March 2015 Support and Rant

[Janelle2002 3,865]

Yes last month and this they are using the blizzard excuse, I think they have planes dropping snow so they don't have to go to work and that's how paranoid I am.

Welcome to the thread and we are here for you.

I see your signature block. Good job Soloenta!!!

Question for you ladies and gentlemen out there..... I got CC yesterday, even called to confirm, but just now I got an email saying even though my case is complete I have a checklist for yet more financial evidence that my husband will need to bring to his interview. Should I bring check stubs and/or tax transcripts? Or should I get a letter from my employer?

Are you sure it is not a false check list? This happens. However, just in case, check stubs, letter from employer, anything taxable you have like retirement, 401k, stocks, etc.

Edited March 6, 2015 by Janelle2002

[Kels2487 96]

Question for you ladies and gentlemen out there..... I got CC yesterday, even called to confirm, but just now I got an email saying even though my case is complete I have a checklist for yet more financial evidence that my husband will need to bring to his interview. Should I bring check stubs and/or tax transcripts? Or should I get a letter from my employer?

What does the checklist say?

[S. & A. 159]

Question for you ladies and gentlemen out there..... I got CC yesterday, even called to confirm, but just now I got an email saying even though my case is complete I have a checklist for yet more financial evidence that my husband will need to bring to his interview. Should I bring check stubs and/or tax transcripts? Or should I get a letter from my employer?

What exactly does the email say, can you copy and paste it here? Did you by any chance use assets to qualify for the I-864? I've seen this happen quite a few times.

Good luck everyone else, thinking about you all today.

[Not a Tailor 1,370]

Urgh, I am so sick of waiting. I know, I know, it hasn't been that long. I was lucky, we scored a cheap plane ticket deal and I got to go home for almost three weeks in December/January.

But it's just killing me being away. We're exhausted, we're tired. I had surgery last weekend and seriously, the recovery has sucked hardcore. I've got lingering nerve pain and numbness of the face. I'm still exhausted. I still feel utterly crappy. I really, really want to be curled up in bed watching tv and getting cuddled. This recovery is literally worse than when I had my upper jaw reconstructed or had my abdomen patched up after a hernia. I want to go home.

Add in that my wife has some really major, really stressful deadlines coming up in her grad program and that she's coming down with something and this whole thing is just ridiculously miserable.

I just want to go home. I've gone through a lot of in my life, including actual homelessness. I've spent most of my life feeling adrift, like I didn't belong anywhere, like I didn't really have a home as a result of that . I finally have a place that feels like home and I can't be there and it's so frustrating and upsetting. I've waited my whole life for a home and I just want to get there. This isn't FAIR.

Edited March 7, 2015 by Not a Tailor

[Janelle2002 3,865]

I know the feeling. It's all a bunch of poo poo on a hockey stick getting slung at us. I'm exhausted with you. sigh......

Hang in there. I wish you a speedy recovery.

[Luvmytater 88]

What exactly does the email say, can you copy and paste it here? Did you by any chance use assets to qualify for the I-864? I've seen this happen quite a few times.

Good luck everyone else, thinking about you all today.

I can't copy and paste from my phone but at the bottom it says I need to give my husband employment information for my self which includes (pay stubs, letter from employer, or business license.) I had to have a cosponser because I do not meet the requirements and I did not use any assets. I sent 6 months of check stubs with the application, then another two months that were requested with my checklist, and now they are asking for even more. This is crazy but I have already ask my employer for a letter and will bring everything else I can find when I go.

[S. & A. 159]

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But it's just killing me being away. We're exhausted, we're tired. I had surgery last weekend and seriously, the recovery has sucked hardcore. I've got lingering nerve pain and numbness of the face. I'm still exhausted. I still feel utterly crappy. I really, really want to be curled up in bed watching tv and getting cuddled. This recovery is literally worse than when I had my upper jaw reconstructed or had my abdomen patched up after a hernia. I want to go home.

Add in that my wife has some really major, really stressful deadlines coming up in her grad program and that she's coming down with something and this whole thing is just ridiculously miserable.

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Hang in there. I kind of know how it feels. I had to have surgery 2 days after my wife left me last December after a three week visit. It sucked ###, recovery sucked ###, all of December basically sucked ###. Waiting for a CC basically sucked the most ###, even though there was another two-month wait after to get the actual visa.

I've wanted to be home more than anything else for the past 4 years (...but DOMA, sigh). It's really sad to have to think this way, but my wife used to try to cheer me up reminding me that at least we COULD do it and things could be a lot worse. I think it would be really cliché of me to say something like "it gets better" here because I know how I felt back then, but you're almost down to your 60 days at NVC though (or 65, or whatever it is now with the snow), so I believe you'll get great news soon and things will suck a little less.

[Not a Tailor 1,370]

Hang in there. I kind of know how it feels. I had to have surgery 2 days after my wife left me last December after a three week visit. It sucked ###, recovery sucked ###, all of December basically sucked ###. Waiting for a CC basically sucked the most ###, even though there was another two-month wait after to get the actual visa.

I've wanted to be home more than anything else for the past 4 years (...but DOMA, sigh). It's really sad to have to think this way, but my wife used to try to cheer me up reminding me that at least we COULD do it and things could be a lot worse. I think it would be really cliché of me to say something like "it gets better" here because I know how I felt back then, but you're almost down to your 60 days at NVC though (or 65, or whatever it is now with the snow), so I believe you'll get great news soon and things will suck a little less.

Oh god, I know. We actually tried the whole dating other people thing while DOMA was in force. We didn't think we'd ever get to be together unless we could meet in a third country--while moving to Canada was an option, the career opportunities for her here, in her specific field, were basically non-existent. It was the WORST. When DOMA fell, it was like a miracle and I'm a staunch atheist.

I just really want the wait to end. I'm so terrified of a checklist at this point. I keep pulling out my documents and going over them again and again and it's really getting to me badly. I just want to go home.

[RP&SP 8]

Hi everyone

I am in need ofbsome advice.... so I mailed my i130 out on the 23 of February, the usps messed up and delivered it Sunday the first of March, and since they were closed I am guessing it was picked up on the 2nd. Now I have not heard anything from uscis but now I am afraid that I didnt put attention I130 department on the invelop. Do you guys think I have a reason to worry....

[BRosa 170]

Thank you my sweet and dear friend for your beautiful words, you really made me feel so much better and so bless for being understood. On behalf of my beloved husband I thank you, he has really been beating himself over this. You are right if in another country non of this would have mattered, a few evil people make all the rest pay for their actions. I have been able to pray in the last couple of days and I'm grateful to that and I hope God in his infinite mercy hears all our prayers. God bless you and your family and thank you for taking the time to come back and support us all.

Love you dearly! Love you all.

I agree my angel but I can't seem to be positive right now, it seems nothing has gone right from the day I put in the I-130 absolutely nothing. But I'll keep trying to be positive. Much love and hugs.

Praying Dutch comes back soon with good news, just can't wait to see APPROVED!

Found this video I think the Co's need to watch this twice a day,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cen7NhfpMVE

Such a beautiful message. Que viva el AMOR!! Long live LOVE !.

I agree Soloenta, NVC could use it as well.

[BRosa 170]

Edited March 7, 2015 by BRosa

[IslAmy 122]

Hi everyone

I am in need ofbsome advice.... so I mailed my i130 out on the 23 of February, the usps messed up and delivered it Sunday the first of March, and since they were closed I am guessing it was picked up on the 2nd. Now I have not heard anything from uscis but now I am afraid that I didnt put attention I130 department on the invelop. Do you guys think I have a reason to worry....

Hello again! I wouldn't worry just yet. They are probably generating your NOA1 now. Has the check cashed yet? I wouldn't start to worry til late next week.

Maharosa or any of the other Cairo folks, has anyone heard of any more April interviews being scheduled? I know we still have a chance all this coming week but I'm starting to lose hope.

[RP&SP 8]

@IsIAmy, hi how are you? no it has not been cashed yet. I am worried because I didn't specified the department, which is a very dumb mistake on my part...

[nalacandi 11]

I have briefly spoken with my husband about this and he is reluctant to allow me to post a video, which is frustrating. We have not been in AP at the consulate level for more than 4 months and there is no idea of a time frame. If able to convince him to allow me to do this, I think I will focus my video on the aspect of Administrative Processing free zone. They keep the details secret of why we are in AP, but if denied outright, they provide the reasons. Why are they able to provide reasoning only if denied? In addition, they are not set a time frame in which to complete the investigation of further review and that is not justified. 3 years apart and I am lonely.

Some days I wonder how can I keep going? Where can I find the strength? God will make this happen; that much I know. But, when? When can I have my happiness? When can I lie down at night and look to my left and see my husband sleeping next to me? When can I say, this is my husband? When can I go to the store and not have to go alone, but share in tht bonding light of spending quality time in my husband's prescense?

So, until I post a video, I say, "America, Where is my Spouse?"

I feel so alone here. I have no local friends, I go nowhere unless it's with family, and friends I have made hang out with me once or twice and then don't want to hang out anymore. What is wrong with me, I have a great heart; lots of love to give; deserving of some time out to take my mind off this whole process. Why am I able to make online friends I have never met that enjoy my company, but it stop there.

I miss my husband, I need a little bit of social interaction, and I need emotional support, before I completely fall.

Curios question, why do other's timelines appear after their postings, but my timeline does not? I need computer skills.

These embassies place such fear in our spouses overseas, that if we shake up what is happening to us and speak out then they will deny our petition. I hope this can get around and we can get the support we need to change the legislation regarding immigration reform.

Sorry, for my ranting and if my posting is scrambled and doesn't make sense, but I am truly LOST without my husband.

[DutchmansLady 216]

When I was at the US Consulate in Amsterdam I waited outside while my spouse when inside for his interview. I was lucky enough to see DHL deliver a box to the Russian Consulate next to the US Consulate so I snapped a few pics. I am going to imagine that it was files from NVC . I thought it would be cool for you all to see DHL delivering to a consulate lol.

Edited March 7, 2015 by DutchmansLady