Crippling nervousness

[obrakeo 15]

Hoping there is someone out there with similar experiences. I, the sponsor, am not the one with the aforementioned issue. I believe our case to be about as clean cut and clear as possible. I'm a US citizen and met my wife in Vietnam while staying there for several months on sabbatical. We have a solid 7 months of our relationship before marriage and my return to the states while working through the immigration process, daily contact while away and an additional 4 months spent in Vietnam between two trips back, affidavits from friends and family who flew out to Vietnam for our wedding, neither of us have been married, no incredible age gap, financial support not a concern... No red flags to speak of.

My wife ( in my best borat impression ), on the other hand... I seem to have to convince her daily that the sky is not falling. The deluge of misinformation spread by "immigration experts" in Vietnam is appalling and doesn't help. The anecdotal horror stories from friends of friends seem to paint some film noir interrogation that is not helping me inspire confidence in my wife.

Anyone else experience a similar situation? I'm looking for anything to calm my wife's nerves short of injecting her with sodium thiopental for the interview.

[Ning 619]

Hoping there is someone out there with similar experiences. I, the sponsor, am not the one with the aforementioned issue. I believe our case to be about as clean cut and clear as possible. I'm a US citizen and met my wife in Vietnam while staying there for several months on sabbatical. We have a solid 7 months of our relationship before marriage and my return to the states while working through the immigration process, daily contact while away and an additional 4 months spent in Vietnam between two trips back, affidavits from friends and family who flew out to Vietnam for our wedding, neither of us have been married, no incredible age gap, financial support not a concern... No red flags to speak of.

My wife ( in my best borat impression ), on the other hand... I seem to have to convince her daily that the sky is not falling. The deluge of misinformation spread by "immigration experts" in Vietnam is appalling and doesn't help. The anecdotal horror stories from friends of friends seem to paint some film noir interrogation that is not helping me inspire confidence in my wife.

Anyone else experience a similar situation? I'm looking for anything to calm my wife's nerves short of injecting her with sodium thiopental for the interview.

For the immigrant the process is a wild ride of emotions with a seeming Pandora's box of events that never end. During that its Asian style to get a lot of those " experts " helping. The motive for some of that is questionable anyway.

Many experience this including me to some extent. I also had the " help " from people but I had my husband in Thailand most of the time.

My suggestion to calm her is to explain that the drama is in the processes not the interview really. Her confidence should come from the unusual strength of the case in an area ( relationship ) where many have problems due to weak ties to each other. There isn't any need to fear the interview from what I can see. Mine was easy & so should hers be.