Husband hates texas

[TiestoSoulmates 2]

personally I would call the embassy who issued him the visa and ask them their opinion on what you should do or at least let your husband know that's what you're going to do because this sounds to me like it's abuse sweetheart and this is not what you signed up for this is not what you deserve. I will pray for you.

[raven52 233]

I really hate this for you and your child.

You do not deserve this, AND.,.,.,it is going to get worse.

I will tell you how to ""wake him up with a dose of reality".,,.,. FILE for divorce, due to the documented things you have said. Be prepared, and move from the home or have him removed. This man is irrational, and might do anything, and he is described as very un-stable.

Get away from him now! Now matter the love you have for him, it will grow to hate, in the very near future if he keeps acting worse.

I agree with other members, he just wants his GC.,.,.,it is the only reason he came here, as one poster said, his behavior is a "learned behavior!"

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

personally I would call the embassy who issued him the visa and ask them their opinion on what you should do or at least let your husband know that's what you're going to do because this sounds to me like it's abuse sweetheart and this is not what you signed up for this is not what you deserve. I will pray for you.

This is not an embassy issue. The embassy issues visas and does not do marriage counseling !

[mrs thb 331]

there's got to be at least 1 church in Houston that focuses on people from the DR.

I suggest you keep digging, looking for it. And then go with him. Why? He'll have a few hours to dig in, there, with the possibility of making new friends from the DR. and new connections also (which are priceless).

How to find the church? Beats me..

gotta love darnell.

sorry to tell you but your hubby isn't in denial, this is part of his being.

this is his reality, best your grow accustom to it. you will not reform him.

even my hubby talks about texans....not good, nor bad, they are just unique people. i think texas has a flavour of its own and you gotta learn to go with the flow. and, personally I love this. each province in canada is unique. different strokes for different folks. if yer hubby can't assimilate with the texan flow then best he be changin' or finding a new place, and maybe that be with god.

join em, you will soon realize the two of you can't be identical twins. heck, no 2 people are alike. appreciate him for what he is and what he offers you. your relationship will grow abundantly.

[mrs thb 331]

If you're lucky, he's telling the truth. He sounds like a real piece of work. He won't get better. Don't move for him. It would be a terrible, terrible, terrible mistake.

Am I right that your daughter doesn't much care for him? Yes, I am, despite you not even mentioning it. He sounds like a mistake that you can still correct. My guess is you already know what you should do, as do all those in your life who are probably telling you the very same thing.

but then again, expatty has some good council. maybe church is his excuse with hopes that you will buy it. if it isn't, things will only get worse. the writing is on the wall, you daughter smells him, why don;t you?

[rlogan 2,036]

I agree with you that racism is unacceptable but she is married to a Dominican as I am married to a Dominicana. Racism towards Haitians is just a fact of life in the Dominican Republic. Since she is married to a Dominican she needs to try to understand the culture of her husband. Educating yourself about a different point of view does not mean justification or acceptance.

He expressed no such bigotry prior to coming here. Bait-and-switch deception: show no racism during courtship...then after marriage the truth comes out.

Crossing international borders makes no difference with this kind of deceit. If you marry someone and discover they are gay, have previous marriages with children, are a member of the Ku Klux Klan or anything serious like this then you are a victim of a con man. It has nothing to do with understanding someone's culture when they are concealing it from you.

[Jawaree 718]

I am neer judgmental but see all this as a ploy

A He's going to DR & not coming back = lie...he'll fly

back into NY to be with whomever, NY is waaaay more

expensive, apt living and project living will not suit a Texas

kid...please don't do that the living is nowhere decent as TX

B He has self-hate issues, he's Spanish why is he hating on

Spanish ppl , what will he do with the PRicans & Ecuadorians

when he gets to NY. or NJ

C GC seem to be his motivation, sorry sis seem he will treat

you worst once he has the card, no counseling will help here, this

guy is filled with hate, I say let him go & not raise your kids

around a man like that or its a big mistake, I would run if I have a mate

filled with such hate...U my dear cannot change his hate & along

with self-hate he has a lot more issues, he has no care. he wants

what he wants at your expense, cut your lost & move on, he may

beat U in NY.

D When he goes to NY he will have more complaints, blame you

then leave you after uprooting you. many ppl end up in shelters

during winter, P.schools can be rough, Catholic & Charter schools

cost money, basements are $1100 & 2 bdrms $2200.00, don't do it.

Edited March 13, 2015 by Jawaree

[janet&adonis 57]

With all due respect is he going back to visit his DR GF? I mean seriously. This guys will only get worse, I GUARANTEE it!

Don't get me wrong. I want you and your daughter to live happily ever after but I think this guy is not the one to help you with that.

I will pray for you...

He does not have a gf that i know of. I would have been told this. He left kind of suddenly so he still has some unfinished business

[blest.but.strest 50]

He does not have a gf that i know of. I would have been told this. He left kind of suddenly so he still has some unfinished business

business? what did he do for a living in DR? The purpose of him coming to the US was to be with YOU and that is the only reason he should be here for, not to be with Dominican people in NYC or NJ. If he wanted to be around Dominican people he should have stayed in DR.

[Jawaree 718]

This is not an embassy issue. The embassy issues visas and does not do marriage counseling !

LOL

[TiestoSoulmates 2]

This is not an embassy issue. The embassy issues visas and does not do marriage counseling !

it is if he didn't come here with the right intentions then he falsified his right to get his visa

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

it is if he didn't come here with the right intentions then he falsified his right to get his visa

The visa was issued and this is now out of the embassy's hands. The guy is here and adjusting status which is done under USCIS who also

do not care about a guy not wanting to live in Texas. Fraud has not been established, only assumed by some posters.

Not all jerks are fraudsters but all fraudsters are jerks. She can divorce and withdraw her affidavit of support which she is not ready to do.

As far as the embassy is concerned...that ship has sailed !

[blessedandfavored 1]

there's got to be at least 1 church in Houston that focuses on people from the DR.

I suggest you keep digging, looking for it. And then go with him. Why? He'll have a few hours to dig in, there, with the possibility of making new friends from the DR. and new connections also (which are priceless).

How to find the church? Beats me..

hi,

its not too hard to find the domician community in houston, allow me to offer a suggestion or even better write me directly here and i can tell you where to go to get knowledge of the cultural events and so on.

blessings to you both!

[Paul and Svetlana 21]

Do not move ! Be prepared for him to leave after he gets his permanant green card. He should not treat you like this ! His hate for others has polluted the love he had for you. He hates Texas, Haitians, Mexicans and poor people. He abuses you because you don't speak Spanish like the DR people do. WHAT?....Why would he put up with all of this torture other than to get a geen card??? I am so sorry.

[blest.but.strest 50]

I am neer judgmental but see all this as a ploy

A He's going to DR & not coming back = lie...he'll fly

back into NY to be with whomever, NY is waaaay more

expensive, apt living and project living will not suit a Texas

kid...please don't do that the living is nowhere decent as TX

B He has self-hate issues, he's Spanish why is he hating on

Spanish ppl , what will he do with the PRicans & Ecuadorians

when he gets to NY. or NJ

C GC seem to be his motivation, sorry sis seem he will treat

you worst once he has the card, no counseling will help here, this

guy is filled with hate, I say let him go & not raise your kids

around a man like that or its a big mistake, I would run if I have a mate

filled with such hate...U my dear cannot change his hate & along

with self-hate he has a lot more issues, he has no care. he wants

what he wants at your expense, cut your lost & move on, he may

beat U in NY.

D When he goes to NY he will have more complaints, blame you

then leave you after uprooting you. many ppl end up in shelters

during winter, P.schools can be rough, Catholic & Charter schools

cost money, basements are $1100 & 2 bdrms $2200.00, don't do it.

I agree with A, C, D

B. he is not Spanish, Spanish people are from Spain. He is Spanish speaking and you can be Spanish speaking too if you learn it. He is Dominican, from DR, a Caribbean country that shares the same geographic area as Haiti, Puerto Rico and Cuba, yes the Caribbean. He is not hating on Spanish people, he is hating on Mexicans and Haitians.

Edited March 13, 2015 by blest.but.strest