Question on temporary separation and ROC?

[Kim & Gesner 14]

My husband and I are in the middle of ROC. We filed in August and waiting. He seems to be taking it all in stride but I am biting at the bits because of our current situation. In December, I went on a cruise with friends and then had a trip to Texas to visit family for the holidays. He had a trip to Haiti to see his kids for the holidays. All was going well until my 36 yr old brother was admitted to ICU due to flu complications. Then my husband's uncle who we were caretakers for had a stroke while we were gone (he was under his sons care at the time) - His son had a lot of dislike for us and i am not sure why. We took care of his father, excellent care based on the dementia nurse who came weekly. But anyway, to make a long story short, my trip to see family ended up being a trip to say goodbye to my brother. He had coded Dec 16th, was out for 26 minutes and left on life support with minimal brain activity. The family as a whole decided to take him off life support Dec 27th as this was his wishes. When I got back to Florida Jan 4th, I came home to find a note from the son (husbands cousin) that we must pay $900 a month and have utilities put into our name or leave the property. He had the utilities cut off so we had NO electricity, water or anything. At this time, the uncle had not passed away but was in a nursing home. He passed away January 8th. We did not have the money to change everything over so suddenly as we literally had NO warning of this.

With my brother's passing and leaving 3 young sons for my elderly and disabled parents to care for, my husband and I made the decision to move to Texas. He would stay and rent a room from a church member and I left to come to Texas to find a job and get on my feet here before he comes. We need at least one income coming in. So our separation is not in ANY way due to marriage problems. I did mail a letter to USCIS explaining our situation and temporary addresses as I was instructed to do when I called about changing the addresses since we have a pending petition.

So my question is: is this likely to cause any problems? I know right now August 2014 filers at VSC are getting a good share of RFE's. It seems to me our situation is prime picks for an RFE. Also, once he moves here, is it hard to get a job with the extension letter?? That is the only thing he is really worried about is that no one will hire him with an expired GC and 1 yr extension letter. Anyone have any experience with this?

Also, does our situation put us at risk? We hate this time away, it's very hard on us. We have both been through a lot emotionally. I lost my grandmother Nov 16th, my brother Dec 27th and my husband's uncle Jan 8th. Then the stress of coming home to everything turned off, quick decisions, the actual move for me, the time away from my husband when we are really needing each other most. And now the worry that this temporary situation is going to hurt us. I am beyond stressed at this point so I thought maybe I am worrying about nothing. I know you guys can provide good feedback and advise so here I am.

Edited February 18, 2015 by Kim & Gesner