March 2015 Support and Rant

[patnjac 130]

Good luck!! I'm praying for you guys!

Hey everyone...tomorrow is our big day...HUBBYS INTERVIEW ! We have a lot of nerves going tonight but I think we are fully prepared. Please say a prayer or send positive thoughts our way. Sooooooo many emotions right now,scared,anxious,happy excited,nervous...exhausted. So ready to have this process over and done .

I am drained ...and off to bed early...we need a good nights sleep tonight if possible.

[Luvmytater 88]

Hey everyone...tomorrow is our big day...HUBBYS INTERVIEW ! We have a lot of nerves going tonight but I think we are fully prepared. Please say a prayer or send positive thoughts our way. Sooooooo many emotions right now,scared,anxious,happy excited,nervous...exhausted. So ready to have this process over and done .

I am drained ...and off to bed early...we need a good nights sleep tonight if possible.

Good luck on the interview. I will be praying for your husband.

[Ketsuban 1,034]

Hang in there Soloenta. Get a great lawyer to compile your waiver and show those idiots you won't take this lying down. I can't believe making a mistake on a year of birth (isn't there a stereotype about guys forgetting important dates??) and the name of a cat construes misrepresentation. Whoever that CO was, karma will deal with them.

[IslAmy 122]

Hey everyone...tomorrow is our big day...HUBBYS INTERVIEW ! We have a lot of nerves going tonight but I think we are fully prepared. Please say a prayer or send positive thoughts our way. Sooooooo many emotions right now,scared,anxious,happy excited,nervous...exhausted. So ready to have this process over and done .

I am drained ...and off to bed early...we need a good nights sleep tonight if possible.

Yayyyy the big day has arrived! Sending good thoughts and we will all be here waiting and cheering you on! It's going to be a great day!

[IslAmy 122]

Hello friends!

I spoke to NVC tonight (45 min wait...pretty average...) to ask if we have an interview date. No dice yet. Yet another phone rep who doesn't seem to have any information.

I hope they squeeze us in for an April date. I have a really important/special wedding to go to on May 2nd and would love for my husband to be with me.

[nb08 6]

Hello friends!

I spoke to NVC tonight (45 min wait...pretty average...) to ask if we have an interview date. No dice yet. Yet another phone rep who doesn't seem to have any information.

I hope they squeeze us in for an April date. I have a really important/special wedding to go to on May 2nd and would love for my husband to be with me.

Hi! I also just got off a 45 min hold to ask when we might have one scheduled. I just got curious and was hoping they would at least be able to somehow give an X amount of days for my consulate but they didn't know anything. Lol. Oh well, doesn't hurt to try. I hope we get one in April too!

[IslAmy 122]

Hi! I also just got off a 45 min hold to ask when we might have one scheduled. I just got curious and was hoping they would at least be able to somehow give an X amount of days for my consulate but they didn't know anything. Lol. Oh well, doesn't hurt to try. I hope we get one in April too!

Yeah that's my thought too, it's better trying and not getting anything than just sitting refreshing the email inbox lol Hang in there, I bet we'll hear something soon!

[Janelle2002 3,865]

Yeah that's my thought too, it's better trying and not getting anything than just sitting refreshing the email inbox lol Hang in there, I bet we'll hear something soon!

Just keep on trying. Doing nothing drives you crazy and doing something drives you crazy. I know it is hard.

[IslAmy 122]

Just keep on trying. Doing nothing drives you crazy and doing something drives you crazy. I know it is hard.

I hope we'll hear something by the end of this week. I keep telling myself "this is the day we'll get a date"

[Janelle2002 3,865]

I hope we'll hear something by the end of this week. I keep telling myself "this is the day we'll get a date"

I hope so too!! It would be nice to have someone at home with you. I've got my fingers and toes crossed for you!!

[Soloenta 2,218]

Hi Soloenta,

I have google hangout and viber, no skype. I need to buy a camera for my pc and haven't done it yet.

Will life ever be normal? I have no idea. When I keep looking back at the life we used to have it just makes me cry. I wish we could have here what we had abroad. I am beginning to think it will never be. I am sooo tired and lately I have been super depressed. I used to talk to my mom about all of my problems and just about anything and I can't do that anymore. I lost my mother, best friend and psychologist. lol

I just don't know what to do. I really am ready to lie down and just die.

Maybe that should be our title. I am ready to lie down and die if ..............

Sorry had to go grocery shopping and missed talking to my husband so I'm a mess.

Talking about will life ever be normal again, when I was shopping actually my father shops he thinks I'll buy anything so he gets in those sweet little scooters and off he goes to shop. I stayed in the car with my mother and watched all the people walking by not realizing how lucky they are. I saw older women with younger men as happy as can be, older men with younger women, young couples, very old ones and no one cared about that or how odd the over weight lady looked with the really skinny guy. I found myself crying, why can they marry whom they wish and we need daddy to approve if we are truly a couple or not. Something is very wrong here and it's not us. The word that came to mind was tyranny.

tyr·an·ny

ˈtirənē/

noun

noun: tyranny; plural noun: tyrannies

cruel and oppressive government or rule.

"people who survive war and escape tyranny"

synonyms: despotism, absolute power, autocracy, dictatorship, totalitarianism, Fascism;

oppression, repression, subjugation, enslavement;

authoritarianism, bullying, severity, cruelty, brutality, ruthlessness

"they will not soon forget his brutal tyranny"

• a nation under cruel and oppressive government.

• cruel, unreasonable, or arbitrary use of power or control.

  My depression isn't going away any time soon, I can't see the forest from the trees and I need peace for my husband and me. I'm not letting him go and he's not letting me go.

  Sweet heart you don't need a cam for Skype and maybe even a few of us can Skype it actually really helps a lot. So go download Skype it's easy to use and once you do I'll send you my ID.

  I do know how you feel, I wish I could go to bed and just never wake up, it's the easy way out but easy seems really good right now

  Hang in there Soloenta. Get a great lawyer to compile your waiver and show those idiots you won't take this lying down. I can't believe making a mistake on a year of birth (isn't there a stereotype about guys forgetting important dates??) and the name of a cat construes misrepresentation. Whoever that CO was, karma will deal with them.

  Oh sweet heart I'm so happy to see you post, brings tears from my eyes. Yes looking for one now, one I spoke to that apparently lot's of people here use was a bit rude and unfeeling for a women I can understand a man being that way but not a female. So I have my nephew looking he is also a lawyer but not in immigration. Wish he was could save so much but such is life. But I'm not letting this go, I may feel like laying down and dying but I wont I have to much to lose.

  I pray God rips all these people a new one and my husband was so tired and unfortunately he's one of those people that needs to sleep or he's a mess. He knows the names of all my cats and my birth year, he said his mind just went blank. We don't have any pictures to speak of if we were up to fraud you would think we would know the ropes and have all the evidence they need. We were cluelessly happily living our lives.

[Soloenta 2,218]

Hi Soloenta,

I have google hangout and viber, no skype. I need to buy a camera for my pc and haven't done it yet.

Will life ever be normal? I have no idea. When I keep looking back at the life we used to have it just makes me cry. I wish we could have here what we had abroad. I am beginning to think it will never be. I am sooo tired and lately I have been super depressed. I used to talk to my mom about all of my problems and just about anything and I can't do that anymore. I lost my mother, best friend and psychologist. lol

I just don't know what to do. I really am ready to lie down and just die.

Maybe that should be our title. I am ready to lie down and die if ..............

Sorry had to go grocery shopping and missed talking to my husband so I'm a mess.

Talking about will life ever be normal again, when I was shopping actually my father shops he thinks I'll buy anything so he gets in those sweet little scooters and off he goes to shop. I stayed in the car with my mother and watched all the people walking by not realizing how lucky they are. I saw older women with younger men as happy as can be, older men with younger women, young couples, very old ones and no one cared about that or how odd the over weight lady looked with the really skinny guy. I found myself crying, why can they marry whom they wish and we need daddy to approve if we are truly a couple or not. Something is very wrong here and it's not us. The word that came to mind was tyranny.

tyr·an·ny

ˈtirənē/

noun

noun: tyranny; plural noun: tyrannies

cruel and oppressive government or rule.

"people who survive war and escape tyranny"

synonyms: despotism, absolute power, autocracy, dictatorship, totalitarianism, Fascism;

oppression, repression, subjugation, enslavement;

authoritarianism, bullying, severity, cruelty, brutality, ruthlessness

"they will not soon forget his brutal tyranny"

• a nation under cruel and oppressive government.

• cruel, unreasonable, or arbitrary use of power or control.

  My depression isn't going away any time soon, I can't see the forest from the trees and I need peace for my husband and me. I'm not letting him go and he's not letting me go.

  Sweet heart you don't need a cam for Skype and maybe even a few of us can Skype it actually really helps a lot. So go download Skype it's easy to use and once you do I'll send you my ID.

  I do know how you feel, I wish I could go to bed and just never wake up, it's the easy way out but easy seems really good right now

  Hang in there Soloenta. Get a great lawyer to compile your waiver and show those idiots you won't take this lying down. I can't believe making a mistake on a year of birth (isn't there a stereotype about guys forgetting important dates??) and the name of a cat construes misrepresentation. Whoever that CO was, karma will deal with them.

  Oh sweet heart I'm so happy to see you post, brings tears from my eyes. Yes looking for one now, one I spoke to that apparently lot's of people here use was a bit rude and unfeeling for a women I can understand a man being that way but not a female. So I have my nephew looking he is also a lawyer but not in immigration. Wish he was could save so much but such is life. But I'm not letting this go, I may feel like laying down and dying but I wont I have to much to lose.

  I pray God rips all these people a new one and my husband was so tired and unfortunately he's one of those people that needs to sleep or he's a mess. He knows the names of all my cats and my birth year, he said his mind just went blank. We don't have any pictures to speak of if we were up to fraud you would think we would know the ropes and have all the evidence they need. We were cluelessly happily living our lives.

Hello friends!

I spoke to NVC tonight (45 min wait...pretty average...) to ask if we have an interview date. No dice yet. Yet another phone rep who doesn't seem to have any information.

I hope they squeeze us in for an April date. I have a really important/special wedding to go to on May 2nd and would love for my husband to be with me.

God willing you will get your interview on time and I know you will get your Visa but am praying for you just the same.

[TagTeam 61]

Hello Solenta

Many of us here on VJ can. Understand how our feel. Especially those of us who have battled depression and anxiety. I will say this I completely understand how your husband could have forgotten important information. My husband actually told me several times during his interview he had forgotten important information we had gone over shortly before his interview. It was only by the grace of God the VO interviewing him would cut him off when he began to answer questions, as if the little information he began to tell her was enough to satisfy her. Had your husband lived in a different country the outcome may have been different. Unfortunately, VOs have stereotypical views which very much affect their judgement. In spite of what your going through please be encouraged and be of good cheer. When man says NO, GOD can always say YES. I pray the love and support from friends, family and here at VJ will be enough to uplift you during your time of need. I am praying for you and others who are separated from their spouse due to immigration. I feel in my heart you will see each other again. and when that happens thank God, hold on that much tighter to the ones you love and never let anyone including the government come in between and separate you from one another. Please stay encouraged and know there are people here on VJ who genuinely care about you all. Take things one day at a time and this nightmare will soon be over.[/url

[Soloenta 2,218]

Hello Solenta

Many of us here on VJ can. Understand how our feel. Especially those of us who have battled depression and anxiety. I will say this I completely understand how your husband could have forgotten important information. My husband actually told me several times during his interview he had forgotten important information we had gone over shortly before his interview. It was only by the grace of God the VO interviewing him would cut him off when he began to answer questions, as if the little information he began to tell her was enough to satisfy her. Had your husband lived in a different country the outcome may have been different. Unfortunately, VOs have stereotypical views which very much affect their judgement. In spite of what your going through please be encouraged and be of good cheer. When man says NO, GOD can always say YES. I pray the love and support from friends, family and here at VJ will be enough to uplift you during your time of need. I am praying for you and others who are separated from their spouse due to immigration. I feel in my heart you will see each other again. and when that happens thank God, hold on that much tighter to the ones you love and never let anyone including the government come in between and separate you from one another. Please stay encouraged and know there are people here on VJ who genuinely care about you all. Take things one day at a time and this nightmare will soon be over.[/url

Thank you my sweet and dear friend for your beautiful words, you really made me feel so much better and so bless for being understood. On behalf of my beloved husband I thank you, he has really been beating himself over this. You are right if in another country non of this would have mattered, a few evil people make all the rest pay for their actions. I have been able to pray in the last couple of days and I'm grateful to that and I hope God in his infinite mercy hears all our prayers. God bless you and your family and thank you for taking the time to come back and support us all.

Love you dearly! Love you all.

Amen! Positivity attracts positivity! We are praying for all in this process & dutchman's interview too! Best wishes for issued! & to all of us waiting in AP & waiting waiver ISSUEDS we pray for God's Speed! Blessings & goodnight

Soloenta of course you can use the Alien Punishment line lol it's true we are getting punished for loving "aliens" so they make us wait.... Wahhhhhhhhhh :,( I feel this separation anxiety also but InshaAllah it won't be much longer! Hugs to all in pain.

I agree my angel but I can't seem to be positive right now, it seems nothing has gone right from the day I put in the I-130 absolutely nothing. But I'll keep trying to be positive. Much love and hugs.

Praying Dutch comes back soon with good news, just can't wait to see APPROVED!

Found this video I think the Co's need to watch this twice a day,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cen7NhfpMVE

Edited March 5, 2015 by Soloenta

[IslAmy 122]

Sorry had to go grocery shopping and missed talking to my husband so I'm a mess.

Talking about will life ever be normal again, when I was shopping actually my father shops he thinks I'll buy anything so he gets in those sweet little scooters and off he goes to shop. I stayed in the car with my mother and watched all the people walking by not realizing how lucky they are. I saw older women with younger men as happy as can be, older men with younger women, young couples, very old ones and no one cared about that or how odd the over weight lady looked with the really skinny guy. I found myself crying, why can they marry whom they wish and we need daddy to approve if we are truly a couple or not. Something is very wrong here and it's not us. The word that came to mind was tyranny.

tyr·an·ny

ˈtirənē/

noun

noun: tyranny; plural noun: tyrannies

cruel and oppressive government or rule.

"people who survive war and escape tyranny"

synonyms: despotism, absolute power, autocracy, dictatorship, totalitarianism, Fascism;

oppression, repression, subjugation, enslavement;

authoritarianism, bullying, severity, cruelty, brutality, ruthlessness

"they will not soon forget his brutal tyranny"

• a nation under cruel and oppressive government.

• cruel, unreasonable, or arbitrary use of power or control.

  My depression isn't going away any time soon, I can't see the forest from the trees and I need peace for my husband and me. I'm not letting him go and he's not letting me go.

  Sweet heart you don't need a cam for Skype and maybe even a few of us can Skype it actually really helps a lot. So go download Skype it's easy to use and once you do I'll send you my ID.

  I do know how you feel, I wish I could go to bed and just never wake up, it's the easy way out but easy seems really good right now

  Oh sweet heart I'm so happy to see you post, brings tears from my eyes. Yes looking for one now, one I spoke to that apparently lot's of people here use was a bit rude and unfeeling for a women I can understand a man being that way but not a female. So I have my nephew looking he is also a lawyer but not in immigration. Wish he was could save so much but such is life. But I'm not letting this go, I may feel like laying down and dying but I wont I have to much to lose.

  I pray God rips all these people a new one and my husband was so tired and unfortunately he's one of those people that needs to sleep or he's a mess. He knows the names of all my cats and my birth year, he said his mind just went blank. We don't have any pictures to speak of if we were up to fraud you would think we would know the ropes and have all the evidence they need. We were cluelessly happily living our lives.

God willing you will get your interview on time and I know you will get your Visa but am praying for you just the same.

My dear sweet friend, thank you as always for your kind words and encouragement. Maybe we will hear something today or tomorrow