nightmare k1 marriage

[HislittleSecret 21]

I completed the K1 process went to the foreign consulate with my k1 fiancée. She got the visa. I was very happy. Two weeks before she moved to the USA, she told me she had been raped two years ago and ended up having a kid. She suffers from a medical disorder where she loses concioussness, I have seen it. I was in a state of shock, but since I was in love and I guess not seeing straight from shock. I cried and decided to make it work. She moved to the USA and we got married in Vegas.

Keep in mind that while I did all the immigration paperwork for K1 I put down that she did not have a kid. Because I did not know. If would have know, and accepted it, of course I would have put down the kid and would make things easier in the future.

Well after being married for about a month she has the kid brought over illegally. She had a cousin/aunt use another kids birth certificate and that how he crossed. So I did not say anything, except accept it, trying to make the marriage work.

We did have some fights about her not telling earlier about the kid. But I tried to move forward.

Next thing, her brother is moving in with us. So he has been living with us for two months, and I always complained to her when is he going to get a job. Well she told me Saturday that he is applying for the Obama executive action, and is NOT going to get a job because he can't work with someone's social security. I was mad. So I told her I wanted him gone.

So when we got home, she was mad, he comes out. And tells me from now on I talk to him only about him. He actually threatened me and told me if I upset her again that I will get hurt, etc, etc, etc. At time it was only us three. So I was smart enough to not say much and try to be cool. I figured if the cops show and dumb ### who will be going to jail.

I am planning on getting a Domestic Violence Restraining order against him, which means she will either move, or make a false accusation against me. FYI: she is out of the 90 days and I have NOT petitioned for AOS.

I already started talking to a lawyer who deals with family law.

Any advice?

She could have told you she had a kid... How do you hide that? I smell a dead rat on the line!!! Her brother is already day mooching! She is using you! Get an anullment while you can!

[Lucero & Nate 0]

I completed the K1 process went to the foreign consulate with my k1 fiancée. She got the visa. I was very happy. Two weeks before she moved to the USA, she told me she had been raped two years ago and ended up having a kid. She suffers from a medical disorder where she loses concioussness, I have seen it. I was in a state of shock, but since I was in love and I guess not seeing straight from shock. I cried and decided to make it work. She moved to the USA and we got married in Vegas.

Keep in mind that while I did all the immigration paperwork for K1 I put down that she did not have a kid. Because I did not know. If would have know, and accepted it, of course I would have put down the kid and would make things easier in the future.

Well after being married for about a month she has the kid brought over illegally. She had a cousin/aunt use another kids birth certificate and that how he crossed. So I did not say anything, except accept it, trying to make the marriage work.

We did have some fights about her not telling earlier about the kid. But I tried to move forward.

Next thing, her brother is moving in with us. So he has been living with us for two months, and I always complained to her when is he going to get a job. Well she told me Saturday that he is applying for the Obama executive action, and is NOT going to get a job because he can't work with someone's social security. I was mad. So I told her I wanted him gone.

So when we got home, she was mad, he comes out. And tells me from now on I talk to him only about him. He actually threatened me and told me if I upset her again that I will get hurt, etc, etc, etc. At time it was only us three. So I was smart enough to not say much and try to be cool. I figured if the cops show and dumb ### who will be going to jail.

I am planning on getting a Domestic Violence Restraining order against him, which means she will either move, or make a false accusation against me. FYI: she is out of the 90 days and I have NOT petitioned for AOS.

I already started talking to a lawyer who deals with family law.

Any advice?

RUN before it gets worse!

[OLee 64]

Are you sure he is even her brother? Maybe he is a father of a child? Or maybe she wasn't raped ever? Maybe she kidnapped her child without the knowledge of the father? Sorry, I am just thinking out loud. I am sorry about your situation and I agree with others - try to get your marriage annulled and take all steps to protect yourself. Good luck to you.

[Gosia & Tito 199]

I completed the K1 process went to the foreign consulate with my k1 fiancée. She got the visa. I was very happy. Two weeks before she moved to the USA, she told me she had been raped two years ago and ended up having a kid. She suffers from a medical disorder where she loses concioussness, I have seen it. I was in a state of shock, but since I was in love and I guess not seeing straight from shock. I cried and decided to make it work. She moved to the USA and we got married in Vegas.

Keep in mind that while I did all the immigration paperwork for K1 I put down that she did not have a kid. Because I did not know. If would have know, and accepted it, of course I would have put down the kid and would make things easier in the future.

Well after being married for about a month she has the kid brought over illegally. She had a cousin/aunt use another kids birth certificate and that how he crossed. So I did not say anything, except accept it, trying to make the marriage work.

We did have some fights about her not telling earlier about the kid. But I tried to move forward.

Next thing, her brother is moving in with us. So he has been living with us for two months, and I always complained to her when is he going to get a job. Well she told me Saturday that he is applying for the Obama executive action, and is NOT going to get a job because he can't work with someone's social security. I was mad. So I told her I wanted him gone.

So when we got home, she was mad, he comes out. And tells me from now on I talk to him only about him. He actually threatened me and told me if I upset her again that I will get hurt, etc, etc, etc. At time it was only us three. So I was smart enough to not say much and try to be cool. I figured if the cops show and dumb ### who will be going to jail.

I am planning on getting a Domestic Violence Restraining order against him, which means she will either move, or make a false accusation against me. FYI: she is out of the 90 days and I have NOT petitioned for AOS.

I already started talking to a lawyer who deals with family law.

Any advice?

1.And there is proof of that alleged rape, such as a police report, etc; right?

2.This is your house, correct? Meaning title is solely on your name. You get to decide who lives there or not. In other words, brother is trespassing if you say so. A simple call to your local police can do the trick. That plus a restraining order so he cannot come back. Your wife might leave, but perhaps that is best and would make things a lot easier.

3. You can get "hurt", that would be assault and if you press charges, that is jail time and deportation, plus bye bye to Obama's executive action.

4. Talking to him about him: have a couple of friends over at a time he is there, let your friends know you are about to kick out the brother. Then you kick him out. Have the restraining order on the ready. If he becomes abusive, call the cops. There might be a lot of drama, not your problem. If you act fast and decisive it will be over before anyone can react. DO not engage in negotiations, discussions, etc..Swift action is the name of the game

4. That he can't work is not your problem. Where he is going to stay is not your problem either. He is a big boy. If he doesn't like it he can go back to Mexico

5. I'd hold AOS indefinetely until you are fully convinced the situation grants it.

6. Love is love, but it requires honesty and commitment, neither of those has she given you.

7. The petition for K-1 has material misrepresentation: children not declared. IMO, sufficient to make the K-1 void. In fact, you are risking future complications. If you are still interested in pursuing a life with this woman, I'd be checking with an attorney. This kind of material misrepresenations have a knack to come back and bite you

8. I have the feeling you have already decided on a course of action and are just looking for confirmation here

[Amhara 460]

Be super careful NeedsHelp!!

I've read some parts of the rights of the immigrant spouse (and have heard of cases) where if the immigrant spouse/beneficiary claims physical abuse from the US citizen/petitioner, they are able to still get their green card and move forward with the immigration process.

I believe that they most often need to prove the abuse through police reports, medical reports, witness statements, etc, but they will be treated like the victim.

Even if the other folks in your new family leave, you still may have problems with this related to false accusations. Her brother may be allowed to stay because he may be considered a potential "breadwinner" of the household - especially if she cannot work because of her current or any 'new' medical conditions.

Take care, act quickly, and document, document, document!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Needhelp164 11]

Thanks All

I have to act very carefully. She could make false claims against me.

I wanted report the brother to ICE, but I heard they take a long time if they even look into it.

I guess filing restraining order in court is best.

I don't care if he was mad at the moment, but threatening the person that feeds you is uncalled for.

I thought about kicking him out and working it out with her but I don't think it will work. Now it is damage control (someone above said it).

[dwheels76 5,468]

Are you sure he is even her brother? Maybe he is a father of a child? Or maybe she wasn't raped ever? Maybe she kidnapped her child without the knowledge of the father? Sorry, I am just thinking out loud. I am sorry about your situation and I agree with others - try to get your marriage annulled and take all steps to protect yourself. Good luck to you.

OLee you took the words right out my mouth. I am sorry but this I do not believe is any brother. The brother just Magically shows up. Where was he before she came. She just tells you when she has Visa in hand of a horrific rape. What the Visa made it less painful to tell. Not making light of it. But I just don't buy all this.

Please OP protect yourself. You do not have to file nada. You hear me. As long as you don't file after 90 days she is out of status. Married to you yes. But you can always get marriage annulled and walk away if that's what you want to do. Just be very very careful. Protect your assets. I wouldn't have her on any accounts with any monies. And do not allow yourself to be threatened in your own home. Hell nah. Brother don't know who he missin with.

Get your restraining order. Wifey don't like it there are homeless shelters better than alot of peoples homes in many cities (I live in Houston I know). Sorry I am getting madder as I write. Let me stop. Just be careful. And have your own friends with you at all times also.

Really sorry you have to go through this.

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Getting an annulment in California is nowhere near as simple as getting divorced. Get divorced. If you file for an annulment and the court is not convinced that your wife entered into the marriage for fraudulent purposes, you will end up "converting" it into a divorce anyway. A TRO against the brother is probably a good idea in the circumstances. As everyone else has told you, don't file the AOS.

[Needhelp164 11]

Obola, you are correct. I think in california you can apply for both.

Sometimes I tell my self that if I let it go things might work out. But I can't let the brother walk around think he threatened me and it is ok. I went to the police station but they did not care. I have to go court!

Does ICE even act on tips. Or do they just kick back a do nothing under Obama Administration?

[eastwoodclint 13]

"Two weeks before she moved to the USA, she told me she had been raped two years ago and ended up having a kid. She suffers from a medical disorder where she loses concioussness, I have seen it. I was in a state of shock, but since I was in love and I guess not seeing straight from shock. I cried and decided to make it work. She moved to the USA and we got married in Vegas."

• She told you two weeks before she moved to the USA about her being raped and conceiving a baby from the rape.

The entire time line is not known. How did you meet? How long was the courtship? When did she tell you about her "medical condition"? How long did you wait before getting married? After you accepted the fact she had been raped and had a child did you make any palns/arrangements to bring child over legally?

[Needhelp164 11]

"Two weeks before she moved to the USA, she told me she had been raped two years ago and ended up having a kid. She suffers from a medical disorder where she loses concioussness, I have seen it. I was in a state of shock, but since I was in love and I guess not seeing straight from shock. I cried and decided to make it work. She moved to the USA and we got married in Vegas."

• She told you two weeks before she moved to the USA about her being raped and conceiving a baby from the rape.

The entire time line is not known. How did you meet? How long was the courtship? When did she tell you about her "medical condition"? How long did you wait before getting married? After you accepted the fact she had been raped and had a child did you make any palns/arrangements to bring child over legally?

You are correct. It was two weeks before she was do to come over here did she tell me that. I keep kick myself and trust me I have split enough hairs trying to figure it out. Doing my math I was visiting her in her native county about every 4 - 6 weeks. And she did NOT look pregnant at all. but I did not see her in her later stages of pregnancy. I guestimate that she was around 3 -5 months pregnant when I last saw her, till after she must have given birth. I simply could not tell.

I did meet her about 7 years ago. So I have known her quite a bit. So that is why I believed the rape story and that she did not know she was preganant for a long time. I honestly believed her story.

In a way I was fool in love. And did not want to believe that she could have maliciously lied to me.

[Boiler 45,922]

Would be interesting to know what else she has lied about

And if she declared the child and her brothers presence in the US on her immigration paperwork

You need a lawyer.

[gnzl 2]

she sounds pretty naco. Run!

Pretty naco indeed.

OP I am sorry things turned out this way. The best course of action IMO would be to hire a lawyer and get a divorce. I'd do that.

[Nakai & Vic 15]

OLee you took the words right out my mouth. I am sorry but this I do not believe is any brother. The brother just Magically shows up. Where was he before she came. She just tells you when she has Visa in hand of a horrific rape. What the Visa made it less painful to tell. Not making light of it. But I just don't buy all this.

Please OP protect yourself. You do not have to file nada. You hear me. As long as you don't file after 90 days she is out of status. Married to you yes. But you can always get marriage annulled and walk away if that's what you want to do. Just be very very careful. Protect your assets. I wouldn't have her on any accounts with any monies. And do not allow yourself to be threatened in your own home. Hell nah. Brother don't know who he missin with.

Get your restraining order. Wifey don't like it there are homeless shelters better than alot of peoples homes in many cities (I live in Houston I know). Sorry I am getting madder as I write. Let me stop. Just be careful. And have your own friends with you at all times also.

Really sorry you have to go through this.

Im sorry but this is not her brother... Her brother would not mess up his sister and nephews chances with her husband for his own gain, this is her man. Be very careful OP with these people you obviously have no ideal of whom you are dealing with. Get these people out of your home as soon as possible, I am with dhweels "do not allow yourself to be threatened in your home" also be sure she does not have your personal info i.e. social security number, or bank info.

[kevin876 14]

There are times when woman get pregnant by there lover they tell these atrocious lies to get out of it especially when you are suppose to be in a committed relationship. Would you continue with the process if she had told you she was pregnant? Probably not... so she wait until she get the visa then told you she was raped.

You said u know her for 7 yrs you had to send in evidence of this and she know having a young child within that period not belonging to the petitioner would probably cause a denial.

Just be careful and document everything