VisaJourney Baby Creator thread!

[Saddle Bronc 124]

We've been trying since last tax-day.

[CarolineM 0]

I read a book...fiction, but I can't remember the name of it about a couple that was trying and trying and trying and couldn't. It went into all the IVF and treatments and all that. I don't know...it sounds really scary and painful. I think if we can't - and we can't for like...a long time...we'll adopt. I was adopted and would have no problem with it.

Jay Jay you are SO right. it's weird you really do try your whole life NOT to. I've never been pg and have never really even had any scares...so i'm convinced I WONT be able to. But we'll see when we start trying. My bf has been trying for several months yet...it's just so weird how you tihnk...oh I stop taking BC and then...BOOM i'll be pg...but it's not like that at all!!

Hang in there to all your gals trying right now! I'll keep my fingers crossed for all of you. I know once we DO start trying I'll be so nervous!

XOXOO

[Bootylicious!! 2]

I read a book...fiction, but I can't remember the name of it about a couple that was trying and trying and trying and couldn't. It went into all the IVF and treatments and all that. I don't know...it sounds really scary and painful. I think if we can't - and we can't for like...a long time...we'll adopt. I was adopted and would have no problem with it.

I don't know all that much about IVF. I do know the medication you have to take just to produce eggs is hard on you. I was taking pills every day for a week and giving myself a shot every day for a week. The hormones really mess you up. It's a big roller coaster of emotions. I've talked to Javier about adoption but he's not interested in that. It wouldn't bother me at all but he has issues with it. I think it goes back to being a macho man and thinking he has to have a child that's his, biologically. So, we'll start with IVF and if that doesn't work, maybe I can convince him to adopt.

[CarolineM 0]

I read a book...fiction, but I can't remember the name of it about a couple that was trying and trying and trying and couldn't. It went into all the IVF and treatments and all that. I don't know...it sounds really scary and painful. I think if we can't - and we can't for like...a long time...we'll adopt. I was adopted and would have no problem with it.

I don't know all that much about IVF. I do know the medication you have to take just to produce eggs is hard on you. I was taking pills every day for a week and giving myself a shot every day for a week. The hormones really mess you up. It's a big roller coaster of emotions. I've talked to Javier about adoption but he's not interested in that. It wouldn't bother me at all but he has issues with it. I think it goes back to being a macho man and thinking he has to have a child that's his, biologically. So, we'll start with IVF and if that doesn't work, maybe I can convince him to adopt.

My mom has recently opened up to me about her struggle to have kids (she couldn't) and my dad's complete reluctance to adopt. Like Javier, he was AGAINST it. He wanted his own kids...ya know? I don't know how she finally changed his mind, but they didn't adopt me til they were 35 so it MUST have taken some time. I guess after a while it was CLEAR that she couldn't have kids..despite any treatment or whatever, and I guess his desire for kids was greater than his pride...so they adopted.

Stewart SAYS he's fine with it, but I wonder, when push comes to shove, will he still feel that way? It's easy to say when you aren't even trying..."Oh sure, I'd adopt" but...when the time really comes, will he still feel that way??

I should figure out what that book was because it was REALLY good!!!

[Bootylicious!! 2]

I read a book...fiction, but I can't remember the name of it about a couple that was trying and trying and trying and couldn't. It went into all the IVF and treatments and all that. I don't know...it sounds really scary and painful. I think if we can't - and we can't for like...a long time...we'll adopt. I was adopted and would have no problem with it.

I don't know all that much about IVF. I do know the medication you have to take just to produce eggs is hard on you. I was taking pills every day for a week and giving myself a shot every day for a week. The hormones really mess you up. It's a big roller coaster of emotions. I've talked to Javier about adoption but he's not interested in that. It wouldn't bother me at all but he has issues with it. I think it goes back to being a macho man and thinking he has to have a child that's his, biologically. So, we'll start with IVF and if that doesn't work, maybe I can convince him to adopt.

My mom has recently opened up to me about her struggle to have kids (she couldn't) and my dad's complete reluctance to adopt. Like Javier, he was AGAINST it. He wanted his own kids...ya know? I don't know how she finally changed his mind, but they didn't adopt me til they were 35 so it MUST have taken some time. I guess after a while it was CLEAR that she couldn't have kids..despite any treatment or whatever, and I guess his desire for kids was greater than his pride...so they adopted.

Stewart SAYS he's fine with it, but I wonder, when push comes to shove, will he still feel that way? It's easy to say when you aren't even trying..."Oh sure, I'd adopt" but...when the time really comes, will he still feel that way??

I should figure out what that book was because it was REALLY good!!!

Yeah, Javier used to say he would be ok with it too. But now that we are really struggling and may not have kids of our own, he's not so sure he could do it. I just don't understand what happened to me and my body that caused me to stop ovulating. I guess that's the hardest thing for me. I know I was functioning just fine since I got pregnant before. It's just so frustrating to know I'm the reason we aren't having kids. And I'm older than Javier so I feel pushed to get the ball rolling. I would be interested in reading that book. Let me know if you figure out what the title is.

[CarolineM 0]

OMg I found it...after lots of searching.

http://www.bookreporter.com/reviews2/0743496760.asp

Remember it's totally fiction...not like...factual or anything...this is a review of it too. If I still had it I'd mail it to you but I gave it to a friend...we do book swaps here

[Bootylicious!! 2]

OMg I found it...after lots of searching.

http://www.bookreporter.com/reviews2/0743496760.asp

Remember it's totally fiction...not like...factual or anything...this is a review of it too. If I still had it I'd mail it to you but I gave it to a friend...we do book swaps here

That's great. No problem with the not having it anymore. I work in a library so I'm sure I can get my hands on it. I can't wait to read it. Even if it is fiction it sounds like a great read. Thanks!

[CarolineM 0]

NP! Babyville by Jane Green is pretty good too - but this is one is more relevant and more funny Good luck ! Keep us posted!

[Bootylicious!! 2]

NP! Babyville by Jane Green is pretty good too - but this is one is more relevant and more funny Good luck ! Keep us posted!

I'll check that one out too. Thanks! Good luck to you and Stewart too when you finally start trying. I will definitely keep everyone posted.

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

We're trying now. We are doing our part, so now it's up to God and hopefully neither of us has any issues that would prevent pregnancy. Looking forward to the day we have a baby.

Same here. But I am currently going through testing to see what's the hold up as it has been a year. It's not easy being prodded and needled and feeling like a "failure" each day. It also seems that everyone we knew had a baby late last year - including one cousin whose tubes were tied in 2002 and two sisters in law who were supposed to be menopausal. I was like goodness even "old women" and women with tied tubes can do it! Why can't I??

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

OMg I found it...after lots of searching.

http://www.bookreporter.com/reviews2/0743496760.asp

Remember it's totally fiction...not like...factual or anything...this is a review of it too. If I still had it I'd mail it to you but I gave it to a friend...we do book swaps here

Of course I have to buy it....like I don't have enough to read. Thanks for the link.

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

Am I normal? Do I HAVE hormones???"

I wondered if I had any eggsLOL (next week I find out how good they are).

Good luck JayJay!! Wishing you a BFP (big fat positive).

Edited February 19, 2007 by Elizabethnhenry

[wong_watkins 1]

We bought our house a little while ago and we're about as financially stable as we're going to be - unless we want to wait 25 years until we have substantial savings lol And then we will be unable to have kids...lol

I don't know about names. Ben wants a boy, and for him to be called Ben as well. So I make jokes about him being Ben Jr Jr as my Ben is already Ben Jr. I don't even see why he'd want to do that, since he hates his name...men are weird

I guess I'm the kind of gal who likes names like Rose and Pearl and all that blah. Not too into some of the wierd and wonderful ones - i.e. Pixiedust Fairyflower or anything strange like that...

Have to see, won't we

LOL...I have once thought that if I have girls I would like to name them Diamond, Jade, Ruby, or Pearl..etc. I told my friend about that one time and she said they sounded like strippers' names..

[JayJay 4]

Lmao - that's funny - stripper names

I am still experiencing funny symptoms....ooooh things I couldn't say on here because we don't have our own teeny weeny starting immigrant family section..heh...Mr Ewok..oh Mr Ewok you lovely furry snugglebunny glorious best-admin-in-the-world who we all adore and would do anything for...

*Jumps up and down with anticipation*

*bats eyelashes as a last resort*

(okay enough sucking up now.)

Ah well, here's a funny little gif to cheep everyone up. This is what happens during extensive visa research and why they give us a two year break between AOS'ing and removing conditions.

[flutter95 4]

I LOVE the gif! Haha!

Well, we aren't officially trying yet or anything, financial situation isn't quite right yet, but we have been talking about it and I am excited already! Lol.

But just reading about you guys keeps me excited!