wife cheated on me at last moment

[Lauren and Kevin 55]

You will be happy after this is done.

Agreed! - True life experience says this will happen. Things seem dark right now, but as soon as it's over things immediately start looking up

[kkk1 42]

i not study your timeline, but you should study yer passport.

the visa contains a line about 'endorsement' - study that, and the study the date on the POE stamp.

The Filed divorce paper which I received from my wife has line in it which says " we never lived together". I have earlier argued to her to remove it and write down the actual thing in it. But she never repaired it. Do you think it will create problem for me in future and during the time of neutralization?? Let me know this plese.

[Darnell 8,479]

I truly don't know the answer to this one,

as a divorced person can firstly apply for citizenship 5 years after first green card issuance date.

you have an IR-1 designation, so your first green card will be a 10 year card. you have 10 years to think about what you want to do, not need to file for citizenship after the first 5 years.

I really don't have pointed advice about the wording in the divorce decree, but one of the things about divorce process in texas is that YOU, as the respondent, can file a counter claim anywhere in the process, containing the wording that you want, and the judge has to address it some point along the way. if you are getting divorced in harris county, suggest we meet up sometime for curry laksa, fish head curry, a case o tiger beer (cold) and we go over this stuff face to face.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

I truly don't know the answer to this one,

as a divorced person can firstly apply for citizenship 5 years after first green card issuance date.

you have an IR-1 designation, so your first green card will be a 10 year card. you have 10 years to think about what you want to do, not need to file for citizenship after the first 5 years.

I really don't have pointed advice about the wording in the divorce decree, but one of the things about divorce process in texas is that YOU, as the respondent, can file a counter claim anywhere in the process, containing the wording that you want, and the judge has to address it some point along the way. if you are getting divorced in harris county, suggest we meet up sometime for curry laksa, fish head curry, a case o tiger beer (cold) and we go over this stuff face to face.

Spot on advice about the wording, yes you can change it, I definitely would.

Hope you take Darnell up on the face to face diner, fish head and all

[Darnell 8,479]

sorry, i mis-wrote.

any wording in the divorce petition - well, you don't worry about it unless she's praying for a restraining order or temporary orders (and those you must pay attention to)

if there is to be an agreed divorce decree, you and her (or the lawyers) will flesh it out or the judge will hack and slash to make a divorce decree.

a decree is the end game, the last piece of paperwork.

the divorce petition , filing of, is the first step.

roughly - in order:

petition

temporary orders

result of mediation

agreed or contested divorce decree

and then you are legally divorced. in texas, it's a minimum of 90 days. could be longer, depending on what yer doing. always longer if children or assets are involved.

[kkk1 42]

I truly don't know the answer to this one,

as a divorced person can firstly apply for citizenship 5 years after first green card issuance date.

you have an IR-1 designation, so your first green card will be a 10 year card. you have 10 years to think about what you want to do, not need to file for citizenship after the first 5 years.

I really don't have pointed advice about the wording in the divorce decree, but one of the things about divorce process in texas is that YOU, as the respondent, can file a counter claim anywhere in the process, containing the wording that you want, and the judge has to address it some point along the way. if you are getting divorced in harris county, suggest we meet up sometime for curry laksa, fish head curry, a case o tiger beer (cold) and we go over this stuff face to face.

Sure I would love to see you in person. You can have fish head, I am vegetarian I would order something in vegy. I have bought car two days ago. It will be convenient for me to come and see you. I am not sure how far but downtown is 30 or 40 miles far from my place

[kkk1 42]

Sure I would love to see you in person. You can have fish head, I am vegetarian I would order something in vegy. I have bought car two days ago. It will be convenient for me to come and see you. I am not sure how far but downtown is 30 or 40 miles far from my place

Correction : not 30 to 40 miles but 30 to 40 mins from my place

[Darnell 8,479]

is ok - my garden space is 1 mile due north o downtown.

[kkk1 42]

is ok - my garden space is 1 mile due north o downtown.

I could see you tomorrow, today I need to fix some of the things in my car. Let me know where to meet. Thanks a lot for this meet up.

Edited June 27, 2015 by kkk1

[Villanelle 4,122]

Darnell is spot on with his timeline of the divorce process. There are many many steps before the actual and final decree is issued. Im not sure if KKK is using an attny at all or just hasnt hired one yet (?)

Seems to me he is being rather casual and trusting of the soon to be ex Mrs (like he was in the immigration process)AGAIN in the divorce process. She wrote up a divorce packet and included wrong information and he politely requested she change it. She did not. (not surprising). KKK- this is not the time for pleasantries! There are specific legal routes you can and should take to ensure things are done. In no way should you be 'requesting' her to do anything and then scratching you head and asking why didnt she do it? Or what can I do now that shes screwed me by failing to fulfill my request.

Rarely does a couple (unless its an amicable divorce) work together jointly in both parties best interest. Even then as it progresses its very hard for both people to keep emotions in check. So you look out for you and take your own responsibility- never request her to do things.

A basic divorce procedure involves her serving you with the packet. You review it and make changes. You then submit back an official response. It appears she showed you her inital packet and you asked her to make changes in it. She did not. SO okay. Forget her. Make changes and send it back with the changes. She can agree to them or dispute them. If she disputes them you can then OFFICIALLY argue about it. If you two can not come to an agreement a judge will step in and make a ruling on whatever issue you are arguing about. You will each have an opportunity to present evidence on why you are right.

For this issue I am sure you have evidence on living together so you should win if it does go to the judge.

I do believe this is a rather important issue.

For those just joining the thread: to recap the OP did enter on an IR visa, so he is not going to ROCing. HOWEVER- he entered and did not live with his spouse- not one single day. There were questions at the beginning of the thread about if his spouse was going to attempt to stop his visa (withdraw it) prior to him traveling. She did not, so he was able to use it.

It was explained to him that he was legally able to travel on the visa as long as she did not withdraw support. Morally, it was up to him if he wanted to use a family unity visa to enter knowing he was not uniting with his spouse- but legally he was not violating any laws. It was also explained to him that when/if he applies for citizenship they will review his entire file and since it will contain a divorce decree they will look at it and know he entered and did not reside with his spouse. It was recommended (by me lol) that he waits until a few months after his divorce has been final until applying for citizenship to ensure he has a nice clean 'moral slate window' rather then the first possible date he is eligible to naturalize.

That was just my opinion to be better safe then sorry.

People have to remember that what is contained in a divorce decree (and this just came up in another thread and Sandra confirmed it) and honestly I think we all know this but we all forget- Its sworn statements. USCIS hold them in high regard. By not disputing a fact- or signing off on incorrect facts- well what did you just do? You cant sign off on something official that is wrong and then think Ill just explain it to USCIS later why I did that.

It needs to be fixed. His whole IR packet contained things showing they lived together and now hes going to have what a document contradicting that? Well which time were you telling the truth? Always tell the truth. Never sign something thats wrong. Thats the best and only policy to have in life.

[kkk1 42]

Darnell is spot on with his timeline of the divorce process. There are many many steps before the actual and final decree is issued. Im not sure if KKK is using an attny at all or just hasnt hired one yet (?)

Seems to me he is being rather casual and trusting of the soon to be ex Mrs (like he was in the immigration process)AGAIN in the divorce process. She wrote up a divorce packet and included wrong information and he politely requested she change it. She did not. (not surprising). KKK- this is not the time for pleasantries! There are specific legal routes you can and should take to ensure things are done. In no way should you be 'requesting' her to do anything and then scratching you head and asking why didnt she do it? Or what can I do now that shes screwed me by failing to fulfill my request.

Rarely does a couple (unless its an amicable divorce) work together jointly in both parties best interest. Even then as it progresses its very hard for both people to keep emotions in check. So you look out for you and take your own responsibility- never request her to do things.

A basic divorce procedure involves her serving you with the packet. You review it and make changes. You then submit back an official response. It appears she showed you her inital packet and you asked her to make changes in it. She did not. SO okay. Forget her. Make changes and send it back with the changes. She can agree to them or dispute them. If she disputes them you can then OFFICIALLY argue about it. If you two can not come to an agreement a judge will step in and make a ruling on whatever issue you are arguing about. You will each have an opportunity to present evidence on why you are right.

For this issue I am sure you have evidence on living together so you should win if it does go to the judge.

I do believe this is a rather important issue.

For those just joining the thread: to recap the OP did enter on an IR visa, so he is not going to ROCing. HOWEVER- he entered and did not live with his spouse- not one single day. There were questions at the beginning of the thread about if his spouse was going to attempt to stop his visa (withdraw it) prior to him traveling. She did not, so he was able to use it.

It was explained to him that he was legally able to travel on the visa as long as she did not withdraw support. Morally, it was up to him if he wanted to use a family unity visa to enter knowing he was not uniting with his spouse- but legally he was not violating any laws. It was also explained to him that when/if he applies for citizenship they will review his entire file and since it will contain a divorce decree they will look at it and know he entered and did not reside with his spouse. It was recommended (by me lol) that he waits until a few months after his divorce has been final until applying for citizenship to ensure he has a nice clean 'moral slate window' rather then the first possible date he is eligible to naturalize.

That was just my opinion to be better safe then sorry.

People have to remember that what is contained in a divorce decree (and this just came up in another thread and Sandra confirmed it) and honestly I think we all know this but we all forget- Its sworn statements. USCIS hold them in high regard. By not disputing a fact- or signing off on incorrect facts- well what did you just do? You cant sign off on something official that is wrong and then think Ill just explain it to USCIS later why I did that.

It needs to be fixed. His whole IR packet contained things showing they lived together and now hes going to have what a document contradicting that? Well which time were you telling the truth? Always tell the truth. Never sign something thats wrong. Thats the best and only policy to have in life.

Thanks a lot for such a wonderful advice.

[kkk1 42]

is ok - my garden space is 1 mile due north o downtown.

Tomorrow I am flying to Singapore gor 2 weeks and following that I have UK trip for a week. I went to info pass appointment on 13th and they told me without green card I can travel. They also told me my green card will come in another 15 days. I told my landlord to mail me at my Singapore address.

I couple of days ago I got US licence. But trying to concentrate a lot and learn new things. Most of time I watch movie and work and cook not much. I would like to see you in person and sure will have curry laksa ( for me veg). When I come back. Hope things are going good at your side.

I have answered the petition. After I answered petition my wife dropped me a mail telling me that she is very very sorry for what she had done to me and she is missing me a lot and don't know what to do.

There is nothing left I can do anything for her now. She is damn confused person. I hope now when I find someone must be stable. Relationships now a days has no guarantee.

[Darnell 8,479]

God works in mysterious ways - there's always a shot at reconciliation. Just because a divorce petition is filed, it doesn't mean one must actually go through with the divorce. Still, if'n you two wanted to work on it, make a joyous marriage, it's gonna take work to overcome these dalliances. If you feel the amount of work is meaningful, suggest to her that you two attempt to reconcile. Otherwise, shoot through with the divorce proceedings.

Go Get Em, and Good Luck !

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

She is crazy, leave her alone. Highly unstable.

Don't you find it a bit risky traveling without your GC and relying on your landlord to send you the GC when /if it comes in the mail though ?

[kkk1 42]

She is crazy, leave her alone. Highly unstable.

Don't you find it a bit risky traveling without your GC and relying on your landlord to send you the GC when /if it comes in the mail though ?

I went to USCIS office and they told me that I can still travel since I have I-551 stamp on it. My green card yet to come. I have no choice and it is my job. My landlord are very good people and formal police officer. They supported me emotionally a lot in my very difficult time. I already asked them that as soon as they receive green card they have to mail me at my singapore address. I have other Id as social security and texas driving licence. Hope it shouldn't be problem. I made sure with immigration officer multiple times that is there will be any problem they said not at all.