Stress of the Visa Process Wrecking Our Relationship

[Shauneg 762]

Lol.

I dont mean to make this worst than it's already between you guys. But if this visa process is the reason for her to stress you out then yea I would take a second to think about it. Is it you she wanted or what? Please take a look at my timeline, It has been 7 months since I sent off the paper and still waiting for our approval. My fiancee and I talk everyday, anytime we could. This is personal but even when showering we still leave the webcam on. And all night when one of us is asleep ( 12 hours different between us). Instead of stressing me out over this visa process, my fiancee has always been very supportive. I wish you best of luck

[Chris&Angel 5]

Patients and Faith, it's something both of you need in your relationship, what your going through is known as the "Test of Time", the waiting time is that "test", you've gone this far in the process, which it the hardest part of the process, now is not the time to give up. Kept the Faith and have patients, if your relationship is "True Love", then you both will see it to the end, stay positive.

I have been down both the K1 and CR1 roads, Skype everyday if possible, I think the time diffference is about 13 hours from a West Coast to the Philippines, see how you to can work this into a daily video chat, your USA mornings and her Philippines evenings, you'll need this as evidence anyway to prove your communicating, use the snip-it tool for screen captures.

[HeandI 48]

I dont mean to make this worst than it's already between you guys. But if this visa process is the reason for her to stress you out then yea I would take a second to think about it. Is it you she wanted or what? Please take a look at my timeline, It has been 7 months since I sent off the paper and still waiting for our approval. My fiancee and I talk everyday, anytime we could. This is personal but even when showering we still leave the webcam on. And all night when one of us is asleep ( 12 hours different between us). Instead of stressing me out over this visa process, my fiancee has always been very supportive. I wish you best of luck

They are so many ways to stay close while waiting. Even if she paranoid about not getting the visa, then the will alway be option of getting married and file for another visa. By the way, my husband n i used to sleep with each other on skype and if either of us wakes up in the night, we end the call and go back to sleep. Tomorrow is always one day closer to be with each other.

[Mabenita 5]

Been there, done that.. Everyone went into the same process. Not only were stressing our relationship bec of the visa process but also our relationship itself.. The trust, understanding...and so on..

But hey, he's sleeping beside me now. And our wedding will be next week. Goodluck on ur journey!

[raven52 233]

It really sounds like she is the one who is about to run out of patience. If being apart, for 2 months, is about to cause your relationship to come apart, then I wonder what living together in a marriage, and dealing with every day life of surviving in a marriage. This economy is not in stable, jobs are scarce, and wages are low.

I would just have to question, just how stable this relationship is. Since you have your NOA 2, you have the hard part done. But, be ready for the unexpected, as I went to Cebu, to get my wife in January, she did not enter the USA until April 24, 2013.

THINGS, happen is this process, things you could never imagine, it just "smacks you in the face" you have to be ready for the unexpected.

This process is long. This process will not be easy. If she cannot "roll with the punch" then I would be very careful with her.

[Shauneg 762]

It really sounds like she is the one who is about to run out of patience. If being apart, for 2 months, is about to cause your relationship to come apart, then I wonder what living together in a marriage, and dealing with every day life of surviving in a marriage. This economy is not in stable, jobs are scarce, and wages are low.

I would just have to question, just how stable this relationship is. Since you have your NOA 2, you have the hard part done. But, be ready for the unexpected, as I went to Cebu, to get my wife in January, she did not enter the USA until April 24, 2013.

THINGS, happen is this process, things you could never imagine, it just "smacks you in the face" you have to be ready for the unexpected.

This process is long. This process will not be easy. If she cannot "roll with the punch" then I would be very careful with her.

Two months is a drop in the bucket for most folks. If that's hard to deal with than expect more difficulties ahead.

[Project_Harajuku 28]

If you really love each other you will wait it out, you have come so far already. Ur at NOA2, you should be elated!

My fiancé is in the military and currently deployed and I won't see him till December. He's been gone since May so that's like 7 months. Once we are married I know that being a Navy wife will come with a lot more distance due to his job responsibilities. This visa process and his current deployment is preparing me for what we will endure as a married couple. I'm willing to wait for him because he's my soulmate and I love him very much and proud of what he sacrifices for his country.

I believe that this process only serves to make out relationship stronger becaus if we can go through this then we can face anything. Relationships will not always be a bed of roses, there will be tough times. Use this as practice for what's to come. The most important thing in this process is to support each other, yes it can feel frustrating at times but realistically there's nothing either of you can do about it. Just suck it up and stay strong.

There's a light at the end of every tunnel once you have the will to endure!! I wish you guys all the best.

Edited June 18, 2015 by Project_Harajuku

[OmairButt 0]

Dear,

I was married last year. My wife is a US green card holder. We lived only 3 months together. Its been over one year now she is in US.

I cannot tell how hard it is for me to pass this time. I do not know my case will take atleast one year or more to complete.

Its true that it is extreamly difficult to have patience. But truely speaking we do not have any other option than to have patience. Because we have opted it by ourselves to marry or engage to a US green card holder/citizen. We all knew at the time or marriage or engagement that this will happened. But chosed this intentionally. So now we can only wait and wait.

[marriedguy 34]

I agree with you.

Dear,

I was married last year. My wife is a US green card holder. We lived only 3 months together. Its been over one year now she is in US.

I cannot tell how hard it is for me to pass this time. I do not know my case will take atleast one year or more to complete.

Its true that it is extreamly difficult to have patience. But truely speaking we do not have any other option than to have patience. Because we have opted it by ourselves to marry or engage to a US green card holder/citizen. We all knew at the time or marriage or engagement that this will happened. But chosed this intentionally. So now we can only wait and wait.