Waiting on my I-129F

[Team MicVic! 46]

Yes good point. Research is a must. The Internet provides a wealth of background information and some at no cost.

Exactly ! I totally agree. One should also investigate a little bit to search out online digital tracks of someone they meet, online or offline.

Amazing what you can find out when you know how.

Edited June 14, 2015 by Team MicVic!

[Socialwork4god 11]

I've done my homework on him thank you very much. Enough is enough. I appreciate the support and guidance but please stop bashing my relationship

[marriedguy 34]

I think you should take a loan and take a trip there, and meet him in person. Nigeria is a safe place, I have been to places far worse, scariest place might be Iraq ISIS territory, they cut people's head of then put it on a stake I doubt they do that in Nigeria.

Edited June 14, 2015 by marriedguy

[marriedguy 34]

I have spent over $100000 dollars, and my wife is still not here with me, so go figure. It takes so much time and money to make this things happen.

It is not likely that he will be granted a tourist visa, he must show very strong ties to his country (research this site what that is) to qualify

and even with strong ties evidence he probably won't get it and there goes money down the drain again which you don't have to waste.

Make a loan, borrow it if you have to and go during off season when you can find a cheaper ticket.

Go to the Sub-Saharan forum and ask where they got their tickets online and where is a safe place to stay in the city he lives in.

Nigeria is totally safe if you understand the country on a deeper level not just listen to the surface stories.

Meet his family and friends. Extremely important for your embassy !!!!!

Get to know one another. Take lots and lots of photos with his family as evidence for your next petition.

Research here what front loading means and follow that advice. You can keep wasting hundreds of dollars just winging it or you can

take the advice from those who have gone before you and get it right.

I advise you to visit at least 2 to 3 times before you file because weekly we hear of denials for not enough time spend together.

If you can stay for a couple of month even better to really immerse yourself into the culture and family.

This is a very difficult journey and there will be many bumps on the road.

We were denied with 4 trips and it took us 5 years to be together.
Get to know each other face to face, not just screen time, you can also marry there IF you are certain he is the one and file a CR1 instead.

When K1's get refused and returned they expire, a spousal visa CR1 has a second chance to overcome any potential hurdles.

You have a lot of thinking to do.

Just don't blindly jump into marriage or engagement not having spend time together.

If I had a dollar for every time someone on here 100% believed their relationship was real but they were used for a green card I would

have a sack full of money.
No one wants to believe that their relationship is not real until it happens to them and they become a statistic.

I don't think it's right for someone to tell you to run just because their relationship went sour but I am a firm believer in getting to really know

someone face to face before taking such a huge step. Reality and romance don't mix sometimes and you have to get out of your

heart and into your head to think things through.

I really wish you the very best and a successful journey with your next petition.

If you don't get several visits in your K1 will likely be denied and you have wasted time and money and have to start over a third time.

Before you know it you have spend thousands of dollars and wasted several years and still aren't together.

Take it slow and get it right.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

I've done my homework on him thank you very much. Enough is enough. I appreciate the support and guidance but please stop bashing my relationship

I am not the one who bashed your relationship so I am not sure who you directed this second 'enough is enough' comment to.

I have been nothing but supportive with common sense advice.

By the way....my husband is Nigerian and we are very happy and I wish you the same.

I don't know you or your fiance and just made the comment that a bit of investigating is good for anyone anywhere, abroad or in the US.

I don't feel that is bashing your relationship at all but cautionary and well meaning.

Glad to hear you did your homework on him, then we are in agreement, not so ? Then why the ruffled feathers.

[cdneh 3,112]

I've done my homework on him thank you very much. Enough is enough. I appreciate the support and guidance but please stop bashing my relationship

You need to meet in person. End of story. For Nigeria, you need to meet in person, more than once. Nobody is bashing you, or your relationship. You are getting some excellent advice on how not to make costly and time consuming mistakes.

You need to try and understand that what your are planning, and what the reality often is, are two entirely separate things.

[HeandI 48]

No one is bashing your relationship lady... Get a clue! Everyone here is trying to give you sense of guidance and knowledge as to what you're getting your self into. Even members from Nigera themselves are warning you. THE TRUTH IS THAT YOU DEFINATELY WILL BE DENIED NOT MEETING YOU FIANCE IN PERSON MORE THAN TWICE BEFORE THE EMBASSY INTERVIEW.

You can tell us you know this man and he loves you and he's honest, guess what? We aren't the one whose working on your petition and the emabassy do not approve on word of mouth. I bet even your I-129f petition is not front loaded with evidence, hence your fiancé will DEFINATELY be ask to provide all information at his interview. All he will have are screen shots and text... Not enough to get him approve. Nigeria is one of the scam capital of the world.. Yes they are other countries with fraud too..and if a member from Nigeria can warn you to go and meet him or otherwise pack your bag and run and you think we are bashing you.. Smh!!!

If you can't afford a ticket to go to Nigeria, how will you afford AOS when your honest Fiance arrive.

I wish you nothing but happiness but from the information you provided us, I think you're in for a scam or denied FIANCE visa.

[marriedguy 34]

Well said.

No one is bashing your relationship lady... Get a clue! Everyone here is trying to give you sense of guidance and knowledge as to what you're getting your self into. Even members from Nigera themselves are warning you. THE TRUTH IS THAT YOU DEFINATELY WILL BE DENIED NOT MEETING YOU FIANCE IN PERSON MORE THAN TWICE BEFORE THE EMBASSY INTERVIEW.
You can tell us you know this man and he loves you and he's honest, guess what? We aren't the one whose working on your petition and the emabassy do not approve on word of mouth. I bet even your I-129f petition is not front loaded with evidence, hence your fiancé will DEFINATELY be ask to provide all information at his interview. All he will have are screen shots and text... Not enough to get him approve. Nigeria is one of the scam capital of the world.. Yes they are other countries with fraud too..and if a member from Nigeria can warn you to go and meet him or otherwise pack your bag and run and you think we are bashing you.. Smh!!!

If you can't afford a ticket to go to Nigeria, how will you afford AOS when your honest Fiance arrive.

I wish you nothing but happiness but from the information you provided us, I think you're in for a scam or denied FIANCE visa.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

If you're concerned about finances or the safety of Nigeria, perhaps a trip to a neutral country where you both need to travel? He can go to the Dominican or Barbados visa free.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

If you're concerned about finances or the safety of Nigeria, perhaps a trip to a neutral country where you both need to travel? He can go to the Dominican or Barbados visa free.

I agree that is an option but Lagos is not crazy about not visiting Nigeria and meeting family and having their approval.

They would be suspicious of why the beneficiary wants to circumvent her meeting his family in his home country.

Even if it doesn't sound rational Lagos has it's own quirks and they want it the way they want it.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

I agree that is an option but Lagos is not crazy about not visiting Nigeria and meeting family and having their approval.

They would be suspicious of why the beneficiary wants to circumvent her meeting his family in his home country.

Even if it doesn't sound rational Lagos has it's own quirks and they want it the way they want it.

Understandable

[Mr&MrsJenkins 11]

Doesn't mean we should all just jump to the conclusion that he is a scammer. Please people! Post nicely and on topic or I'm reporting the thread.

Huh? No one said he was a scammer. All they said is to be careful with Nigerian men especially after it turned out that she has never met him in person. Nigeria is the #1 high fraud country so there is a very good reason to be suspicious. Plus, (like the other poster said) no one on this site including the OP knows him in person. This means the OP's observations are also based on nothing. The I-129F petition will be denied, period. I'm not going into the carelessness of wanting to get married to someone one hasn't met in person.

Edited June 14, 2015 by Mr&MrsJenkins

[Unidentified 2,930]

Huh? No one said he was a scammer. All they said is to be careful with Nigerian men especially after it turned out that she has never met him in person. Nigeria is the #1 high fraud country so there is a very good reason to be suspicious. Plus, (like the other poster said) no one on this site including the OP knows him in person. This means the OP's observations are also based on nothing. The I-129F petition will be denied, period. I'm not going into the carelessness of wanting to get married to someone one hasn't met in person.

Read the thread again, there's one member in particular that has called him a scammer twice.

[Saffer 27]

Regardless of your fiance being Nigerian, meeting in person is a requirement in your case. On a side note - I don't think it's a good idea to jump into a marriage without at least meeting in person once.

[MouadsWife 161]

The posters on here are only trying to give you sound advice. I'll be straight... to commit to marry someone you have never met is not exactly best thinking. To bring a stranger into your home, from another country, or anywhere that you have never met is not the best thinking. You may think you know him, but you do not. The person you talk to on the internet is just an image. He can be anyone you want him to be. When I met my fiancee I spoke to him on the internet for over a year. Your mind conjures up all types of images of who he is, what type of person he is, how tall us he, .... mostly your imagination. Yes, he fills in facts... but it really doesn't hit home. When I finally met him in person I had to get to know him all over again. It was a strange adjustment for me. But I traveled to him to meet him. I didnt bring a stranger into my home. I met him, his family... I spent time to get to know him. This man you met, or any other... domestic or international. ... your only asking for trouble bringing a complete stranger into your home. Safety first. That being said.... I also agree with the others... it is a requirement that you meet in person. And for a high fraud country he would not be issued a visitors visa.

Edited June 14, 2015 by MouadsWife