Withdrawal consequences for beneficiary

[Tisa 9]

Hey guys me and my fiancé are thinking about delaying our marriage plans and wait a little longer because of financial reasons. We really want to be together but when I visited him for three months we got a little scared of how life will be with his little income and having to support two people. I want to find a job as soon as possible once we got married and I am allowed to work but we are trying to stay realistic and don't want to get into a situation to where he won't be able to pay his bills anymore. My question is how would this affect me as te beneficiary ? Will I still be able to visit him once the petition is cancelled? We are thinking about staying in a long distance relationship a little longer in order to save up some more money. Our decision is not yet made tho. Thank you guys for any help

[E-N 48]

I would say don't withdraw it. seeing that you are at texas svc center, you can anticipate not hearing back until the april unless you are super lucky. furthermore, you will have up to 6 months to come over once the visa is issued then 90 days to marry once you hit US soil so, I think it would be plenty of time to save

ultimately, do what you guys feel is best in your hearts.

[SweetOpossum 55]

Hi guys! I agree with E-N .... the USCIS takes a long time to approve petitions and that is just the start, once they approve it it still has to go thru the NVC and the consulate, then you will need to schedule an interview, do the medical examination, etc.

We filed January last year hoping to get married in April and I ended up getting my visa until September and getting married in November (And this only because we where anxious to get married and I came here immediately to plan the wedding as soon as possible).

Anyway, best luck!

[Tisa 9]

I see where you guys are coming from. I am also thinking about moving to Haiti in the mean time because I don't have a job or apartment in Germany anymore. My dad is Haitian and offered me to stay at his place and work Over there .. But I don't know how to go about that because I would have to take the medical and interview in Haiti then, correct ? I don't speak creole or French.. Would the interview be in English ? Would I even be able to have the medical there and the interview there since I am German ?? I think I could get a Haitian passport tho.. Any thoughts ??

[TabeaK 517]

You have a lot going on. I am not sure how one would go about changing the processing embassy...

You can have another embassy process your case if you do live in that country though. I doubt this is an easy process now, especially as you have filed already though.

Maybe it would be easier to spend a few more months in Germany? Find a flatshare and a job? Save up?

I mean, no offense, but Haiti isn't exactly a rich country where you'd be making significant money, is it?

If I were in your shoes, I'd not withdraw the petition, I'd just delay processing as much as I can.

[Cody and Daisy 373]

Unless you plan on saving up a significant amount it's rather pointless.

There will be at least 4 months where you cannot work depending on when you get married.

AOS is 1070, and speaking as someone who was in your position, we had no money when I came, luckily my now husband is in a decent job and I don't exactly cost a lot other than more food.

We had to take out a credit card to pay for AOS because we would rather be in financial problems now for me to be able to work.

Just consider the fact you will be broke for a good while before you can work, and even then who knows how soon you can find a job.

I have been here since August, applied for AOS in November, very broke, bills are not always payed on time, very very bored. But in my opinion, we would rather I be here and be in these problems together than be apart any longer, took us 8 years to get to this place.

Wouldn't change a thing.

[Ilovemyman 147]

It is better be toguether at usa, that in a long distance relationship.

It is better be at usa that in Haiti,

Have you kived in Haiti?

Haiti isnt the best place in rhe world to be, so if you can stay at Germany and then go to usa , just wait.

Unleast your father be rich, it is better be at usa with the little imcome from your fiance.

Anyway if you decide go to Haiti, you need be a legal redident there to apply for interview there.

Dont worry about interview language, if you dont speak french your interview can be in english.

If you decide move to Haiti you can become in legal resident and change the adress at uscis.

Read about change the embassy adress.

good luck

[Pheebs1201 269]

You have six months from the date of your medical to enter the US, and in all likeliness you are still a good 3-4 months away from NOA2, with another month or two in between for NVC/Embassy processing. I don't think withdrawing the petition is necessary.

Good luck!

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

Agree that living in Haiti is probably not going to boost your savings much. Plus getting a job there won't be easy if you can't speak the language. Could you get another job in Germany? As others have said you have up to 6 months after your medical to move and you could increase your savings in that time.

[-Shana- 152]

Personally we're not doing the whole song and dance wedding once I enter the US. We're going to have a simple, city hall/city office ceremony, no rings, no dresses, no guests just a witness. One day when we're both in full time jobs and we feel we're financially able we will become engaged (again! I've not technically been "properly" proposed to with a ring) and plan a big wedding for all our friends and family. Our marriage to each other in the near future will be our way of committing to each other in a serious way, but also a way for us to be together for good without worry. Our wedding in the future will be a celebration of our love and a joyous party for friends and family. Weddings are expensive, we just can't afford one right now, but we're still going to get married regardless to be together. Perhaps this is something you can consider? Getting married on paper first then waiting for the full experience when you're ready financially. A lot of couples in Japan do it this way and their weddings are still very special despite already being technically married. Something to consider!

[msbau764 245]

I remember reading your story and thinking how impossible it would be to live here on the amount of money you were making. I suggest you tough it out and find a job in the US to get the process over with.

[Marco&Bettina 502]

Personally we're not doing the whole song and dance wedding once I enter the US. We're going to have a simple, city hall/city office ceremony, no rings, no dresses, no guests just a witness. One day when we're both in full time jobs and we feel we're financially able we will become engaged (again! I've not technically been "properly" proposed to with a ring) and plan a big wedding for all our friends and family. Our marriage to each other in the near future will be our way of committing to each other in a serious way, but also a way for us to be together for good without worry. Our wedding in the future will be a celebration of our love and a joyous party for friends and family. Weddings are expensive, we just can't afford one right now, but we're still going to get married regardless to be together. Perhaps this is something you can consider? Getting married on paper first then waiting for the full experience when you're ready financially. A lot of couples in Japan do it this way and their weddings are still very special despite already being technically married. Something to consider!

This is what my then-fiancee & I decided. We had our 1st very tiny wedding Jan 10, 2015 & will have our joyous party for friends & family wedding where her family from Germany will be able to attend on Jan 10, 2016.

[Tisa 9]

I do agree that having a tiny wedding at first is not a bad idea at all. I want to move to Haiti because like I said my dad lives there and he is financially more than stable. Plus my twin sister lives there to and I would like to be close to her as well. For me it would be interesting right now if I would be allowed to have the medical and the interview in Haiti if I decide to move there. A job at my familys business over there is already taken care of for me as well. Right now it just seem like the most convenient and easiest thing to do for me. Thank you guys for your opinions and thoughts I really appreciate it.

[msbau764 245]

I am going to do the exact same thing. Wedding planned for summer 2016.

[StrawberryKiss 170]

You just need to be a legal resident (have a residence permit, visa or dual citizenship, for example) in Haiti in order to be able to get the medical and interview done there. A visitor visa is would not be enough. But as you said you could get a Haitian passport, so you'd have that citizenship already and it wouldn't be a problem at all. You'd just have to let USCIS and both consulates know about your change of residency, possibly send them all a copy of your new passport.

As for your concern, I wouldn't withdraw the petition either. As other VJers have pointed out, you still have months of waiting ahead of you and you can try to delay the process as much as it's somehow possible. Visa is valid for 6 months for entry and then you even still have another 3 months to get married, which gives you a huge timeframe to figure things out upon the approval of your visa.