nightmare k1 marriage

[RojoGringo 6]

Run, Run, Run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

First I am sorry this is happening to you but you are being manipulated. Whether is was rape or not, where was the baby when you visited, why did she not tell you sooner. These are not red flags this are SCREAMING RED FLAGS! I was in a situation with a live in girlfriend once and had to get a lawyer and evict her. The problems that fallowed put me through hell, please listen to your lawyer and do not talk to her without taping or videoing your conversations because when it comes to the police, they will most likely take the side of the person who calls first. I would file a PPO on the so called brother then I would serve you wife with an eviction notice. If California is like Michigan it may take 30 days to get her out. If it does take 30 days you need to leave the house and stay away from her, she will cause you much trouble. I wish you the best of luck my friend but you need to take care of this ASAP!

[Pianist27 31]

Talk to a family lawyer before you do anything, including before you go report her and her family for immigration fraud - you need to be very precise about how you report it lest you also be caught up in their crimes. This isn't going to be cheap or easy, but it sure as hell will be easier than it might have been in a few years.

[Pianist27 31]

2.This is your house, correct? Meaning title is solely on your name. You get to decide who lives there or not. In other words, brother is trespassing if you say so. A simple call to your local police can do the trick. That plus a restraining order so he cannot come back. Your wife might leave, but perhaps that is best and would make things a lot easier.

A simple call to the police is actually not going to get her thrown out. As his wife, evil as she may be, she has a right to stay in that house, as could a guest she invites, until a judge throws her out. That's why he needs a lawyer, asap.

[msbau764 245]

This sounds crazy, but the brother or fiance may try and kill you if you attempt to deport them. She seems immoral enough for this to be a possibility

[raven52 233]

My heart goes out to you. This is supposed to be a happy time, but it seems filled filled with grief. With good reason.

In what ever way you choose, have this "dangerous young man removed from your home.

Document everything you have said here, back it up with facts as best you can, and get a good attorney at once. I think this is too much for one man to handle by him self.

This woman knew what she was doing all along. This "medical condition" may be real, but just reading all the content, shows extreme deceit, and I would not trust her for one minute. Nothing she said or did. Having a kid, and not telling her fiance, is something, I personally could never accept. You put your future, and your physical well being at risk if you spend 1 more night under the same roof as her and her family.

She will induce physical harm to herself, and call the police, then "SHE has you where she wants YOU!

Please, you seem like such a nice, honest guy, you do not deserve this, RUN!

[Needhelp164 11]

This sounds crazy, but the brother or fiance may try and kill you if you attempt to deport them. She seems immoral enough for this to be a possibility

I thought about that. When I was talking with the brother, after he told me he would hurt me if I argue with his sister (FYI when I argue with her it is about him), he told that they have until March 1. I asked if they were planning on moving out and he stated that he would not tell me.

Right now this week I am playing it cool until I have time to go to court.

But people in desperate situations can do stupid things. I already told my best friend and mom what is happening. Thanks.

[Needhelp164 11]

My heart goes out to you. This is supposed to be a happy time, but it seems filled filled with grief. With good reason.

In what ever way you choose, have this "dangerous young man removed from your home.

Document everything you have said here, back it up with facts as best you can, and get a good attorney at once. I think this is too much for one man to handle by him self.

This woman knew what she was doing all along. This "medical condition" may be real, but just reading all the content, shows extreme deceit, and I would not trust her for one minute. Nothing she said or did. Having a kid, and not telling her fiance, is something, I personally could never accept. You put your future, and your physical well being at risk if you spend 1 more night under the same roof as her and her family.

She will induce physical harm to herself, and call the police, then "SHE has you where she wants YOU!

Please, you seem like such a nice, honest guy, you do not deserve this, RUN!

Thanks for the kind words. That was my problem: nice guy.

I accepted it because I saw the marriage approaching, all the money that I had invested in this (trust me it was a lot) in getting the visa and her expenses, and then finally it was approved. I wanted it to work. Part of me still does. But I gotta be strong and wheather the storm.

[Boiler 45,922]

You can read up on VAWA here, you also need to be aware of the U visa. You would not be the first person to be set up.

Edited February 10, 2015 by Boiler

[VOL 425]

Correction: I meant to say, that If the cops show up. I will be the one going to jail.

I am glad you understand how the US legal system works.

Man as a rule is always guilty in a domestic violence if a lying witness is involved.

[AKF2015 10]

Wow this is horrible. You can never trust a woman when she lied to you from the very start. Now she is also endangering your life through her brother's actions! IMO I don't think it will ever work unless you let them rule your life and then you lose.

Get her out and stay away. Chances are they will hurt you and I doubt they even care about the law, consider that the child and her brother was there illegally!

[VOL 425]

Thanks All

I have to act very carefully. She could make false claims against me.

I wanted report the brother to ICE, but I heard they take a long time if they even look into it.

I guess filing restraining order in court is best.

I don't care if he was mad at the moment, but threatening the person that feeds you is uncalled for.

I thought about kicking him out and working it out with her but I don't think it will work. Now it is damage control (someone above said it).

Please don't consider working it out, Punt on this relationship and start over. As far as the brother/lover/husband is concerned, I would keep an eye out on this joker and file a restraining order on him.

And I am sure you are aware that your fiancé is doing her best now to get pregnant so she can get a 18 year pension payments from you.

Remember woman are like buses, if you miss one another one will be along shortly and being an American male you are highly wanted worldwide.

Doing a second or third K1 visa is no big deal, and many embassy will not even question you if you have previous K1's.

Edited February 10, 2015 by VOL

[kzielu 1,149]

I thought about that. When I was talking with the brother, after he told me he would hurt me if I argue with his sister (FYI when I argue with her it is about him), he told that they have until March 1. I asked if they were planning on moving out and he stated that he would not tell me.

Right now this week I am playing it cool until I have time to go to court.

But people in desperate situations can do stupid things. I already told my best friend and mom what is happening. Thanks.

You need to act now or you'll end in trouble. You have no time for playing it cool, you're being taken advantage of big time. More you drag it out by hesitating to act, worse you'll end up.

[Gosia & Tito 199]

A simple call to the police is actually not going to get her thrown out. As his wife, evil as she may be, she has a right to stay in that house, as could a guest she invites, until a judge throws her out. That's why he needs a lawyer, asap.

It does if he is the solely owner, that is why I've asked who owns it (meaning who is in the title). Wife is different, a spouse has rights, a brother or other relative of spouse has none when it comes to residency at someone's else home. Less if the person becomes threatening, as it has bee posted.

[Lauren and Kevin 55]

I've been thinking about this overnight, and the more I think the fishier it gets. I'm going to ask you to consider the possibility that this is not a brother, and possibly is also the father of the child.

If this was the case, i wonder if it would explain the rape explanation, as a way of ensuring you did not have 'relations' with his wife, as the rape had traumatised her.

If this gets really messy, and you had DNA samples (like hair) from all three of them, I wonder if that would be helpful in proving the size of the entire deception.

Edited February 10, 2015 by Lauren and Kevin

[-Shana- 152]

I've been thinking about this overnight, and the more I think the fishier it gets. I'm going to ask you to consider the possibility that this is not a brother, and possibly is also the father of the child.

If this was the case, i wonder if it would explain the rape explanation, as a way of ensuring you did not have 'relations' with his wife, as the rape had traumatised her.

If this gets really messy, and you had DNA samples (like hair) from all three of them, I wonder if that would be helpful in proving the size of the entire deception.

This is a very interesting point...

OP, gosh I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your safety IS in jeopardy here, a man has entered your house and has threatened to hurt you. You need to get out of that house, you need to turn to your friends and family in this time of need and you need to do all you can to get these people deported! I know it's easier said than done, but you have to make this THE number one priority in your life right now. I saw you said "until I have time to go to court"...is there no way you can take some time off work to get this sorted?? I think right now you got to act fast and get it done! Stay with your parents, stay with friends, just get out of that house, take all the evidence you have against them and sort this out from afar.

Please let us know what happens, I hope you get this situation resolved soon and unharmed.