Fiance Has Another Fiancee and Another Visa

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

Wow what an ###, I know you are hurting right now but in time you will look on this as a lucky escape.

Wouldn't be at all surprised if he told you that the other woman knew so that you won't try to contact her and let her know. She could well be in the dark as much as you were.

[Darnell 8,478]

Please excuse my poor writing; I’m not thinking all that clearly right now.

My Fiance was due to arrive in the U.S. tomorrow. Today when I tried to call him his phone went straight to VM all day. I contacted his sister and she informed me that he had left the country yesterday and was in Switzerland.

Apparently he has been involved with another woman for most of our relationship. He was having both of us file visa paperwork for him concurrently. He called me this evening and sent photos of the two of them, her engagement ring, his Swiss visa, etc. Based on what he told me he became involved with her approx two weeks after we were engaged. That means he was with her even before I filed our I-129f.

I also found out she was in JA visiting him two weeks after I was there to see him. He swears she knows all about me and is completely OK with everything. That she knows I was there visiting right before she arrived and that I had also petitioned for him.

I’m reeling and trying to shift gears from thinking he would be here in fewer than 24 hours. I know this is not a unique story but it’s not making any of this hurt less. My heart is broken and I’m at a complete loss.

I guess I’ve become just another Jamaican statistic.

If you'd like to get his visa cancelled,

you'll need to contact the JA IV Unit somehow, with:

1. a written letter requesting the visa to be cancelled based on his recent Swiss 'fiancee' visa, signed by you, complete with biodata on the 2 of you, JA consular casefile #, Alien Registration number, etc.

2. a written letter requesting that he be held by CBP and not allowed entry into the country, as you are requesting his fiancé visa, the K-1, to be cancelled.

It's Friday, you need to move fast if you want him to be denied entry into the USA,

as

the IV Unit in JA has to :

1. read your stuff then

2. act on your stuff then

3. get word into CBP to dis-allow his entry into the USA.

Go Get Em, and Good Luck !

[Eric & Idalia 56]

I don't have a advice. I think the moderator already commented what you can do.

I know right now it's hard for you, and maybe you don't think you are gonna survive this heartache. But you will.

Thank God you didn't marry him. I actually feel bad for the other lady. No one who respect herself would accept a situation like that.

You are strong. You will get over this. You know why? Because you are going to make it happen.

I hope you realize soon how lucky you are. As someone before said " You have saved yourself a lifetime of problems and stress and should be thanking God."

I hope I can give you a hug right now. I will pray for you and thanks for sharing your story. Make sure you follow the suggested here so his visa can be canceled.

Edited June 12, 2015 by Eric & Idalia

[Pitaya 2,577]

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[Sweetfruits 4]

Am so sorry...

[Ortolan 381]

Oh my goodness. Do what Darnell says, asap...you don't want him waking up and deciding he might like it better in the USA after all, and have him show up. You want them to be able to stop him at point of entry if he tries (i.e., get him on a list).

So very sorry this happened to you, but gosh, it could've been so very much worse if he'd actually shown up and you'd married. He'd be that much harder to scrape off. You don't want this guy. Best of luck!

[Pennycat 880]

If he is here on a fiance visa, it will expire in 90 days anyway, so dont marry him, thats all

He's in Switzerland. But if the visa is in his passport, he has 6 months to use it. Yes, it will expire after 90 days but he won't go ::poof:: into the air and disappear, and they won't come hunting him down. And something tells me that someone like that won't really mind being here illegally. Unless that visa is cancelled, he could still get through the border. That won't effect the OP at all because she doesn't have to marry him but still....she should take steps to cancel the visa ASAP.

[Boiler 45,538]

Possible Switzerland is a fabrication to cover his entry into the US.

Who knows?

[Loki_Go 126]

Wait, why wouldn't both of these in process visas show up on each other's background checks?

And if he tried entering the US wouldn't both show up when he tried entering the country?

I'm so sorry OP. You really are the luckier woman here. I'll bet my house that other girl has no idea about you.

[Eric & Idalia 56]

Wait, why wouldn't both of these in process visas show up on each other's background checks?

And if he tried entering the US wouldn't both show up when he tried entering the country?

I'm so sorry OP. You really are the luckier woman here. I'll bet my house that other girl has no idea about you.

The other visa was for other country. Switzerland I think.

[Amhara 460]

I know it hurts so badly; even though he turned out to be the scum of the earth. I find it wild that she is "fine with it" in that she is fine with him being a scammer and con artist. Either he is lying to you about that or she is a huckster too. My bet is that he is just lying to you yet again. Take your time in healing from this.

And remember: YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! Don't let others tell you "Well, that's what you get for trying to marry a foreigner!" He lied to you so smoothly. He would have lied to you the same way if he were American too. Talk to it at length with a non-judgmental friend (us women need that) and try to figure out for yourself if there were any red flags that you may be able to pick up on. Him leaving you has nothing to do with your self-worth - he is only alive to suck others dry - to take anything and everything he can. Destroy everything you can, but see if you need to revoke that visa in anyway. Heck, he still may be thinking about coming to US on that visa!

Don't worry, he will do the same exact thing to her - only she will have a few children and probably a venereal disease from him at the time he walks away from her, breaks her heart and destroys her dreams of a happy future. You got away, girl! You got away! (oh, and give yourself time to cry too)

[uniquelyJo 34]

Possible Switzerland is a fabrication to cover his entry into the US.

Who knows?

^^^ this was my thought too....something sounds fishy and throwing the Switzerland curve ball might give him the time he needs to get into the US using the visa he has in hand. You need to get things rolling here fast to have the visa cancelled, it may already be too late, who knows he sounds like a real piece of work ugh.

[Loki_Go 126]

The other visa was for other country. Switzerland I think.

Huh, I knew that but somehow I thought there wouldn't be a total disconnect. :/

[HeandI 48]

Yes, "she is the better woman" because she is OK with every little thing. Apparently she doesn't mind that he was with me at the same time, doesn't question his lies, sent him money on demand, etc.

I'm am so sorry to hear about this. I can only imagine how much you are hurting now.

Guess what!! She's not a better woman than you, I bet if the k-1 came through before the Swiss visa he would be there with you. He was using both of you and at the end when everything document filed was successful, I think he closed the woman I liked most.

As the other fellow member advice, please report to the embassy and all other necessary immigration services incase this skank ditches the woman in Swiss and want to come to the U.S. BE STRONG NOW... others go through worst, it's better to find out earlier rather than later when you have invested more in him/marriage you both would eventually have.

[Fan_Dancer 171]

You got lucky! I would make sure to let immigration know about what happened, and the Embassies of US in Jamaica, as well as the Swiss Embassy in Jamaica. I would also make sure the other women does know about you and the double visa, I have a feeling she might be still in the dark, no matter what his relatives say.