good luck to you.

[Boiler 45,525]

First piece of advice is to use a period (.) at the end of each sentence. Second is get out, get a divorce and move on.

Good luck to you.

English only in the upper forums please. It is a full stop.