im married to a crazy woman i need help

[VOL 425]

I don't think being insecure, and possibly in need of help with her mental health makes her "crazy"

.

In this particular case she is "crazy", Been there seen that type before...

[nabil451 4]

she did a lot for you man , so man up and stop this drama
stop acting like a victim here , you should be a man enough to fix your marriage instead of wining like lil baby , take care of your woman like you do in your home country .

[BraveAmnay 56]

I wasn't talking about marriage in Saudi Arabia, I was talking about the legal system there being based on religious dictate, i.e., Sharia law, as opposed to secular law.

Ok then help us understand what means is sharia and what sharia say about marriage ? we love learn lil from you if you dont mind

[msbau764 245]

Ok then help us understand what means is sharia and what sharia say about marriage ? we love learn lil from you if you dont mind

women can't drive in Saudi Arabia. Quit acting like you don't understand the point he is making.

[BraveAmnay 56]

women can't drive in Saudi Arabia. Quit acting like you don't understand the point he is making.

what is ur probleme and what driving has to do what Sharia ,!! i know you dont know anything just repeat what Tv and media say .ok you who act smarter tell us or give us definition of Sharira i need help from you i dont know whar Sharia means i think you know better that is why u reply if not quit this converstation

Edited February 4, 2015 by BraveAmnay

[RoJ10 18]

It would be unfair just to hear his side only. We doesn't know yet the version of his wife, so rather judging her with their situation it will be best if we just advise him to go for counselling or talk to your wife. If you were dating before and were able to work out your relationship till you two got married, I always believe that if there's a will there's a way. I understand how people think but that's not a fair judgement at all just hearing only one sided story. I'm not saying we don't believe you, but it will be more helpful if she'll share too what's going on in her head.

As far of what or how you describe your situation, I would definitely agree that this is really cracking out of your head. So please, don't confuse yourself with our feedback. We've got different views on that. It will be best to look for a better solution or place to share your sentiments. I'm hoping that both of you can work things out. Jealousy issue is never been easy to work out but there's always a solution to solve it.

[RoJ10 18]

And the fact also that you told that you're on your 5years of marriage, you know your wife very well. Talk to her, settle your problems. Get her in a vacation cruise or any place that will calm both of your senses. If she doesn't want to go for counseling at least you could go for counseling and get their advise and try to calm your wife. Good luck.

[Jon and Krissy 452]

Ok then help us understand what means is sharia and what sharia say about marriage ? we love learn lil from you if you dont mind

As I've already stated, I was making a general point about a religion-based vs secular legal system. I tell you what, since you seem to be so interested in the topic, why don't you have a conversation with yourself about it? You're from Morocco, which adopted significant portions of Sharia law in the past few years. For my part, I have no interest in discussing Sharia, beyond condemning it for its horrible treatment of women. If you want to discuss it further, take it up with someone who cares. Hope this helps.

[mla131 0]

My humble recommendation is to ask her to buy some gym equipment for your house, or possibly move to going to a different gym or the Y. As her husband you need to make some adjustments for her.

[CowBoE 429]

i have been married with my wife for 5 years now and i have 10 years green card and i have one problem is my wife i love her so much but she drive me crazy and the problems we have is

she is so jealous she dont trust me and i never cheat in my life the problem is i love to workout but its drive my wife crazy how girls dress at the gym and if a girl workout close to me she will come to me and tell me u need to change the spot i dont want y husband close to those bitches if i say that not good you not suppose to insult them they are free to wear what they want and she tell me you defend them because you like to look at them and i cant even watch tv how i want i cant watch shows have women wearing cloths show their body she come to my job to see who is working with me and she accuse me of me talking to the girls at my work and i said sometime because we work at the same job and she accuse me of cheating and we always fight i don't know what to do i hate this married i wish i never married this American woman i love her that why im so confused right now leave or stay im lost i need advices please

sorry i dont know where im suppose to write this but i really need help im getting crazy

Welcome to the marriage!

I know precisely what you are talking about.

And I also know that you are thinking you are 100% correct, and she's 100% wrong.

But that's not the case...it's because men and women think differently and have different need.

If this is the only major issue in your marriage, with some education, coaching, and counseling,

I think you can improve the situation.

First, women are too emotional and men are too logical. This is what starts the communication gap.

Second, men cheats far more than women, so she's not crazy and statistics would support her jealousy.

Third, men thinks working hard and bringing paycheck home should automatically make wife happy,

but many women has hunger for being loved as well. Do you think she feels loved by you?

I'm not talking about you answering for her, but have you checked what her answer would be?

Fourth, you can significantly reduce the jealousy attack if you can make her feel loved.

Fifth, until women can feel they are loved, it doesn't matter who you move on to,

likely you could be back in the same situation.

Lastly, there are many good books on this topic.

Try getting her a book on how men think, and also get yourself a book on how women think.

Once both of you understand the core difference of "too logical men" vs. "too emotional women",

you can understand and care for each other better.

Good luck.

Edited February 4, 2015 by DualityOneness

[mrs thb 331]

looks like the OP is looking for advice (but in the wrong place??) which tells me he doesn't know how access the wealth of resources available to him (ie. there could be language and cultural issues to complicate matters)

sounds like he's reaching out, hoping to gather information about options.

not being american and not being aware of social services available, he's looking to others for sources of info.

rather than offer opinions perhaps offering places he can go to for help (like some have suggested) would work in his favour.

i'd suggest, but i'm not in the us yet....to know various options

but its clear the OP and his wife need help

[Mike-eeh and Odie 193]

It's been my experience that those who accuse people of cheating are actually the ones cheating. However, such speculation could be a bit premature.

Instead, tell your wife it's not a crime to share a gym with other women or look at women on t.v.. In addition, ask her what have you done to make her not trust you. There may be something she is not telling you.

[Jawaree 718]

Dude seem she maybe a control freak, however there is two sides to

every story, strange U said U are sorry U marry her, so that means

U no longer love her or want out? Well you can get counseling to

address this issue if its the only one,ssue and if U R a flirt

she will continue to be insecured.

Would be nice to hear her side so talk to your wife like U did B4 the

marriage

Edited February 4, 2015 by Jawaree

[TBoneTX 45,870]

[Moderator hat on] The bickering about religion is to stop immediately, at the risk of thread-bans.

[Moderator hat off] In the OP's own words:

she dont trust me

i cant even watch tv

she come to my job to see who is working with me and she accuse me of me talking to the girls at my work

i hate this married i wish i never married this American woman

and:

i did ask her to go counseling she did not want

i cant handle this anymore

The wife is invested in her attitudes rather than in her marriage and is exhibiting extreme behavior.

The OP's reservoir of emotional connection and toleration is exhausted, or he wouldn't have written.

When the OP leaves this figurative and literal insanity, he will feel as though a huge weight has been lifted from his shoulders. All the healthy, loving, available women in the world and he's even briefly considering staying with this one?

[Marco&Bettina 502]

There is always two sides of a story. We heard your side, need to know the other side, for any good advice. You mentioned you have green card for 10 years. You do not want to be naturalized. If you think you really love her and do not want to lose her do what she wants. Sooner or later she will come to her senses. But you need to be very patient.

Horrible advice. "Do what she wants." That never fixes anything & only prolongs the inevitable.