Little evidence to send with I-129F? Older woman/younger man

[Campanita 0]

Thanks for answering my question regarding evidence for the application.

My apologies for so many little questions, I am just nervous because I am much older than my fiance (I am an American women) and somehow I think that might be a red flag. We are in love and dying to be together but not sure we will be believed because of the age difference (seems there is a stigma when its an older woman/younger man). So, I want to be well prepared both at the application stage and the interview stage.

I have not kept airline boarding passes or itineraries and we both use phone cards for long distance calls, so I do not have those. I do however have the following:

1. Credit Card Statements (with airline, hotels, and car rentals)

2. Passport stamps

3. Car Rental agreements and receipits

4. Emails

5. Photos

I am hoping that will be enough? Please let me know your thoughts. Thanks!

[MaryandMian 1]

Good luck on your visa journey first off. Evidence looks good so far. You will need letters of intent from both of you. I do advise that you get a calling plan or landline with international calls. You will have to have call proof at time of interviews. I use phone cards for long calls and have the landline set up so I can print out the times and number shown on my international calls to my husband.

If he has given you an engagement ring he could use the receipt at the interview. And I would try and get copies or something from the airlines with the booking of the boarding passes or anything that shows where your trip took you.

Good luck,

Mary

[mercuryroad 0]

Thanks for answering my question regarding evidence for the application.

My apologies for so many little questions, I am just nervous because I am much older than my fiance (I am an American women) and somehow I think that might be a red flag. We are in love and dying to be together but not sure we will be believed because of the age difference (seems there is a stigma when its an older woman/younger man). So, I want to be well prepared both at the application stage and the interview stage.

I have not kept airline boarding passes or itineraries and we both use phone cards for long distance calls, so I do not have those. I do however have the following:

1. Credit Card Statements (with airline, hotels, and car rentals)

2. Passport stamps

3. Car Rental agreements and receipits

4. Emails

5. Photos

I am hoping that will be enough? Please let me know your thoughts. Thanks!

Minus the boarding passes, that is a pretty good list. If you have any other receipts, that might be useful as well.....such as currency conversion, movie tickets, etc.

The primary purpose of the interview is to determine the validity of the relationship and that it is ongoing. Age should not play a factor, though your fiancee might be questioned about it.

I'm not an expert and other people will chime in with their thoughts/suggestions but the e-mails are nice because you have tangible proof of communication. I try to e-mail my fiancee regularly, even if it is regarding conversations we've already had by phone, since their isn't a phone record of our conversations.

[KarenCee 3]

I've not seen evidence that age is a factor...in fact, I am older than my fiancé as well, and we were approved in February of this year. Good luck!

[kaydee457 13]

I've not seen evidence that age is a factor...in fact, I am older than my fiancé as well, and we were approved in February of this year. Good luck!

Age is absolutely a factor when considering any particular country, or consulate. I'll let others chime in to validate and expand but right now, at the petition submittal stage, it is not a problem whatsoever.

The O.P. should focus on the task at hand; supply all the requested information concisely and coherently and no more.

Now is not the time to prove the validity of your relationship. That comes later at the consulate interview.

Edited March 12, 2006 by kaydee457

[KarenCee 3]

I was basing my response on the approvals of those on here who have age differences...nothing more.

[Fuzzness 2]

I've yet to see where age was a factor in Canada or the UK, since it is not a rare occurance in those countries.

I don't know about Costa Rica

Edited March 12, 2006 by Fuzzness

[kaydee457 13]

I was basing my response on the approvals of those on here who have age differences...nothing more.

Hey, no problem but my wife and I have a 26 year difference in age and she was absolutely grilled over that.

Perhaps most get through, I do not know but it is a factor that's scrutinized by the consulates.

[knight3131 0]

Instead of using calling cards to call him.

Go to www.tel3advantage.com

after calling him, it will get recorded the number you are calling from and the number of the person you are calling and for how long. You can print it out and send it in with your petition.

I started using it December 2005 and I have over 20 pages. I call my fiancee 3 times per day. Sometimes we talk for 1-1.5 hours per day. It is only costing me $200 per month. I'm going to be sending the 20 pages with my petition so they can see how much we talk. That should be enough prove for them.

[Jamaica to CT 0]

You're in good company here on VJ; there are several VJ women who are older that their fiances, including myself. Older women and younger men seems to be more accepted in US culture now, but it may cause red flags in some cultures/countries. I've noticed in some Latin American countries that it's not really that much of an oddity. As the others have said just make sure that your evidence is strong. I use calling cards from idt.net and it gives you a breakdown of your calls.

Michele

[moondancer627 0]

I am older than my husband by 9 years . We haven't had our AOS interview yet, but what is age....

Evidence of Relationship will look for Passport stamps and more official government things than phone calls ect...

I had gotten RFE'd for Evidence of Relationship because I had only included phone bills and nothing officially government...

Once we submitted passport evidence we were over the hurdle...

Moondancer

[MDighe 0]

OMG this hole age thing is scaring me to death...I am 8 1/2 yrs old then my husband....I never thought about it before but now after reading some of these posts..I am getting worried now...K3 petition approved 03-06-06 just waiting for next step..

Michelle

Edited March 13, 2006 by MDighe

[Minfay 0]

I am seven years older than my fiance and we have not had any problems (or potential problems) as of yet. To me - it shouldn't matter -- how many years is alot of years? 15 or 20 year difference, yeah, that might be a problem....I could see where "they" might be a bit suspicious......but that shouldn't stop anyone!!

[daladae 0]

K1 approved on the 10th of March 2006 in the UK. Age has not played any factor into our application. I am the USC and my fiancee is 17 years older than me.

We actually have had great success and gotten her K1 in 114 days (start to finish)

[Yodrak 7]

KarenCee,

A dangerous thing to do.

Age difference, or any other single factor, is only one tile in a mosaic. Decisions are made based on what the mosaic looks like, not what any particular tile looks like (although for denial it is necessary to identify some odd-looking tiles that contributed to ruining the appearance of the mosaic).

Yodrak

I was basing my response on the approvals of those on here who have age differences...nothing more.

Edited March 13, 2006 by Yodrak