Marriage scam

[Boiler 45,670]

The OP said she does not have money for his AOS, so obviously, no I-485 was filed at all, only EAD so the guy could work, and it should've been filed like 9 months ago the latest, before his K-1 would expire. I do have a strange feeling about him becoming a bad guy now, when apparently he insists on AOS which would cost $1070.

Nope you misunderstood.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

The OP said she does not have money for his AOS, so obviously, no I-485 was filed at all, only EAD so the guy could work, and it should've been filed like 9 months ago the latest, before his K-1 would expire. I do have a strange feeling about him becoming a bad guy now, when apparently he insists on AOS which would cost $1070.

OP did not say that. She said he has his EAD and is "waiting for his paperwork" ( GC) which means it has been filed.

She said she can not afford "removal of conditions" (which she should not concern herself with).

[ydu1 6]

I honestly think you misunderstood immigration. Infidelity in a relationship doesn't mean immigration scam. He is just being a cheater. The solution to your problem is either you try counselling and save your marriage or simply move on with your life. Calling it a marriage scam is baseless.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

I am normally very objective and agree that many marriages are just not working out and aren't intended scams but in this case

I am convinced he came here for immigration benefits and not to be with OP.

This sentence says a lot :

He told people he was here on business and he had not attended to be with me. ( I assume she meant to type intended)

To cheat is one thing but to have a completely other life in another town is another. This kind of person doesn't start to cheat once in the USA

but has likely cheated the entire time from day one before he used her to get out of his country.

His intend was to defraud from the beginning in my opinion.

[Boiler 45,670]

Opinions are only of interest on VJ.

Where is the proof?

Edited March 24, 2015 by Boiler

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Opinions are only of interest on VJ.

Where is the proof?

In the pudding.

[onye uwaoma 131]

I am normally very objective and agree that many marriages are just not working out and aren't intended scams but in this case

I am convinced he came here for immigration benefits and not to be with OP.

This sentence says a lot :

He told people he was here on business and he had not attended to be with me. ( I assume she meant to type intended)

To cheat is one thing but to have a completely other life in another town is another. This kind of person doesn't start to cheat once in the USA

but has likely cheated the entire time from day one before he used her to get out of his country.

His intend was to defraud from the beginning in my opinion.

Somebody painted a fraud scenario for you to absorb. If you feel you are the judge get your facts from both sides. Experience has shown how extent a spouse can go in order to blackmail the other spouse when things are falling apart. Reserve your judgment and be cautious in passing comment on anything you read. Judge not or you will be judged.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Somebody painted a fraud scenario for you to absorb. If you feel you are the judge get your facts from both sides. Experience has shown how extent a spouse can go in order to blackmail the other spouse when things are falling apart. Reserve your judgment and be cautious in passing comment on anything you read. Judge not or you will be judged.

You need to chill out. This is not a court room with a judge and jury but an immigration board and we give advise if asked for to the one who post.

Period.

[onye uwaoma 131]

You need to chill out. This is not a court room with a judge and jury but an immigration board and we give advise if asked for to the one who post.

Period.

Ok. But without any offense some posters want to use this board to screw other people's life and you have to be discrete with your comments. You said you are convinced by listening to just one side of the story. what is the credibility of that story? just think about it

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Ok. But without any offense some posters want to use this board to screw other people's life and you have to be discrete with your comments. You said you are convinced by listening to just one side of the story. what is the credibility of that story? just think about it

It is customary to go by what the poster of a board says. It is not realistic to wait for the other side to suddenly appear and then tell his side of

the story. As I said this is not a court room. Even you will never know for sure what is going on because you weren't there in their house being a

witness to it all no matter who writes what. If it is not your style to comment in cases like this then keep scrolling and don't comment.

I said I am convinced (given the content of the OP) that her cheating husband had fraud in mind from day one.. It is MY OPINION I said.

Opinions are like rear ends, everybody has one, you, me and the other people that added theirs.

OP has in no way insinuated that she wants to "screw his life up" by using this board but the guy sure did screw up her life !

You don't need to tell me to be discrete with my comments, I can handle myself just fine and recognize a vindictive post when I see one,

OP has not been on any vengeance kick.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

He may be a cheater and if you seem to feel that is ok, then I would support her being a petition dumper. Why should she put her I864 out for him if he isn't putting out for her ?

[onye uwaoma 131]

Oh well, that is the point... he may be a cheat or not right? nobody knows for sure and nobody will ever know the truth from just one side... so why pass unfair judgment?

Edited March 26, 2015 by onye uwaoma

[onye uwaoma 131]

It is customary to go by what the poster of a board says. It is not realistic to wait for the other side to suddenly appear and then tell his side of

the story. As I said this is not a court room. Even you will never know for sure what is going on because you weren't there in their house being a

witness to it all no matter who writes what. If it is not your style to comment in cases like this then keep scrolling and don't comment.

I said I am convinced (given the content of the OP) that her cheating husband had fraud in mind from day one.. It is MY OPINION I said.

Opinions are like rear ends, everybody has one, you, me and the other people that added theirs.

OP has in no way insinuated that she wants to "screw his life up" by using this board but the guy sure did screw up her life !

You don't need to tell me to be discrete with my comments, I can handle myself just fine and recognize a vindictive post when I see one,

OP has not been on any vengeance kick.

He may be a cheater and if you seem to feel that is ok, then I would support her being a petition dumper. Why should she put her I864 out for him if he isn't putting out for her ?

Given that there are two sides to every story it will be reasonable to probe any allegation before anyone jumps into conclusion... What is bad is bad and I am not saying that the husband cheated or not. what i am saying is that this kind of stories are incomplete because they are intended to evoke undue judgment against a person who has no idea he/she is being condemned for what he/she did or did not do. now i will tell you that people who are extremely insecure can allege cheating even though it never exist. just talking with friends or family can be highly suspicious to them and regarded as cheating... my take is be quick to hear but slow to pass irrational judgment or it will come back to you.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

There are photos of him and other women all over the Internet perhaps it is not an irrational judgement on my part but rather a comprehension problem on your part. You are taking this off topic and I don't see your forum police badge anywhere. Let it go and respect different opinions.

[onye uwaoma 131]

There are photos of him and other women all over the Internet perhaps it is not an irrational judgement on my part but rather a comprehension problem on your part. You are taking this off topic and I don't see your forum police badge anywhere. Let it go and respect different opinions.

Sorry if i offend you. that was not my intention... i will let it be just as you have adviced but i have made my point and i am not changing position... i respect everybody and i want everyone to be respected.