im married to a crazy woman i need help

[onye uwaoma 131]

Could you find a men only gym?

have you ever lived with an insecure person? if you have then you'll understand better what OP is talking about. nothing is good enough for these kinds of people who are insecure and they hate the word, 'marriage counseling'. my ex wife is a typical example of what the OP described here and she accuses me of talking to gay when she sees me talk with a man... thi is a terrible disease and it killed our marriage so sad!

[onye uwaoma 131]

would she be less crazy-actiing

if

you went to an all-male gym ?

that is just one among a number of problems that OP outlined with here insecurity. practically, nothing is good enough as far as trust is the issue

[onye uwaoma 131]

If you want to save the marriage and she will not go to counseling, then you go yourself and recevie professional advice on how to handle her and possibly learn how to persuade her to go to counseling too.

if i have a way of askng people who have not experience an insecure person in marriage to quit making suggestion or advice i think that will be more helpful.

Politely disagree.

Is this something we would tell a woman who was under the pressure of a jealous man? To change everything she does to please him? I'm guessing no.

EDIT: Just read through and saw others say the same thing. Apologies for being repetitive.

great reasoning....

[onye uwaoma 131]

In this particular case she is "crazy", Been there seen that type before...

thank you... only those who have direct experience with this kind of people will understand better

[TBoneTX 45,267]

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[Brewlin 52]

I agree with Sandra. Oh and you should be able to apply for citizenship now right?

[nabil kazawi 0]

i did ask her to go consoling but she refuse she told me that im the one is crazy and i need to stop checking ladies everywhere we go and i really don't do that .she imagine that and something just happen yesterday i was coming Hom from work and i called her to see if she still working and bring something from wall mart and she said she is coming home too and when i got home she was talking with a woman standing in the street we live and there is like 20 houses where we live and i told my wife why you was talking with her and she said why you want to know do you know her and i said i dont know her and she said you lying to me. you called me in the phone to see if im still working and this woman was waiting for you and i said i swear that i dont know her i just come from work and accuse me of try to cheat and i said you have no Beninese to talk with her and she said why you defend her is she important to you and i just get out of the house and i told her im done i want a divorce and now im looking for a place to stay i just cant handle this anymore and she start calling me you cheater and tell me who is she the one you leaving me for i said no one i just want to be happy and im not happy with you and she start threating me she will call the immigration and tell them that i used her for a green card and the marriage was a fraud and she will send me back to morocco and i told her do what you want and you cant send me to morocco i have 10 years green card for 3 years now if i used you for a green card i could leave a long time ago if i want but now i will file for a divorce

i just want to know if i mad the right decision to leave and file for a divorce thank you all for helping me i really appreciate it

Edited February 5, 2015 by nabil kazawi

[Boiler 45,468]

Do you have access to a shelter you can go to?

[RoJ10 18]

I kind a curious why she's so aggressively jealous? Did something ever happened before that only you who knows? Or did you asked her why she's over reacting like that? There must be a big misunderstanding is happening here.... Anyway, if you're decided I won't be budging around to stop you. It's suffocating to have a relationship like that that's total reasonable to get yourself out. Good luck.

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

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[Torete 121]

i did ask her to go consoling but she refuse she told me that im the one is crazy and i need to stop checking ladies everywhere we go and i really don't do that .she imagine that and something just happen yesterday i was coming Hom from work and i called her to see if she still working and bring something from wall mart and she said she is coming home too and when i got home she was talking with a woman standing in the street we live and there is like 20 houses where we live and i told my wife why you was talking with her and she said why you want to know do you know her and i said i dont know her and she said you lying to me. you called me in the phone to see if im still working and this woman was waiting for you and i said i swear that i dont know her i just come from work and accuse me of try to cheat and i said you have no Beninese to talk with her and she said why you defend her is she important to you and i just get out of the house and i told her im done i want a divorce and now im looking for a place to stay i just cant handle this anymore and she start calling me you cheater and tell me who is she the one you leaving me for i said no one i just want to be happy and im not happy with you and she start threating me she will call the immigration and tell them that i used her for a green card and the marriage was a fraud and she will send me back to morocco and i told her do what you want and you cant send me to morocco i have 10 years green card for 3 years now if i used you for a green card i could leave a long time ago if i want but now i will file for a divorce

i just want to know if i mad the right decision to leave and file for a divorce thank you all for helping me i really appreciate it

Since you asked, IMHO yes you made the right decision to leave. We only get one turn on Earth.

Good luck.

[nabil kazawi 0]

i will answer some question people ask me

my wife love me to death and she will do anything for me she cook and clean and do everything in the house she will never cheat on me because she is like that i know her more that anybody and i love her so much but her obsession about me will cheat on her its getting out of control now and she was like this when i moved here in usa with her 3 years ago but i thought its will change with time but its getting worse and worse she even sometime ask me stupid question what i dream t last night because i was moving a lot to see if i was dreaming having sex with some one that what she said to me even her family told me a long time ago its not easy to live with her

and i dont have a shelter im living in my truck till i get paid and find somewhere to stay but i want to move to Houston far away from her just in case if she tried to hurt me or something you never know women with love obsession will do anything but i dont know no one here in usa im alone right now depending on my self

[eieio 1,594]

i just want to know if i mad the right decision to leave and file for a divorce thank you all for helping me i really appreciate it

You did the best thing possible. You stayed calm and moved out. Good for you

[GurkenSalat 48]

I'm glad you got away from her! Yes, you made the right decision, she was abusing you. Abuse is still abuse regardless of gender, and I can't believe people were telling you to go on the way you were, or even change your behavior to accommodate her (an abuser)!

I've been following your story, OP, but I was too afraid to post in this thread before... glad you got out!

Edited February 8, 2015 by GurkenSalat

[nabil kazawi 0]

my wife told me that she hired a lawyer and she will make sure that immigration will send me back to morocco and i do have a 10 years green card yall think she can do somthing about that or not

becaue she think i used her to get a visa to travel to usa

she dont see that she is the problem