unique hijab

[sereia 0]

good point. i do see many muslim women in hijabs and djellabas that are very decorative, flashy, and wear make up and jewelry. why can't looking pretty be modest? if you cover all the parts needed for modesty but like to accessorize, is that bad? i guess there is a fine line i do not yet understand.

[PO'D 1]

The thing is....in my opinion, the type where the hair shows is not hijab. Where's that ummah film guy when ya need him. He did a whole skit on this and it was hysterical. lol.

The whole point of wearing the scarf is to cover your hair and your chest. If you can see the hair, then really you're just doing it for decoration and nothing else. . . which is fine.....it's all up to the individual and why they're doing it in the first place. To look gorgeous kind of defeats the purpose since the point is to be modest. I like different styles so that i'll look "ok" in them but I don't want to look knock out drop dead gorgeous (not that I have ANY fear of that EVER happening lol) because if I do I might as well just take the thing off.

I think that's my inner struggle actually. (lays down on psychiatric couch poppin' her Paxil).............when I put it on I look aweful.....so now I'm trying to get used to wearing makeup so that when i do wear it, insha Allah, I won't look THAT bad.................but really I shouldn't even be wearing makeup if the point is to look modest and not attractive to men. This debate goes on and on in my head. I should just throw a potato sack over my head and be done with it. lol

I do agree with you Doodle. I know how you feel too. When I first started wearing hijab, I wore the scarf but it did not cover my chest. I used to tuck it in my shirt, or sweater..and have some extremely tight jeans on. (This was when I was about 17). Gradually I started changing the way I dress, I wore pants that were much looser, and shirts that covered the bootay .

After I got married, I started wearing these long shirts.. I think they are called shalwar kameez..just the shirt part..and the loose pants. Even though the shirt went past my knees..my husband disliked it. I got the HUGE lecture (in a kind way) on how the correct way to wear hijab is the abaya, or jilbab. He told me that the seperation of the legs should not show because that is Awrah..and a womans figure should not be revealed in anyway. He also gave me a few days to find fatwa and proof that it is ok for women to wear pants. lol, I really couldnt find much.

He also gave me this hadith: The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam): "Cursed men who make themselves like women and cursed women who make themselves like men."

I have come to accept it, and I do wear the abaya, or long skirts with long shirts.

But honestly, I believe hijab is more than just a physical thing, moral is a big part too. In the end, it has to do with one doing it for the purpose of pleasing Allah, and not anyone else. Like you said Doodle, culture has a huge impact on this. The definition of hijab differs from person to person.

[ya falaha! 0]

Am I the only one whose husband dislikes jilbab and abaya and prefers for me to wear jeans?

[UmmSqueakster 54]

There will always be a wide range of opinoins on what is hijab and what is not. I am on a message board where the moderators have decided that this is proper hijab. I tried to start a thread about scarf fashion and was shot down. I don't talk about hijab there.

And then on the other hand, I've long been a part of the yahoo group muslimahs in hijab. We have all manners of schools of thought and levels of practice on the board. The only requirement is that you believe covering your hair is fard. From there, we share fashion tips and whatnot.

[PO'D 1]

Oh by the way, I won't be a hypocrite.. I do wear just a small amount of makeup..but you can barely tell..just around my eyes sometimes, cause I get these glasses marks when I don't wear my contacts..uffies ..and a little bit or mascara.

[ya falaha! 0]

Sorry, Rahma, but that type of higab (the pic) is wayyyyyyyy too uptight, IMO. I wouldn't be able to relate to those kinda ppl.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Am I the only one whose husband dislikes jilbab and abaya and prefers for me to wear jeans?

My husband prefers skirts. He likes me in abayas but doesn't push it. In fact, he discourages me from wearing abayas to work. I have a closet full of abayas that are crying for some wear time

[ya falaha! 0]

I also have a closet full of abayas and galabiyas that rarely get worn (and a BIG box of scarves). I do wear the galabiyas around the house occasionally. They were just too cute not to have.

Am I the only one whose husband dislikes jilbab and abaya and prefers for me to wear jeans?

My husband prefers skirts. He likes me in abayas but doesn't push it. In fact, he discourages me from wearing abayas to work. I have a closet full of abayas that are crying for some wear time

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Sorry, Rahma, but that type of higab (the pic) is wayyyyyyyy too uptight, IMO. I wouldn't be able to relate to those kinda ppl.

Me either My favorite abaya is a a black gulf style one with some white embroidery, but I always pair it with a bright scarf. I'll have to post pics of me from last year's festival of nations. I had my (favorite) hot pink shayla on with the flowing black abaya. I got quite a few compliments.

If there is one thing I can say about my husband, it's that he has an excellent taste in scarves. The hot pink shayla was my bday present last year, along with a bright orange square scarf, lol.

Edited February 14, 2007 by rahma

[ya falaha! 0]

I love bright scarves, too. I have a multi colored scarf with gold thread mixed in that I got in Khan el Khalili that I LOVE!

Here's a pic of me wearing it. It was sunny so forgive the squinty eyes.

Bridget...notice the fat face?

Edited February 14, 2007 by moody

[PO'D 1]

I love bright scarves, too. I have a multi colored scarf with gold thread mixed in that I got in Khan el Khalili that I LOVE!

Here's a pic of me wearing it. It was sunny so forgive the squinty eyes.

MashaAllah, you look adorabbbbbbbbbble in it wallahy!!

[ya falaha! 0]

Awwwww thank you, Chococat

[PO'D 1]

Awwwww thank you, Chococat

You're most welcome . I know how to wrap it like that..but I dunno..Just dont look right on me like that...It looks nice on you though.. I just stick to the square ones, with the pin on the bottom, and another on top to hold it.

[doodlebug 3]

I love bright scarves, too. I have a multi colored scarf with gold thread mixed in that I got in Khan el Khalili that I LOVE!

Here's a pic of me wearing it. It was sunny so forgive the squinty eyes.

MashaAllah, you look adorabbbbbbbbbble in it wallahy!!

awwwww I agree you look adorable!!!!!!! I love the way you wrapped it too.

As for the abaya, etc. I think my husband is confusing. Before we married I would show him pictures of different skirts that I was going to get to bring to Egypt. He kept stressing that I can always just wear jeans.

Then when I got there I did wear my jeans, but the first day that I wore a long denim skirt he was all oooohing and aaaaaahing and alhumdulilaaaaaaaaaaaaaahing. I think maybe he was trying not to make me feel uncomfortable at first by saying jeans were ok. He was trying to say anything to make me not be afraid to go to Cairo and to make me think that it's just like NYC or something...which it is kind of except for double the trash and pollution and a few more hijabis. lol.

Anyways I still wear jeans and pants and he knows that and hasn't said he doesn't like it but we'll see what he says once he's here. He does not like the Abayas though...those coat type things that some wear. he likes me to look like me...and that's not me. lol. We were walking through this modern type mall in Cairo and they had some cool stores, though every store we went to we were so pressed for time. I didn't want to waste a second by stopping to look at stuff because I would miss him too much. lol I know it's corny and sappy but I just wanted to soak each minute in and so did he. Anyhooo....the styles that he likes are just like that shukr site that Rahma loves so much.

[doodlebug 3]

ok now i know it's been waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too long 'cause I just went to the male section of shukr looking for things for the hubster and got MAJORLY turned on.