Need advice on Egyptian Fiance

[Transborderwife 4,666]

Im practical and my religion doesnt define me or confine me. Its something i make a Part of my life and not entirely my life. I wouldnt even know Basim if that were the case.

I dont speak for them and they cant speak for me. Im an individual.who didnt pick to be raised under a certain denomination. Thank you.

If it's not a part of your life then why are you clearly concerned about the differences or red flags that it may bring?

[terri_blake 10]

I am not even saying anything bad about Muslims, just that his expectations for you will be uncomfotable for you as a non-Muslim to handle. Furthermore, he seems to not be a secular-minded Muslim, which would make a big difference. Please don't bring him over thinking that he will change/convert. Accept his religion and the role it will play in your life before making the marriage leap. Otherwise you will be extremely unhappy. Also realize that people tend to become more conservative in their beliefs as they age, so take that for what it's worth. Good luck on your journey.

Yes your are correct. Thank you for the kind words.

[yuna628 9,677]

Terri. I'm going to be real with you.

Granted you may not like a single thing I'm going to say here, but here goes.

I don't really care if your story is legit or fake, okay? I'm not one to question whom one falls in love with and the differences they may encounter.

You have consistently posted misleading and evasively contradictory statements. As this is a site where people generally care about each other and want to help: there are things that YOU need to clear up or this will not continue in a positive manner. Help people help you. Or don't. If you don't then no one will be able to help you or continue taking you seriously.

I can guarantee to you, that the United States government does not care one iota about your hardships or difficulty, how good you think your photos are (real or photoshopped), or the circumstances regarding why you can't be in the same room or have to stand below a balcony with a person you say you want to be your husband. They don't care about roses or towels or love stories. They do not care how much you think you love him and how much you think you can make this work. They don't even care about the money you sent with your application either.

What they care about is fraud, people becoming a burden to their system, and the protection of their citizens.

Under the theme of fraud - many things you have stated raise red flags. Severe red flags, that I don't believe a person viewing your petition would be able to overcome positively without more information. Reality can be painful and harsh, but that's the way things are. The people who have sent petitions in here, and have been waiting for months and years to be with their loved ones, they have endured extreme hardships, painful separations, differences in cultures, and scrutiny. Don't think for a second that people don't understand the reality of hardship, because they do. This is something we take seriously. No one here wants to be hostile with you, but you're making it impossible for a person not to react that way.

I've had my say now, and I think what I've said is fairly reasonable and polite, if you are willing to calm down and actually start answering questions that do in fact pertain to if your case will be successful or not. Because trust me, it isn't about who's uncle ran off with whom right now, or even religious differences that you even need to be concerned about at the top of the list -- it's a whole host of other things. As it stands now, there is a high likelihood your case will not be successful. Sorry, but that's how life is.

[Smelserjl 137]

Miss, the reason people are saying these things is because they believe you're missing the point. And of course, this is all based on what you told us. Based on everything youve said--other than you uncle's issue--you have a relationship that appears to be full of red flags. So while you may have originally brought up your uncle, you opened the conversation to additional information by which everyone here is replying. No one wants you to fail. We're all in the same boat and have our own issues to deal with. But I've learned that people are incredibly frank and honest on VJ because they want to help. There's no sugar coating the immigration process, and the sooner you understand the learn from people, the easier it may make your journey. You may not like what people have to say, but they only want to help.

Edited April 19, 2015 by Smelserjl

[terri_blake 10]

Terri. I'm going to be real with you.

Granted you may not like a single thing I'm going to say here, but here goes.

I don't really care if your story is legit or fake, okay? I'm not one to question whom one falls in love with and the differences they may encounter.

You have consistently posted misleading and evasively contradictory statements. As this is a site where people generally care about each other and want to help: there are things that YOU need to clear up or this will not continue in a positive manner. Help people help you. Or don't. If you don't then no one will be able to help you or continue taking you seriously.

I can guarantee to you, that the United States government does not care one iota about your hardships or difficulty, how good you think your photos are (real or photoshopped), or the circumstances regarding why you can't be in the same room or have to stand below a balcony with a person you say you want to be your husband. They don't care about roses or towels or love stories. They do not care how much you think you love him and how much you think you can make this work. They don't even care about the money you sent with your application either.

What they care about is fraud, people becoming a burden to their system, and the protection of their citizens.

Under the theme of fraud - many things you have stated raise red flags. Severe red flags, that I don't believe a person viewing your petition would be able to overcome positively without more information. Reality can be painful and harsh, but that's the way things are. The people who have sent petitions in here, and have been waiting for months and years to be with their loved ones, they have endured extreme hardships, painful separations, differences in cultures, and scrutiny. Don't think for a second that people don't understand the reality of hardship, because they do. This is something we take seriously. No one here wants to be hostile with you, but you're making it impossible for a person not to react that way.

I've had my say now, and I think what I've said is fairly reasonable and polite, if you are willing to calm down and actually start answering questions that do in fact pertain to if your case will be successful or not. Because trust me, it isn't about who's uncle ran off with whom right now, or even religious differences that you even need to be concerned about at the top of the list -- it's a whole host of other things. As it stands now, there is a high likelihood your case will not be successful. Sorry, but that's how life is.

I am sorry if my previous post came off a bit rude or crazy but I will admit that I do feel a bit attacked here. I do not mean to be evasive or overly misleading. I actually AM open to discussing my situation entirely but I just wanted to take one subject at a time. the red flags that you bring up are relevant to my situation and I know that I must deal with him now rather than later. it is true reality can be painful and harsh and that is why I am here because I have faced reality and I understand that things are not going to go my way with just wishful thoughts alone. I will discuss the photo situation to clear it up so that everyone can sweep it under the rug and we can move on. when I met my fiance in Morocco he was on the balcony because it is against his religion to have me in his hotel room. He explained this to me before I even bought my plane ticket to go to Morocco so I knew what I was getting myself into. He hired his good friend who happens to be one of the best photographer in Morocco to come and document our first meeting. the photos show us very happy, smiling, and genuinely in love with one another. They are taken from several different angles including the balcony with my fiance, on the ground level with me, and from an alternate balcony where we are both included in the photos. they are very original, tasteful, and we have both black and white and color photos. I know that this may sound odd but I know that the immigration specialists have seen similar for photos that were taken in that manner because of religious situation this is a fact. I am glad I am able to discuss this with you all so that I can get some positive feedback thank you.

[lost_at_sea 995]

I am sorry if my previous post came off a bit rude or crazy but I will admit that I do feel a bit attacked here. I do not mean to be evasive or overly misleading. I actually AM open to discussing my situation entirely but I just wanted to take one subject at a time. the red flags that you bring up are relevant to my situation and I know that I must deal with him now rather than later. it is true reality can be painful and harsh and that is why I am here because I have faced reality and I understand that things are not going to go my way with just wishful thoughts alone. I will discuss the photo situation to clear it up so that everyone can sweep it under the rug and we can move on. when I met my fiance in Morocco he was on the balcony because it is against his religion to have me in his hotel room. He explained this to me before I even bought my plane ticket to go to Morocco so I knew what I was getting myself into. He hired his good friend who happens to be one of the best photographer in Morocco to come and document our first meeting. the photos show us very happy, smiling, and genuinely in love with one another. They are taken from several different angles including the balcony with my fiance, on the ground level with me, and from an alternate balcony where we are both included in the photos. they are very original, tasteful, and we have both black and white and color photos. I know that this may sound odd but I know that the immigration specialists have seen similar for photos that were taken in that manner because of religious situation this is a fact. I am glad I am able to discuss this with you all so that I can get some positive feedback thank you.

Wonderful! That clears up some stuff.

One of the other questions was whether you were intending to meet him again before he has to do his K1 interview after the petition is (hopefully) approved? Do you have more trips planned to spend some more time together/meet more friends and family? That sort of thing.

[Vette 116]

I am sorry if my previous post came off a bit rude or crazy but I will admit that I do feel a bit attacked here. I do not mean to be evasive or overly misleading. I actually AM open to discussing my situation entirely but I just wanted to take one subject at a time. the red flags that you bring up are relevant to my situation and I know that I must deal with him now rather than later. it is true reality can be painful and harsh and that is why I am here because I have faced reality and I understand that things are not going to go my way with just wishful thoughts alone. I will discuss the photo situation to clear it up so that everyone can sweep it under the rug and we can move on. when I met my fiance in Morocco he was on the balcony because it is against his religion to have me in his hotel room. He explained this to me before I even bought my plane ticket to go to Morocco so I knew what I was getting myself into. He hired his good friend who happens to be one of the best photographer in Morocco to come and document our first meeting. the photos show us very happy, smiling, and genuinely in love with one another. They are taken from several different angles including the balcony with my fiance, on the ground level with me, and from an alternate balcony where we are both included in the photos. they are very original, tasteful, and we have both black and white and color photos. I know that this may sound odd but I know that the immigration specialists have seen similar for photos that were taken in that manner because of religious situation this is a fact. I am glad I am able to discuss this with you all so that I can get some positive feedback thank you.

So, something like this with you on the ground?

Honestly, this wouldn't work. Sorry. Go back, meet him (same level), take more photos and start all over again.

He is full of it if he told you he couldn't meet you on the same level. That is just a flat out lie.

[terri_blake 10]

So, something like this with you on the ground?

Honestly, this wouldn't work. Sorry. Go back, meet him (same level), take more photos and start all over again.

He is full of it if he told you he couldn't meet you on the same level. That is just a flat out lie.

Actually we have a few pics like that one and yes it does fit the criteria. We asked a lawyer get your facts straight.

Edited April 19, 2015 by terri_blake

[Smelserjl 137]

My husband is also Egyptian and Muslim and I've met his family on many occasions. They are traditional as well, and we've all taken pictures together. Yes the hotel room is definitely an issue, but meeting family and sitting together isn't. This is typical in engagements in Egypt before marriage takes place. If you are meeting in Morocco and doing something that appears to be of issue with his family and his values, that is indeed a red flag because it makes it seem like and you are hiding something.

[wbeem 568]

My fiance and I are both photographers. For our petition, we submitted iPhone snapshots.

What Vette is trying to explain to you is that it isn't the quality of the photos that will convince USCIS. It is the content. It's great that you have some lovely, good quality photos for your personal use, but to get through this process, you don't have to convince us of anything. What you present to the government is what will ultimately get you an approval or denial.

If you are lucky, you may get an RFE and an opportunity to present more evidence, so take the advice of so many here, book another visit (or more if you can) so that if you are asked to submit further evidence, you have it.

[lost_at_sea 995]

Actually we have a few pics like that one and tes it does fit the criteria. We asked a lawyer get your facts straight.

This is going to be another thing you don't want to hear, but again, I tell you this for your own good not because I'm trying to be hurtful: Lawyers are wrong all the time. Search VJ. You'll find *hundreds* of threads where people have asked lawyers what to do and they have been wrong and received RFEs (requests for more evidence) because they were misinformed. It's not the end of the world if your photos are no good - you'll just get an RFE and have to send some more in (most likely).

[Cody and Daisy 373]

No photographs of you actually together.

Only photographs of you both 2 stories apart.

This will be a red flag if not now then at the interview.

[Penguin_ie 5,994]

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Edited April 19, 2015 by Penguin_ie