Fiance Has Another Fiancee and Another Visa

[NCPW 53]

Please excuse my poor writing; I’m not thinking all that clearly right now.

My Fiance was due to arrive in the U.S. tomorrow. Today when I tried to call him his phone went straight to VM all day. I contacted his sister and she informed me that he had left the country yesterday and was in Switzerland.

Apparently he has been involved with another woman for most of our relationship. He was having both of us file visa paperwork for him concurrently. He called me this evening and sent photos of the two of them, her engagement ring, his Swiss visa, etc. Based on what he told me he became involved with her approx two weeks after we were engaged. That means he was with her even before I filed our I-129f.

I also found out she was in JA visiting him two weeks after I was there to see him. He swears she knows all about me and is completely OK with everything. That she knows I was there visiting right before she arrived and that I had also petitioned for him.

I’m reeling and trying to shift gears from thinking he would be here in fewer than 24 hours. I know this is not a unique story but it’s not making any of this hurt less. My heart is broken and I’m at a complete loss.

I guess I’ve become just another Jamaican statistic.

Edited June 12, 2015 by NCPW

[SCOTTANDVICKI 11]

What?! So basically he was involved with two people just seeing which visa arrived fastest?! I'm so, so sorry for you and all the heartache you must be feeling. Sounds like you had a lucky escape overall - although I know that will be of little comfort right now!

What does he mean 'she's ok about you'? Like you're supposed to be fine with being used???

[NCPW 53]

What?! So basically he was involved with two people just seeing which visa arrived fastest?! I'm so, so sorry for you and all the heartache you must be feeling. Sounds like you had a lucky escape overall - although I know that will be of little comfort right now!

What does he mean 'she's ok about you'? Like you're supposed to be fine with being used???

Yes, "she is the better woman" because she is OK with every little thing. Apparently she doesn't mind that he was with me at the same time, doesn't question his lies, sent him money on demand, etc.

[vanity08 66]

my dear you should dancing, because a wicked person like this, you should be happy that God has remove him from your life. let him be. cancel the plane ticket and also let the embassy know that this person will no longer need the visa which was issued, make sure to inform them so they cancel the visa. people like this are really not worth the time and effort. people that doesnt add value to your life, dont permit them to take away the value in your life. he will do the same to that new one also. what goes around always comes around. when you throw a ball to the wall it always come back to you. leave him in the hands of God.

[milimelo 4,481]

Sorry you're going through this.

Won't you be a smart girl and email Kingston embassy with this info - ICE as well (email is Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov) so he can't have a change of heart and decide to come to the US on his K-1 visa?

[SCOTTANDVICKI 11]

You have definitely had a lucky escape here. And believe me, she is not 'the better woman', she's a pushover at best. He might decide he doesn't like the weather in Switzerland and try to take up with a Spanish or Italian woman (heck, why not both?!) and do the same to her in a little while.

DEFINITELY inform DoS and the Jamaican embassy of the situation though.

[kamw 93]

These are the @#$%^ that make it hard for good people. You did nothing wrong and the hurt will pass. Be glad that this happened now rather than after you got married to him. The best thing you can do is move on and live a happy life. He will not prosper, karma will get him. I assume you are Jamaican born and it might be hard to explain to the people around you what happened but don't let anyone make you feel guilty. You took a chance on love and that's commendable. That chick probably knows nothing about you and he's just trying to make you feel bad. You have missed out on nothing but pain. Call embassy, cry, delete him and move on with your life.

[sus 70]

I would not only be sure to notify the US Embassy, ICE, NVC, etc... - I would also do my research and notify the Swiss embassy - send them the full story and proof - copies of what he sent you with their pictures, his visa, etc... - and copies of all of your filings - Let them revoke his visa. These are the no good low lifes who hurt the process for others -

I am so sorry for what you are going through, and know it hurts - but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and you are better off without him -

[shellybelly13 8]

WOW!! My dear call this a blessing because you dodge a bullet. This is the foolishness that make it hard for us and other people that are trying to do the right thing. You have saved yourself a lifetime of problems and stress and should be thanking God. Mek him gwan, long run short ketch!!!

[CowBoE 429]

Really too bad...I have a hunch that their relationship won't last too long either.

Seriously...you should be very thankful that you didn't get married and

having to go through a divorce soon afterwards.

Let this be a good learning lesson and move on to the next better man.

[Velvety 4]

Contact Swiss embassy ASAP!!!

[ebonie2002 1]

If he is here on a fiance visa, it will expire in 90 days anyway, so dont marry him, thats all

[Boiler 45,538]

He is already in Switzerland.

[Ryan H 3,812]

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OP, as others have mentioned you need to contact:

• USCIS to withdraw the petition
• Customs and Border Protection (CBP) so he can be refused entry
• The US Embassy in Kingston to have the visa cancelled

Don't bother with ICE, this is outside of their scope. Up to you if you want to contact applicable Swiss authorities.

Edited June 13, 2015 by Ryan H

[madtownguy 164]

Please excuse my poor writing; I’m not thinking all that clearly right now.

My Fiance was due to arrive in the U.S. tomorrow. Today when I tried to call him his phone went straight to VM all day. I contacted his sister and she informed me that he had left the country yesterday and was in Switzerland.

Apparently he has been involved with another woman for most of our relationship. He was having both of us file visa paperwork for him concurrently. He called me this evening and sent photos of the two of them, her engagement ring, his Swiss visa, etc. Based on what he told me he became involved with her approx two weeks after we were engaged. That means he was with her even before I filed our I-129f.

I also found out she was in JA visiting him two weeks after I was there to see him. He swears she knows all about me and is completely OK with everything. That she knows I was there visiting right before she arrived and that I had also petitioned for him.

I’m reeling and trying to shift gears from thinking he would be here in fewer than 24 hours. I know this is not a unique story but it’s not making any of this hurt less. My heart is broken and I’m at a complete loss.

I guess I’ve become just another Jamaican statistic.

Sorry for your loss, I say that because hopefully now your fiance is dead to you. I'd contact USCIS and let them know, I wouldn't do anything else because the quicker you can move on the better. Contacting the Swiss sounds like a waste of time to me. There's a ton of fish in the sea, much better you found out now rather than later. He's a jerk you shouldn't feel bad, sending photos of them makes no sense. He must cheat due to low self esteem, you can do better. Best thing you can do is take a vacation! I always feel better after a break up if I go to another country and party like a rock star.