March 2015 Support and Rant

[ItsGonnaBeWorthIt 191]

I don't know much about other countries so feel free to forgive me but I was just wondering.. when someone is denied why do some wait years and years to keep trying to get their spouse to America? I would simply pack up my bags and just resume my life in my husbands country. I was reading other threads how their away from their spouse from years because of AP or denial but I still cant wrap my head around why keep going with the process? when I was in Ethiopia I seen many different nationalities living there with no worries about moving back to America.. I pray nothing happens at my husbands interview but we already know that if we get a denial im moving to Ethiopia for good.. and please forgive me and I don't understand other countries but I just don't understand why keep going with the process?

[Ketsuban 1,034]

I pray God rips all these people a new one and my husband was so tired and unfortunately he's one of those people that needs to sleep or he's a mess. He knows the names of all my cats and my birth year, he said his mind just went blank. We don't have any pictures to speak of if we were up to fraud you would think we would know the ropes and have all the evidence they need. We were cluelessly happily living our lives.

I actually got the amount of time we'd been married wrong in my interview (by a month, because we married on the last day of July and for some reason I keep thinking that means August) but I don't think she realised or cared. Like your husband, I was tired and felt quite put on the spot with the questions, even though I knew to expect them. I had to tell her how our relationship evolved, and after I finished my verbal essay she said she couldn't hear any of it, so I had to repeat myself all over again. Maybe she was looking for inconsistencies... but then again, I couldn't really hear her either!

It's just so odd how not only did they just do the whole "not a bona fide marriage" thing with you guys like they seem to do with a lot of people in the MENA countries, but they even went so far as to slap a permanent ban on him under 212 (a) (6) © (i). I don't understand how making mistakes on your birth date and your cat's name count as "willful misrepresentation". If anything, it was not willful at all, it was a mistake. Willful misrep is like... I dunno, forged birth certificates or hiding a criminal record.

Who was the lawyer lady you went to? I'm sorry she was rude to you but even if she is being unfeeling she might be your best shot. Maybe she just is too methodical and forgets she's dealing with human beings in distress.

[DutchmansLady 216]

Hello everyone ...thank you for the thoughts and prayers ! We are home and thank God my husband was approved but let me tell you it was not a walk in the park for him. Because we have a 19 year age difference,I am divorced he was asked a LOT of questions. Thank God I over prepared him...with photos of not just us but also his parents meeting mine,my husband with my sons and grandchildren etc. He had to answer several question over and over...mostly about how and when we met,when did we get married. The first question was ...soooo your wife is 19 years older than you....hows that working for you ?In the end......he was approved and his passport will be mailed to him within a few days.

I dont want to make a big flamboyant announcement in respect to those still waiting their approvals.((((hugs))) to all of you .

[Janelle2002 3,865]

Okay.

We need to email these people every single day. Everyday. I have a list of some reporters who have done articles about immigration. If anyone else has additional emails addresses please let me know. Here is the letter I made.

Subject: I feel like I am ready to lie down and die.

I feel like I am ready to lie down and die if I cannot have the emotional human contact a human being needs. As humans we live to make relationships, form communities, marry, have children, grow old and die. As depression continues to seep into my body and soul, I ask myself, how did my situation become so bad? I remember . . . it is because I don’t have my spouse/fiancé. The immigration process is a daunting, burdensome, lonely, never-ending nightmare no one understands nor seems to care about. Petition after petition, fees after fees, calls after calls, the hurry up and waits. . . . . Sobbing during Skype calls, kissing a computer screen, heartbreaking goodbyes at airports, this is how I ended up in this state of mind. To be denied this basic necessity is like being denied food or water. My body has slowly started dying. This is why I feel like I am ready to lie down and die if I cannot have my spouse/fiancé.

We are the group of people weeping in the dark. Please, who will help us?

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Help us make processing times at USCIS service centers fairer.

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skim@politico.com

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I don't know much about other countries so feel free to forgive me but I was just wondering.. when someone is denied why do some wait years and years to keep trying to get their spouse to America? I would simply pack up my bags and just resume my life in my husbands country. I was reading other threads how their away from their spouse from years because of AP or denial but I still cant wrap my head around why keep going with the process? when I was in Ethiopia I seen many different nationalities living there with no worries about moving back to America.. I pray nothing happens at my husbands interview but we already know that if we get a denial im moving to Ethiopia for good.. and please forgive me and I don't understand other countries but I just don't understand why keep going with the process?

Some of us have varying reasons as to why we are unable to move abroad or why we had to move back to America. This is why we sit over here and wait.

[Janelle2002 3,865]

Contacted Senator Cruz's Office. The CASE WORKER WAS USELESS!!! She fumbled, mumbled and everything else just to tell me she couldn't help!!!!!!!! She had no idea what she was talking about. She hadn't even read the stuff I had sent her. How horrible!!!! She said TSC is taking 6-9 months to review I-130s and since my petition was returned it is back in the I-130 queue with all the rest of the fresh petitions. Then she hung up on me!!! :ranting:

[IslAmy 122]

Hello everyone ...thank you for the thoughts and prayers ! We are home and thank God my husband was approved but let me tell you it was not a walk in the park for him. Because we have a 19 year age difference,I am divorced he was asked a LOT of questions. Thank God I over prepared him...with photos of not just us but also his parents meeting mine,my husband with my sons and grandchildren etc. He had to answer several question over and over...mostly about how and when we met,when did we get married. The first question was ...soooo your wife is 19 years older than you....hows that working for you ?In the end......he was approved and his passport will be mailed to him within a few days.

I dont want to make a big flamboyant announcement in respect to those still waiting their approvals.((((hugs))) to all of you .

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

[DutchmansLady 216]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Thank you

[nb08 6]

Contacted Senator Cruz's Office. The CASE WORKER WAS USELESS!!! She fumbled, mumbled and everything else just to tell me she couldn't help!!!!!!!! She had no idea what she was talking about. She hadn't even read the stuff I had sent her. How horrible!!!! She said TSC is taking 6-9 months to review I-130s and since my petition was returned it is back in the I-130 queue with all the rest of the fresh petitions. Then she hung up on me!!! :ranting:

Hey, I'm sorry they aren't helpful at his office but believe me you aren't alone. I also contacted his office for my husbands I-130 because it was stuck at NSC for almost 9 months. They were SOO late on even telling me they had received my papers it took them a month to let me know, but luckily I had contacted Senator Cornyns office as well (I actually sent my info to his office before Senator Cruz) and they had a response to me within a week & and a half of receiving my forms & I had an approval literally 2 days after I got the reply from senator. So idk if you have tried Cornyns office but I would contact them as well, because to me between the two, senator Cornyns people seem to be faster and actually are able to get things done. It's worth a try if you haven't already tried. Best of luck to you in this mess that is immigration. & prayers that you are able to work this out!

[Janelle2002 3,865]

Hey, I'm sorry they aren't helpful at his office but believe me you aren't alone. I also contacted his office for my husbands I-130 because it was stuck at NSC for almost 9 months. They were SOO late on even telling me they had received my papers it took them a month to let me know, but luckily I had contacted Senator Cornyns office as well (I actually sent my info to his office before Senator Cruz) and they had a response to me within a week & and a half of receiving my forms & I had an approval literally 2 days after I got the reply from senator. So idk if you have tried Cornyns office but I would contact them as well, because to me between the two, senator Cornyns people seem to be faster and actually are able to get things done. It's worth a try if you haven't already tried. Best of luck to you in this mess that is immigration. & prayers that you are able to work this out!

I guess I will be trying Senator Cornyn's Office next. Senator Cruz acts like he is such a big advocate for legal immigration. Does he know how bad his staff sucks?

Hello everyone ...thank you for the thoughts and prayers ! We are home and thank God my husband was approved but let me tell you it was not a walk in the park for him. Because we have a 19 year age difference,I am divorced he was asked a LOT of questions. Thank God I over prepared him...with photos of not just us but also his parents meeting mine,my husband with my sons and grandchildren etc. He had to answer several question over and over...mostly about how and when we met,when did we get married. The first question was ...soooo your wife is 19 years older than you....hows that working for you ?In the end......he was approved and his passport will be mailed to him within a few days.

I dont want to make a big flamboyant announcement in respect to those still waiting their approvals.((((hugs))) to all of you .

Congratulations!! Sorry I am late because I am ranting today. Bring him on home!

[Luvmytater 88]

Hello everyone ...thank you for the thoughts and prayers ! We are home and thank God my husband was approved but let me tell you it was not a walk in the park for him. Because we have a 19 year age difference,I am divorced he was asked a LOT of questions. Thank God I over prepared him...with photos of not just us but also his parents meeting mine,my husband with my sons and grandchildren etc. He had to answer several question over and over...mostly about how and when we met,when did we get married. The first question was ...soooo your wife is 19 years older than you....hows that working for you ?In the end......he was approved and his passport will be mailed to him within a few days.

I dont want to make a big flamboyant announcement in respect to those still waiting their approvals.((((hugs))) to all of you .

Congrats on your approval

[ItsGonnaBeWorthIt 191]

Dear Itsgonnabeworthit, I can't speak for others here, but one of the realities is, like in my husband's country...it is just TOO DANGEROUS for me (or any children we may have) to live THERE. The country has their own brand of terrorists...the opposition party. People are getting burned to death with random petrol bombs, hacked to death with machetes, kidnapped, raped, etc... They attack random people. Random buses, trains, and trucks/cars. No one knows where they will attack next. (They just killed a journalist who was married to an american, a few days ago...) Let alone, a white american lady standing out like a bright white lightbulb in a country 99.99% dark brown (& beautiful.) There is a warning on the travel.state.gov warning americans of isil supporters who plan on kidnapping, torturing, and beheading americans abroad. This is a real risk. Even my husband's neighbors have threatened me when I was there, I had to go to Embassy to tell them, and my husband always has threats on him, because of me....he has to watch over his shoulder constantly when he goes outside. The bad people there are so bad, it's not worth the risk to me or our family. My husband wants us to live a happy, peaceful life...and unfortunately his country's situation right now doesn't look safe, and who knows how long it will be like this? Otherwise, YES i'd have no problem-o moving there. I love the food, the culture, my in-laws, etc. But I want to LIVE happily with him, not wonder will I live to the next day...or will i suffer from 90% of my body being burnt, or our children being kidnapped and pieced out, this &*%$ really happens...it would be like a hell. Thank God we live in America, and our land is peaceful and safe...this is my right to live here, I was born here, I'm also native american, so i'm staying. It is my right for my husband to live here with me, he's my husband. omg...when....

thanks for the info! like I said first I didn't know how other countries are living. I know the main thing about being a poor country but having friends in a few countries it actually isn't that much horrible to live if you have enough money so that's why I was a bit confused why not move to the spouse country. but im seeing it from the view of my husbands country so now I see it from the view of another country its understandable. there was a huge fire that broke out in a part of Ethiopia I thought it was close to my husband but come to find out its miles and miles away he is in a nice spot far from all that mess which is a blessing... but with your husband country that's just horrible!!! and your right I wouldn't want to live like that not 1 second not 1 min... sorry for my mindset I just always thought it was a safe part of a country and a bad side of a country but in your situation your husband has it bad... hope it gets all taken care of soon! so he can be safe and sound

[Luvmytater 88]

I just saw the magic 3 N/A's appear just now ? is this really happening? I wish I could call now but I'm at work ?

[Not a Tailor 1,370]

What's your most recent scan date? It seems like it really is happening! Congrats!

[Luvmytater 88]

What's your most recent scan date? It seems like it really is happening! Congrats!

Thanks my checklist scan date was 12/29

Edited March 5, 2015 by Luvmytater

[Ash2026 7]

A new month full of new hopes and bigger dreams. I'm so happy you decided to start a new thread Soloenta ? just hoping this is the last month I have to come here to rant about NVC lol. I would much rather come back to encourage those still waiting ?. Anyway, our 60 days were up on Friday so hopefully we will hear good news soon. Good luck to everyone still waiting and for those with interviews this month ~hugs~

Hey

Just wanted to let you know that once your 60 days is up you should request your case to be reviewed by a supervisor. My case hasnt been reviewed yet. today is 80 days for us!!!! and they requested it to be reviewed by a supervisor 2days ago. Still havent heard nothing. We waited patiently, and they kept telling us wait wait wait, they shut down so many times due to the storm...blah blah blah. A represntative said that regardless of the snow storms they had and holidays, it should still be reviewed by 60 days.

Just dont want anyone else to go through what we are going through.

good luck