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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Wales
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Seems odd but she is hardly a one off, how many times have we seen similar posts?

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Nigeria
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Im so sorry that you are going through this ordeal! It is not healthy for your children and certainly not healthy for you. Maybe you can try to talk with your husband, and ask him to remind you the reasons he fell in love with you and you also remind him of the reasons you fell in love with him. As you listen to his replies, please listen for truth and sincerity and let both your mind and heart decide what your next actions will be. Pay careful attention to his facial expressions as he listens to your reasons for loving him. This is a technique I learned from my husband, to help us to get through any quarrel or conflict from clash of cultures we struggle with. In the end it has always ben about love. So, If there was true love once, I believe it doesnot just go away especially not in 2 months. Something may have fell apart in the time you were apart. Continue to try if this is the man you want as a father figure and role model to your children...continue to try if this is the man you believe loves you as he loves himself... continue to try until the day he no longer resembles or represents the love and life God meant for you! Then you will be at peace with any decision to move on and allow for new blessings in your life. God bless you and I am hoping he doesnt disappoint.I will keep you ad your family in my prayers.

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Are you totally ignoring 2far's reply? She has a point. I just don't think you want to see it yet. I feel with you, but you need a wake up call.

Are you totally ignoring 2far's reply? She has a point. I just don't think you want to see it yet. I feel with you, but you need a wake up call.

Are you totally ignoring 2far's reply? She has a point. I just don't think you want to see it yet. I feel with you, but you need a wake up call.

Are you totally ignoring 2far's reply? She has a point. I just don't think you want to see it yet. I feel with you, but you need a wake up call.

Are you totally ignoring 2far's reply? She has a point. I just don't think you want to see it yet. I feel with you, but you need a wake up call.

Are you totally ignoring 2far's reply? She has a point. I just don't think you want to see it yet. I feel with you, but you need a wake up call.

Where do you see me ignoring anything? I am the one dealing with all of this so I can't possible be in denial.

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Why are you defending this man's actions? He clearly wants nothing to do with you or your children. There isn't a snowball's chance in Hell that I would ever allow an man like this to live in my home with my children, why would you EVER want him back? Divorce and move on. Your children should be first and foremost, why would you ever put any man first? I don;t care what your faith is, have some self respect.

Excuse me?!?!? I am sorry but please be sensitive as I said. Marriage is a holy institution. I have respect and as far as a man being put first...that is the gospel order did you not read other comments that I have a strong faith. I am not making up an excuse for his actions I just wanted to share my story for others. Blessings

Met online 9/2012

Courtship 3/1/2013

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Passport for USC 6/10 thru 28/2013 19 days

First face to face meeting Nov. 4th 2013 dancin5hr.gif

Married 19 November 2013 heart.gif

:energy: USCIS-TSC

5/3/2014 Filed I-130

11/3/2014 NOA-1

24/7/2014 NOA-2 {135 days} :dancing:

12/8/2014 Case Shipped {NVC} :dancing:

:energy: NVC

20/8/2014 NVC received

29/8/2014 NVC case #

31/8/2014 DS-261 submitted

3/9/2014 NVC billed AOS & paid

19/9/2014 AOS sent

30/9/2014 IV invoiced

3/10/2014 IV paid

21/10/2014 IV package sent

21/11/2014 Case complete :dance:(L)

03/12/2014 Interview scheduled

08/12/2014 NVC shipped to Embassy "In Transit"

12/12/2014 Ceac shows "Ready"

:energy:Consulate

15/12/2014 Consulate received

07-08/01/2015 Medical {Passed!!!!}

26/01/2015 Interview results {APPROVED} :dance:(L)

26/01/2015 DHL Air Waybill created online

28/01/2015 Air Waybill shows "In Transit" :yes:

29/01/2015 Visa ready for pick up {DHL}

02/02/2015 Visa in hand

26/02/2015 POE

The warmth of true friendship and the love that binds the hearts of husband and wife are a foretaste of heaven. God has ordained that there should be perfect love and perfect harmony between those who enter into the marriage relation. Let bride and bridegroom in the presence of the heavenly universe pledge themselves to love one another as God has ordained they should. {LYL}

Thought to share our journey for those who need the encouragement!

Country: Kenya
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Im so sorry that you are going through this ordeal! It is not healthy for your children and certainly not healthy for you. Maybe you can try to talk with your husband, and ask him to remind you the reasons he fell in love with you and you also remind him of the reasons you fell in love with him. As you listen to his replies, please listen for truth and sincerity and let both your mind and heart decide what your next actions will be. Pay careful attention to his facial expressions as he listens to your reasons for loving him. This is a technique I learned from my husband, to help us to get through any quarrel or conflict from clash of cultures we struggle with. In the end it has always ben about love. So, If there was true love once, I believe it doesnot just go away especially not in 2 months. Something may have fell apart in the time you were apart. Continue to try if this is the man you want as a father figure and role model to your children...continue to try if this is the man you believe loves you as he loves himself... continue to try until the day he no longer resembles or represents the love and life God meant for you! Then you will be at peace with any decision to move on and allow for new blessings in your life. God bless you and I am hoping he doesnt disappoint.I will keep you ad your family in my prayers.

Awwhhhhhh you have me in tears right now! :cry:your post has been the most hopeful and I solicit your prayers. May God be with ye! Its easy for people to say...get rid or them or move on, but I say....this is....my heart. I fell in love. There is healing that has to take place no one just falls out of love just because of mistreatment, not even a child who is being abused by its mother. It takes time. Remember we all have dreams of our spouses coming home, we wait a year, we cry, have joy, we never expect something like this to happen and when it does it is devastating. :cry:So thank you I really appreciate you.

Met online 9/2012

Courtship 3/1/2013

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Passport for USC 6/10 thru 28/2013 19 days

First face to face meeting Nov. 4th 2013 dancin5hr.gif

Married 19 November 2013 heart.gif

:energy: USCIS-TSC

5/3/2014 Filed I-130

11/3/2014 NOA-1

24/7/2014 NOA-2 {135 days} :dancing:

12/8/2014 Case Shipped {NVC} :dancing:

:energy: NVC

20/8/2014 NVC received

29/8/2014 NVC case #

31/8/2014 DS-261 submitted

3/9/2014 NVC billed AOS & paid

19/9/2014 AOS sent

30/9/2014 IV invoiced

3/10/2014 IV paid

21/10/2014 IV package sent

21/11/2014 Case complete :dance:(L)

03/12/2014 Interview scheduled

08/12/2014 NVC shipped to Embassy "In Transit"

12/12/2014 Ceac shows "Ready"

:energy:Consulate

15/12/2014 Consulate received

07-08/01/2015 Medical {Passed!!!!}

26/01/2015 Interview results {APPROVED} :dance:(L)

26/01/2015 DHL Air Waybill created online

28/01/2015 Air Waybill shows "In Transit" :yes:

29/01/2015 Visa ready for pick up {DHL}

02/02/2015 Visa in hand

26/02/2015 POE

The warmth of true friendship and the love that binds the hearts of husband and wife are a foretaste of heaven. God has ordained that there should be perfect love and perfect harmony between those who enter into the marriage relation. Let bride and bridegroom in the presence of the heavenly universe pledge themselves to love one another as God has ordained they should. {LYL}

Thought to share our journey for those who need the encouragement!

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Romania
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Honestly, from what you posted, his behavior sounds really weird and not exactly like the typical scammer "got married just for GC and wants nothing to do with you or your kids". It may be diagnosable as a psychological condition, I'm not a professional, but you might want to consider seeking the help of one. I know you talked to your pastor, but it may not be enough (you also said that he was better for a while after you'd talked, so, again... odd. Possibly requiring therapy.)

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Awwhhhhhh you have me in tears right now! :cry:your post has been the most hopeful and I solicit your prayers. May God be with ye! Its easy for people to say...get rid or them or move on, but I say....this is....my heart. I fell in love. There is healing that has to take place no one just falls out of love just because of mistreatment, not even a child who is being abused by its mother. It takes time. Remember we all have dreams of our spouses coming home, we wait a year, we cry, have joy, we never expect something like this to happen and when it does it is devastating. :cry:So thank you I really appreciate you.

Hi Kolewenoik31 (F)

I really understand your feelings. As a good practicing christian, we really do our best to work out and extend more patience in our relationship, even to the point that we get so much pain. Love can make us blind. But God doesn't want us to be down and that is why we need lift all our burdens to God and He will do the rest.

I believe by this time you have some realizations already and even lessons learned from the experience. Based on your sharing, obviously your husband doesn't love you at all as his actions are clearly saying it all. He is not even trying to take steps in getting closer to your kids.

You have your kids with you, they are the most precious jewels that you have right now. Just focus your attention on the kids welfare, and with God's grace you would realize that you have done the best thing for yourself and kids. I think you should not look for him anymore, let him go and do what he wants in life. If he is a good man with a good heart, he will never do this thing to you knowing of your sacrifices in bringing him even closer to you. If he comes back, well he should be remorse and truly regret for his actions. He should demonstrate his true love not just saying it through words. I guess it is not that easy to trust him back, but of course anything is possible if God will reign back in his heart. This takes time and you need to be careful and also take good care of your heart. If you are ready then I think divorce is an option especially if your choice is to move on after all. It's your decision anyway.

For now, you have to be strong for your kids. Don't dwell on this thing as it is not worthy at all. Heads up !!! Keep your faith stronger than ever. God will surely heal your heart in time and hopefully would bless you with a true man who knows how to respect and treat his wife the way that God wants it to be. Take care (F)

"Last night I looked up at the stars and matched each one with a reason why I love you. I was doing great until I ran out of stars."-- by Kelsi

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Nigeria
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Awwhhhhhh you have me in tears right now! :cry:your post has been the most hopeful and I solicit your prayers. May God be with ye! Its easy for people to say...get rid or them or move on, but I say....this is....my heart. I fell in love. There is healing that has to take place no one just falls out of love just because of mistreatment, not even a child who is being abused by its mother. It takes time. Remember we all have dreams of our spouses coming home, we wait a year, we cry, have joy, we never expect something like this to happen and when it does it is devastating. :cry:So thank you I really appreciate you.

I am so happy you found comfort in my response. It is definitely easy as an outsider looking in to say just be done, but I have been in love long enough to know that is never easy and eventually you will decide what is best for you and your family in the end. Thank you for sharing it was extremely brave.

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Maybe it is best to get him a ticket to go back home and then divorce him. Like others said, I too am worried that he might get desperate and do something that could harm you and your children. His behavior is just too strange and unpredictable...

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Wales
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No need for marriage and religion to be related, probably in the US most are not.

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

Country: Kenya
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Hi Kolewenoik31 (F)

I really understand your feelings. As a good practicing christian, we really do our best to work out and extend more patience in our relationship, even to the point that we get so much pain. Love can make us blind. But God doesn't want us to be down and that is why we need lift all our burdens to God and He will do the rest.

I believe by this time you have some realizations already and even lessons learned from the experience. Based on your sharing, obviously your husband doesn't love you at all as his actions are clearly saying it all. He is not even trying to take steps in getting closer to your kids.

You have your kids with you, they are the most precious jewels that you have right now. Just focus your attention on the kids welfare, and with God's grace you would realize that you have done the best thing for yourself and kids. I think you should not look for him anymore, let him go and do what he wants in life. If he is a good man with a good heart, he will never do this thing to you knowing of your sacrifices in bringing him even closer to you. If he comes back, well he should be remorse and truly regret for his actions. He should demonstrate his true love not just saying it through words. I guess it is not that easy to trust him back, but of course anything is possible if God will reign back in his heart. This takes time and you need to be careful and also take good care of your heart. If you are ready then I think divorce is an option especially if your choice is to move on after all. It's your decision anyway.

For now, you have to be strong for your kids. Don't dwell on this thing as it is not worthy at all. Heads up !!! Keep your faith stronger than ever. God will surely heal your heart in time and hopefully would bless you with a true man who knows how to respect and treat his wife the way that God wants it to be. Take care (F)

What encouraging words....I know I will have to leave him be. I have a lot of moving to get done in the next day and need to focus on that. Again thank you and pray for me.

Met online 9/2012

Courtship 3/1/2013

ClockWatch2.gif

Passport for USC 6/10 thru 28/2013 19 days

First face to face meeting Nov. 4th 2013 dancin5hr.gif

Married 19 November 2013 heart.gif

:energy: USCIS-TSC

5/3/2014 Filed I-130

11/3/2014 NOA-1

24/7/2014 NOA-2 {135 days} :dancing:

12/8/2014 Case Shipped {NVC} :dancing:

:energy: NVC

20/8/2014 NVC received

29/8/2014 NVC case #

31/8/2014 DS-261 submitted

3/9/2014 NVC billed AOS & paid

19/9/2014 AOS sent

30/9/2014 IV invoiced

3/10/2014 IV paid

21/10/2014 IV package sent

21/11/2014 Case complete :dance:(L)

03/12/2014 Interview scheduled

08/12/2014 NVC shipped to Embassy "In Transit"

12/12/2014 Ceac shows "Ready"

:energy:Consulate

15/12/2014 Consulate received

07-08/01/2015 Medical {Passed!!!!}

26/01/2015 Interview results {APPROVED} :dance:(L)

26/01/2015 DHL Air Waybill created online

28/01/2015 Air Waybill shows "In Transit" :yes:

29/01/2015 Visa ready for pick up {DHL}

02/02/2015 Visa in hand

26/02/2015 POE

The warmth of true friendship and the love that binds the hearts of husband and wife are a foretaste of heaven. God has ordained that there should be perfect love and perfect harmony between those who enter into the marriage relation. Let bride and bridegroom in the presence of the heavenly universe pledge themselves to love one another as God has ordained they should. {LYL}

Thought to share our journey for those who need the encouragement!

Country: Kenya
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economise on the toiletries ? can you explain a lit bit more on that ?

Stop wasting, overuse, cut back, use what's necessary.

Met online 9/2012

Courtship 3/1/2013

ClockWatch2.gif

Passport for USC 6/10 thru 28/2013 19 days

First face to face meeting Nov. 4th 2013 dancin5hr.gif

Married 19 November 2013 heart.gif

:energy: USCIS-TSC

5/3/2014 Filed I-130

11/3/2014 NOA-1

24/7/2014 NOA-2 {135 days} :dancing:

12/8/2014 Case Shipped {NVC} :dancing:

:energy: NVC

20/8/2014 NVC received

29/8/2014 NVC case #

31/8/2014 DS-261 submitted

3/9/2014 NVC billed AOS & paid

19/9/2014 AOS sent

30/9/2014 IV invoiced

3/10/2014 IV paid

21/10/2014 IV package sent

21/11/2014 Case complete :dance:(L)

03/12/2014 Interview scheduled

08/12/2014 NVC shipped to Embassy "In Transit"

12/12/2014 Ceac shows "Ready"

:energy:Consulate

15/12/2014 Consulate received

07-08/01/2015 Medical {Passed!!!!}

26/01/2015 Interview results {APPROVED} :dance:(L)

26/01/2015 DHL Air Waybill created online

28/01/2015 Air Waybill shows "In Transit" :yes:

29/01/2015 Visa ready for pick up {DHL}

02/02/2015 Visa in hand

26/02/2015 POE

The warmth of true friendship and the love that binds the hearts of husband and wife are a foretaste of heaven. God has ordained that there should be perfect love and perfect harmony between those who enter into the marriage relation. Let bride and bridegroom in the presence of the heavenly universe pledge themselves to love one another as God has ordained they should. {LYL}

Thought to share our journey for those who need the encouragement!

 
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