im married to a crazy woman i need help

[MikeNZ1984 44]

She may have undiagnosed mental health issues. Crazy might not be too far off the mark when it comes to describing the situation.

We have someone in the family who has been very similar (and been through 5 marriages with the same behaviour - and has suffered greatly due to her mental health issues) in their behaviour (that said, they also think that Wifi is causing earthquakes, and people on the bus are trying to off them.

It might be out of her control, it could be anything from here being fine and simply jealous to something such as borderline personality disorder, paranoid personality disorder or something far greater. Don't be so quick to judge, but by the same token - if she is unable or unwilling do to anything about it or get help to see the situation rationally or reasonably, you may have no choice but to seek greener pastures.

If you suspect this is the case, NAMI (The National Association for Mental Illness) can provide support for individuals affected and their families.

Edited February 4, 2015 by MikeNZ1984

[Paul and Svetlana 21]

Run away as fast as you can. I was once in a situation like this and I know how you feel. She will not change and it will get worse.

[ydu1 6]

My friend, the only advice I have for you is to ease up with the muscle building,go back to eating Cheetos,beef and unhealthy food so you can be fat and out of shape only then you will have your wife back. Your Abs and beautiful muscle is destroying your marriage and is clearly not working out for you.

[BraveAmnay 56]

Fortunately, The United States isn't under religious dictate, but rather, has a secular legal system, unlike, for example, Saudi Arabia, so he is not compelled to stay married to this psycho.

Your best advice is that he should be a prisoner in his own house because his wife is deranged? Oh, well done.

Can you please share with us How marriage works in arabi Saudi please .

[K415 6]

i have been married with my wife for 5 years now and i have 10 years green card and i have one problem is my wife i love her so much but she drive me crazy and the problems we have is

she is so jealous she dont trust me and i never cheat in my life the problem is i love to workout but its drive my wife crazy how girls dress at the gym and if a girl workout close to me she will come to me and tell me u need to change the spot i dont want y husband close to those bitches if i say that not good you not suppose to insult them they are free to wear what they want and she tell me you defend them because you like to look at them and i cant even watch tv how i want i cant watch shows have women wearing cloths show their body she come to my job to see who is working with me and she accuse me of me talking to the girls at my work and i said sometime because we work at the same job and she accuse me of cheating and we always fight i don't know what to do i hate this married i wish i never married this American woman i love her that why im so confused right now leave or stay im lost i need advices please

sorry i dont know where im suppose to write this but i really need help im getting crazy

Your wife might seems to be suffering from boarderline personality disorder. Search on google her charatrastic will definately match . match.

[BraveAmnay 56]

I would love hear what some people will say if thhis moroccan guy who did the same things to his wife ?!!!!! we will hear all sort of names .Controlling ,abusive ,maybe will go further and involve his faith too( Religion )

[Jon and Krissy 452]

Can you please share with us How marriage works in arabi Saudi please .

I wasn't talking about marriage in Saudi Arabia, I was talking about the legal system there being based on religious dictate, i.e., Sharia law, as opposed to secular law.

[SK2014 44]

Sit her down and have a talk, this time don't suggest or ask tell her you are unhappy and the best thing to work out both your feelings is to get counselling.

This marriage is a partnership so you both need to be willing to want the marriage to work. Like others have said it sounds like the problem is self confidence on her part

Maybe she has had past experiences with partners cheating on her (physically or emotionally) and the best way to deal is counselling. If she is unwilling then I am afraid you will have to make a choice either give up the marriage or the tv and gym and any type of daily activity that involves being around females (which is just nonsense)

Good luck wish you all the best!!

[Love Bird 1]

There is always two sides of a story. We heard your side, need to know the other side, for any good advice. You mentioned you have green card for 10 years. You do not want to be naturalized. If you think you really love her and do not want to lose her do what she wants. Sooner or later she will come to her senses. But you need to be very patient.

[Sandra G. 5,057]

kolenoik31 your advise is the most ridiculous thing I read here so far.People are abused in a daily basis and you are telling divorce is ok just in case of adultery? I really hope you do not work as a counselor/psychologist/doctor otherwise you will be endangering people's lives with your "theory".No one should remain in an unsafe environment.

[tiko1426 17]

My friend, the only advice I have for you is to ease up with the muscle building,go back to eating Cheetos,beef and unhealthy food so you can be fat and out of shape only then you will have your wife back. Your Abs and beautiful muscle is destroying your marriage and is clearly not working out for you.

The OP's Question belongs on Doctor Phil not Visa Journey.. Look at the type of answers he is getting including my own from last night...I have been here since 2008 [back then it was a different screen name and different account] I have NEVER seen a question like this asked here...It is way out of context for this website.. If this Poster is really asking what to do with his wife.. He definitly came to the wrong website.. And everybody here is Entertaining him Confusing Him even more with all these mixed Replys....He needs to work this out Himself and not Listen to all of you or me...... After all this is a serious problem... if this is not a joke to begin with....

Edited February 4, 2015 by tiko1426

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

There is always two sides of a story. We heard your side, need to know the other side, for any good advice. You mentioned you have green card for 10 years. You do not want to be naturalized. If you think you really love her and do not want to lose her do what she wants. Sooner or later she will come to her senses. But you need to be very patient.

This is ridiculous advice, would you tell a woman to just do what the man wants if the situation was reversed? How do you know she will come to her senses? Sounds to me like she is acting pretty irrationally and won't change that behavior without help. Edited February 4, 2015 by Hotter Otter

[PogWan 6]

Could you find a men only gym?

The problem with this is she is also freaking out about his job and things he does at home. I've seen this before and I would bet money she has borderline personality (BPD).

My message to the OP is to go read this: https://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/01/30/10-signs-your-girlfriend-or-wife-is-an-emotional-bully/

Edited February 4, 2015 by PogWan

[Pheebs1201 269]

I don't think being insecure, and possibly in need of help with her mental health makes her "crazy"

Obviously there is a lot of underlying issues here. She has been cheated on in the past. By your own admission you're a good looking fellow worthy of this attention, and sometimes you like to check other women out in return. Her fears are not one hundred percent unfounded. Once a seed of doubt has been planted, a mind with mental health issues can take that seed and multiply it into a very scary pit of anxiety, incorrect assumptions and fear of abandonment.

You say you love her, so help her. You need to sit down and have a frank conversation about all the issues you have outlined, and emphasise that both individual and couples counselling may help her. If conversations of these nature tend to get heated, write her a letter instead and be there for her whilst she reads it.

Visa journey will not provide you with the answers you need because we are all individuals here and every single one of us would handle this situation slightly, or even very, differently to one and other. You need to seek professional help, not hope that someone you've never met will provide you with a magic solution on an internet forum.

I am not trying to justify or defend her behaviour, obviously this is not a healthy way for the relationship to continue, but I urge you to at least try and deal with these issues, if you do indeed love her. If you have had enough, of course divorce is an option, but your mention of love gives me hope for you both.

Good luck whatever you decide. Please do not be too harsh, sometimes our own minds can be our worst enemy. It certainly sounds like this is the case for your wife.

[ExPatty 502]

She's crazy. Of course you look at other women in the gym. Every guy on the planet does, women shouldn't be surprised at this any more than a person on a diet looks fondly at a cake when they pass by a bakery. It doesn't mean they're going to eat it.