In need of advice

blahblahblog · March 14, 2015

Your husband can't do anything about you being deported. Stop worrying about being deported and start worrying about your mental health and protect yourself from abuse. You already spoke with a lawyer. If you trust him, he's probably the best person to give advice at this point, but this is what I would do in your place.

- Move out (if you have friends, good. if not go to a shelter)

- Document the specific abuse instances in a journal. Be as specific as you can. E-mail it to yourself or e-mail/snail-mail it to your lawyer so that there is dated evidence of your state of mind if you need it later as evidence during litigious divorce. Make a new free e-mail account if you are afraid of him monitoring that. Use internet from the local library or kinko's if you need access away from the house.

- Report anything that can be reported to police (stolen GC, social security card, drivers' license, any instance of physical abuse)

- If you fear him, get restraining order (talk with your lawyer or shelter or police about it)

- Request replacement of stolen documents and have it mailed to a friend's address or the shelter.

- Try as much as you can to move on with your life: get a job, get a social life.

- Proceed with one sided divorce.

GurkenSalat · March 15, 2015

I get the feeling the OP wasn't even cheating, it's just a VERY bad and abusive relationship, so the first thing to do is get out of there! Friends or a shelter, but make sure it's a place where he can't find you.

The poster above me said it all.

Sonnenkind · March 16, 2015

Thanks guys.

It is not about being accused of cheating anymore. He called uscis to remove his signature and I got accused of marriage fraud which of course is not true. I am just wondering how the chances are that they look into my file again and start questioning me about that?! I know they don't look into the cheating thing but marriage fraud is a different ball game.

Pennycat · March 17, 2015

Thanks guys.

It is not about being accused of cheating anymore. He called uscis to remove his signature and I got accused of marriage fraud which of course is not true. I am just wondering how the chances are that they look into my file again and start questioning me about that?! I know they don't look into the cheating thing but marriage fraud is a different ball game.

Remove his signature from what? If you didn't commit fraud, you have nothing to worry about. There is nothing he can Dom yours is just a marriage that fell apart. ignore his threats and proceed.