How excited is your SO to be coming to the US?

[Henia 11]

Just curious....

[lion_lioness 0]

Hi Henia,

My SO doesn't care to come to the US. He's seen how jaded I am and his father has a business here so he's seen from a young child the states. However, since I have a 14 year old about to start a prestigous private school in september for four years, I asked that he come here and give it a go for at least 4 years. If he finds success here great, if not we may end up back in Jordan or Turkey, where his Mom lives now. He is excited to come be with me yeah, but if he had it his way, I'd be moving there in April, we'd get married and I'd stay put (with my son). My son would kill me though. I think - I dunno.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

My husband is pretty sick of the process after two years. He's left it up to Allah and I to get us together. I want him to come here and go to school as an advantage for him when we return to live there. Otherwise, I'd be there and to heck with immigration.

[ya falaha! 0]

He's happy to be coming because his wife is here. The decision was mutual. I have two young sons that I can't just leave to start a new life somewhere else. We really didn't have a choice in the matter.

[Henia 11]

Hi Henia,

My SO doesn't care to come to the US. He's seen how jaded I am and his father has a business here so he's seen from a young child the states. However, since I have a 14 year old about to start a prestigous private school in september for four years, I asked that he come here and give it a go for at least 4 years. If he finds success here great, if not we may end up back in Jordan or Turkey, where his Mom lives now. He is excited to come be with me yeah, but if he had it his way, I'd be moving there in April, we'd get married and I'd stay put (with my son). My son would kill me though. I think - I dunno.

Yes, that is the reason I asked. My husband is not too thrilled about coming to the US either. He is only coming for me. I just never said anything here, knowing judgements could come from the forum. It would seem by all the general censuses the SO want to come here.

My husband has a good position and home (the works) But I, like you have a child. We could move there short term, but for long term I doubt it.

And like SZSZ said, all we can do is leave it up to God.

Edited February 5, 2007 by Henia

[chris4336 3]

Hey Henia,

I have 4 years left of school, so we really didn't have much of a choice. But my fiancee is thrilled to come live here. He knows he will have a lot of opportunities here that he just didn't have in Algeria or Spain. Everytime he sees a documentary or something about the US he tells me all about it and asks "Can we visit there?" He is pretty impressed by the opportunities and the rights we have here. It has really made me think how lucky I am to live here, even though I complain about a lot of things going on in the country right now. I just hope that we can balance the good aspects of both our cultures in our family.

Christina

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Hi Henia,

My SO doesn't care to come to the US. He's seen how jaded I am and his father has a business here so he's seen from a young child the states. However, since I have a 14 year old about to start a prestigous private school in september for four years, I asked that he come here and give it a go for at least 4 years. If he finds success here great, if not we may end up back in Jordan or Turkey, where his Mom lives now. He is excited to come be with me yeah, but if he had it his way, I'd be moving there in April, we'd get married and I'd stay put (with my son). My son would kill me though. I think - I dunno.

Yes, that is the reason I asked. My husband is not too thrilled about coming to the US either. He is only coming for me. I just never said anything here, knowing judgements could come from the forum. It would seem by all the general censuses the SO want to come here.

My husband has a good position and home (the works) But I, like you have a child. We could move there short term, but for long term I doubt it.

And like SZSZ said, all we can do is leave it up to God.

I shouldn't be surprised by anything that happens here, but I am surprised that you would be concerned about saying that your husband is not too thrilled about coming to the states. I'll say it, too: mine isn't thrilled either. He's in his 30s; it's a big deal to leave your life and family and all you've known for a place you have little real knowledge of. It took four years for my husband to consider moving here, and a lot of that has to do with feedback from friends who have already made the journey. I want him to be happy, and if he's not happy here, we'll go back, but I don't fault him, or any other spouse making such a sacrifice to move to another continent, even for love, for having some trepidation beforehand.

Edited February 5, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[Henia 11]

Hi Henia,

My SO doesn't care to come to the US. He's seen how jaded I am and his father has a business here so he's seen from a young child the states. However, since I have a 14 year old about to start a prestigous private school in september for four years, I asked that he come here and give it a go for at least 4 years. If he finds success here great, if not we may end up back in Jordan or Turkey, where his Mom lives now. He is excited to come be with me yeah, but if he had it his way, I'd be moving there in April, we'd get married and I'd stay put (with my son). My son would kill me though. I think - I dunno.

Yes, that is the reason I asked. My husband is not too thrilled about coming to the US either. He is only coming for me. I just never said anything here, knowing judgements could come from the forum. It would seem by all the general censuses the SO want to come here.

My husband has a good position and home (the works) But I, like you have a child. We could move there short term, but for long term I doubt it.

And like SZSZ said, all we can do is leave it up to God.

I shouldn't be surprised by anything that happens here, but I am surprised that you would be concerned about saying that your husband is not too thrilled about coming to the states. I'll say it, too: mine isn't thrilled either. He's in his 30s; it's a big deal to leave your life and family and all you've known for a place you have little real knowledge of. It took four years for my husband to consider moving here, and a lot of that has to do with feedback from friends who have already made the journey. I want him to be happy, and if he's not happy here, we'll go back, but I don't fault him, or any other spouse making such a sacrifice to move to another continent, even for love, for having some trepidation beforehand.

It seems my husband is the same; in his 30s, already settled in his life, not thrilled about starting anew with his education/experience is equal to little to nothing. It took my husband a few years to consider moving here and he is still not convinced. And as you said, if he does not like, we will move. But I am glad to see I am not alone here. People have asked me why go throu INS processing if he does not even want to come!?

[Together4ever 1]

Before my husband came here to the USA he ran the full gambit. At first he wanted to come very badly, then he was scared half out of his mind to come, then he was immersed in love for all things red, white and blue, then he was angry about American politics and wanting nothing to do with it, etc. But when it came down to that last year, he just wanted to be reunited and start his new life over here together. He has been homesick a little, but he doesn't say much about it. He calls his family and a few friends once a week, but he has immersed himself in everything here with gusto. He is Egyptian, he'll never deny it, but he also finds himself easily accepted as just another American too and seems to be making all kinds of different friends very easily. The only thing he doesn't care much for is the COLD! (But then I don't like it either...)

[sereia 0]

My fiance wants to be anywhere we can be together. He really doesn't care if its the US, Morocco, or somewhere else(I suggested somewhere else but now I've changed my mind) It was my idea to come here. Maybe eventually we'll move back to Morocco together but that is left up in the air for now. One thing at a time. hehe

My fiance is young and definitely not settled in his life except I'm sure he will miss his mama. He is excited to graduate college this summer and get out and make something of himself. Neither of us have children so we are a little more flexible...although I'd really like to be near my family so I'll have help once we have babies. This means we'd have to live in Southern California. But we'll see!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

It seems my husband is the same; in his 30s, already settled in his life, not thrilled about starting anew with his education/experience is equal to little to nothing. It took my husband a few years to consider moving here and he is still not convinced. And as you said, if he does not like, we will move. But I am glad to see I am not alone here. People have asked me why go throu INS processing if he does not even want to come!?

No, you definately are not alone. Mine is still not convinced, but he is considering a move. He just wants us to be together. It sucks that I could fly out today to Maroc and settle there so easily, but for him to be here, we have to go thru all this #######.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Before my husband came here to the USA he ran the full gambit. At first he wanted to come very badly, then he was scared half out of his mind to come, then he was immersed in love for all things red, white and blue, then he was angry about American politics and wanting nothing to do with it, etc.

I LMAO when I read this, Jean! My husband has done all of that, too, since he's decided to go along with my wicked plan to uproot him from all he knows. Next time you come, bring clothes with the US flag on it, he'll tell me one week. Then, it's "I can get a contract in Spain. Come meet me and we'll live there." When our petition got to the NVC, he got all excited and started taking English lessons again. Now, we're back to, "I don't really care if I come or not. Aren't they mean to Arab Muslims there?"

[sereia 0]

It seems my husband is the same; in his 30s, already settled in his life, not thrilled about starting anew with his education/experience is equal to little to nothing. It took my husband a few years to consider moving here and he is still not convinced. And as you said, if he does not like, we will move. But I am glad to see I am not alone here. People have asked me why go throu INS processing if he does not even want to come!?

No, you definately are not alone. Mine is still not convinced, but he is considering a move. He just wants us to be together. It sucks that I could fly out today to Maroc and settle there so easily, but for him to be here, we have to go thru all this #######.

seriously. if it weren't for my family and friends (and okay i admit, a few comforts of being american) i would move to morocco tomorrow. i know i'd regret it eventually though.

[Together4ever 1]

Before my husband came here to the USA he ran the full gambit. At first he wanted to come very badly, then he was scared half out of his mind to come, then he was immersed in love for all things red, white and blue, then he was angry about American politics and wanting nothing to do with it, etc.

I LMAO when I read this, Jean! My husband has done all of that, too, since he's decided to go along with my wicked plan to uproot him from all he knows. Next time you come, bring clothes with the US flag on it, he'll tell me one week. Then, it's "I can get a contract in Spain. Come meet me and we'll live there." When our petition got to the NVC, he got all excited and started taking English lessons again. Now, we're back to, "I don't really care if I come or not. Aren't they mean to Arab Muslims there?"

Yep. Sounds exactly the same. Made me a nervous wreck. Every time I settled into a dream he would tear the floor our from under it and plan a new one. ARRRGGGGHHHHH But if it helps, Moh has had 99% good experiences here so far. He's just tired of hearing "are you Mexican?"

ETA: I will shaddap before I distract the thread. But I forgot to add his coming here was a mutual decision.

Edited February 6, 2007 by Together4ever

[Henia 11]

It seems my husband is the same; in his 30s, already settled in his life, not thrilled about starting anew with his education/experience is equal to little to nothing. It took my husband a few years to consider moving here and he is still not convinced. And as you said, if he does not like, we will move. But I am glad to see I am not alone here. People have asked me why go throu INS processing if he does not even want to come!?

No, you definately are not alone. Mine is still not convinced, but he is considering a move. He just wants us to be together. It sucks that I could fly out today to Maroc and settle there so easily, but for him to be here, we have to go thru all this #######.

Yes, it does....