Gone with the Rant

[SAT 9,609]

There she goes......

[SAT 9,609]

I clipped my thumb nail too short. Thumb hurts now...

[kitthekat 1,317]

it's not just the food. it's the cleaning the house, the getting dressed, having to clean out the cat box before they get here as opposed to before i go to bed, making sure there's ice cubes, etc. i always light the incense burner before guests get here. make sure there's napkins on the dinner table. i just like to be prepared and to have a nice home, especially when people come over.

and food-wise, if it's just us two, we can get by with a simple meal. if guests are here, i want to be able to serve appetizers, a salad, drinks, dessert, etc.

i guess culturally, i was just raised to entertain guests differently. personally i also never go over to a friend's house empty handed. if we're invited to dinner, i bring something, wine, dessert, something. he says it's not necessary.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

it's not just the food. it's the cleaning the house, the getting dressed, having to clean out the cat box before they get here as opposed to before i go to bed, making sure there's ice cubes, etc. i always light the incense burner before guests get here. make sure there's napkins on the dinner table. i just like to be prepared and to have a nice home, especially when people come over.

and food-wise, if it's just us two, we can get by with a simple meal. if guests are here, i want to be able to serve appetizers, a salad, drinks, dessert, etc.

i guess culturally, i was just raised to entertain guests differently. personally i also never go over to a friend's house empty handed. if we're invited to dinner, i bring something, wine, dessert, something. he says it's not necessary.

This. I was always taught that except for very very close friends and immediate family who are always at your house, that your house must be sort of "prepped" first.

I don't think men get it.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Aiyah, just order pizza!

[SAT 9,609]

Or serve frozen won ton with ramen lol

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

Or serve frozen won ton with ramen lol

Is that what your wife does?

[SAT 9,609]

Is that what your wife does?

I wish....

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

So the women in my due date group are going on and on and on about how fantastic 1 year of maternity leave is versus 6 weeks or whatever. I get that people want to spend time with a new baby, but how is leaving them after a year of spending every waking moment with them better than 6 weeks? How is that easier for you or for them? Plus, you are still missing out on some of the best and most formative years when kids grow and learn by leaps and bounds - the toddler years!

Maybe I'm just cynical or something or maybe I just really dislike the infant stage. Want to send over your nanny in a few months Steve? I'm totally ready to skip 0-6 months.

[NikLR 13,228]

After (2+2+2) months i still loved to stay home with the boo. By a year i was happy to get some me time and return to work.

I totally could never have returned to work at less than 6 months. But i nursed for a year too.

And i couldnt pump. :/

[SAT 9,609]

some companies are very generous with maternity leave. Like 12 weeks paid and many months leave. But in my own opinion, I really do see it as scamming. I get it, they want to spend time with their babies. If that's the case, stay home, quit. But if they want to keep their careers, then they also have a responsibility to the company that treats them so well. Loyalty is owed.

From my perspective, if I see someone return from maternity sooner rather than later, I know something is driving them.

I miss my kids all the time. But a lot of things drive me to work.

My nanny is a Chinawoman.....

Edited January 29, 2015 by SAT

[SAT 9,609]

Little egg roll just ordered a formula.....

[NikLR 13,228]

I was in Canada, EI (employment insurance) pays for your maternity and parental leave (dad can use parental too.) You earn only 55% at most and I had to find a new job afterward. But my ex sil kept her job through all 3 of her pregnancies, but used EI to pay the benefits again.

They cant fire you during it I dont think.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

After (2+2+2) months i still loved to stay home with the boo. By a year i was happy to get some me time and return to work.

I totally could never have returned to work at less than 6 months. But i nursed for a year too.

And i couldnt pump. :/

As soon I was out of the hospital, I had a nanny and was back to school and had a 4.0 with full math/physics classes the following semester. I was nursing/pumping then. Then again, I would have taken and did take every opportunity for a break and part of me kind of feels like the 1 year system, like in Denmark, creates a situation in which there isn't childcare available before then and that doesn't benefit women who don't respond well to staying home all day.

I've grown accustomed to it over the last 2 years and some, but there is absolutely no way I could have done it years ago.

Plus, I'm kind of a little irked that some women get paid maternity leave but that SAHMs get nothing for the same period.

Edited January 29, 2015 by N-o-l-a

[kitthekat 1,317]

Aiyah, just order pizza!

*shudder*