My Wife Needs a Divorce

[firstbenjamin 0]

I came here about 2 yrs ago, K1, and my wife, who was then my fiance had filed for me. We had everything going on fine with us, until we got to know eachother some more. I guess the 90 days we had to get married was too short to know if we were totally compatible.

We have been having a lot of marital problems, and have been blaming eachother for that. Left to me, I just believe we are totally different to get along...yeah, its like my brains turned upside down is the shape of her brain. She moved out of our home about six months ago, that seemed like relief, and all of a sudden showed up yesterday with divorce papers. Her reason being that she can't get along with me. I know i have to be my exact opposite to get along with her, and that's very hard.

My question is this--- I know we have to file the Removal of conditions stuff together, and when we're divorced that'll be hard. what happens to me? Does that make me subject to deportation? Do I need to marry again to stay? Pls any comment would matter to me now

[wannabe_texan 0]

Sorry to hear about your issues

You can apply for Removal of Conditions by yourself, but you'll need to show the marriage was bona fide, so start gathering all the evidence you can. Also you'll have to follow some strict guidelines for filing depending on whether your divorce is finalized or not, by the time you need to apply for the I751. Mexauna has some good posts/stickies about this.

You can check out the Effects of Major Family Change forum for more guidance....

Hope this helps...

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lol

[almaty 19]

damn man, firstbenajamin..you have the worst luck or is it your friends....thanks for the entertainment..

[almaty 19]

damn man, firstbenajamin..you have the worst luck or is it your friends....thanks for the entertainment..

worth a double post..roflmao

Edited February 19, 2007 by almaty

[wannabe_texan 0]

Darn - I guess I don't know who the trolls are around here - I don't know why I respond to posts - I should just keep quiet...

[ceriserose 1]

Darn - I guess I don't know who the trolls are around here - I don't know why I respond to posts - I should just keep quiet...

heh, you'd need a very large scorecard to keep track. Don't worry about it.

[Aussielad 37]

wasnt firstbejamin the one who had the phillipine g/f and went to disney together like almost 2 years ago? then came back and wanted to be with a 16yr old or something? lol.

forget where that thread is or what its even called...

[jolanda 0]

wasnt firstbejamin the one who had the phillipine g/f and went to disney together like almost 2 years ago? then came back and wanted to be with a 16yr old or something? lol.

forget where that thread is or what its even called...

That was a different source of entertainment

[tweety 1]

lol some names you just don't forget...

[karlehoney 0]

that's a tough situation1 Hope people here are taking things seriously. Some people do ask for help!!!

[firstbenjamin 0]

damn man, firstbenajamin..you have the worst luck or is it your friends....thanks for the entertainment..

worth a double post..roflmao

Darn - I guess I don't know who the trolls are around here - I don't know why I respond to posts - I should just keep quiet...

Darn - I guess I don't know who the trolls are around here - I don't know why I respond to posts - I should just keep quiet...

heh, you'd need a very large scorecard to keep track. Don't worry about it.

wasnt firstbejamin the one who had the phillipine g/f and went to disney together like almost 2 years ago? then came back and wanted to be with a 16yr old or something? lol.

forget where that thread is or what its even called...

wasnt firstbejamin the one who had the phillipine g/f and went to disney together like almost 2 years ago? then came back and wanted to be with a 16yr old or something? lol.

forget where that thread is or what its even called...

That was a different source of entertainment

I have a problem understanding these posts, my predicament is really easy to understand, and I'm here to get an advice. do people here stay quiet if they dont have any response to a post? Pls ADVISE if u can.

[akdiver 3]

So get a divorce and go back to whatever country you were living in before you came to America. After all, you only came here to be with your wife, right? So what's the problem?

[Ta Ta 1]

Take the advice of wannabe texan. Look in the forum : Effects of major changes........

Others have been in your situation and are able to stay without any problem.

Consult an immigration attorney if you can, maybe just for a free consultation if money is tight.

I am very sorry for your marital issues and I know you are sincere.

I feel sad for you that you got so many negative comments here.

Try posting in the above mentioned forum to get help.

I don't know why people act the way they do and assume every beneficiary with a marital

problem is a troll or only here because of a green card.

Divorce is stressful enough without adding rude comments and passing judgements.

Marriages fall apart sometimes. If that rubs some the wrong way or threatens their own

comfort zone it is better to say nothing.

Have some compassion here !

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I came here about 2 yrs ago, K1, and my wife, who was then my fiance had filed for me. We had everything going on fine with us, until we got to know eachother some more. I guess the 90 days we had to get married was too short to know if we were totally compatible.

We have been having a lot of marital problems, and have been blaming eachother for that. Left to me, I just believe we are totally different to get along...yeah, its like my brains turned upside down is the shape of her brain. She moved out of our home about six months ago, that seemed like relief, and all of a sudden showed up yesterday with divorce papers. Her reason being that she can't get along with me. I know i have to be my exact opposite to get along with her, and that's very hard.

My question is this--- I know we have to file the Removal of conditions stuff together, and when we're divorced that'll be hard. what happens to me? Does that make me subject to deportation? Do I need to marry again to stay? Pls any comment would matter to me now

If you have a conditional green card, divorcing the US citizen spouse should not affect your ability to remain in the USA. You will need to demonstrate the bona fide nature of your marriage and show that your intent upon marrying was not for immigration benefit alone. Gather all the documentation you have that shows co-mingling of financial affairs, tax returns filed as married, and any evidence you have that you were residing in the same home from the period when you first married until the date she filed for divorce. This will accompany the petition to remove conditions. As a divorced alien, you can submit the form I-751 alone. This is known as self-petitioning, or commonly referred to as waiving the joint filing requirement. You will need to finalise the divorce prior to submitting a waiver of the form I-751 to remove conditions from your permanent residence.

If your wife is amenable, you can file that form I-751 jointly, even in spite of the fact that a divorce is pending. However, if you later become divorced, this joint petition would have to be withdrawn and replaced with a waiver. The regulations stipulate that the Servica cannot adjudicate a joint petition if the parties' marriage is now legally terminated or annuled.

If your wife is not amenable to a joint filing of form I-751, your only option is to get the marriage terminated quickly, and await the divorce decree in order to submit the waiver.