I am pissed off!^&*@%

[Henia 11]

Esalaam Hello and Salut

So, I am sitting here reading email after email from a friend in Europe, who is giving me Hadith after Hadith about being seperated from my husband. We all know this one; not to be seperated from our husband more then 4months, lest the eyes may wonder and after a 4month seperation there is a divorce by default. #######... come ladies give me some support on this. This is just BS. I donnot appreciate my so-called-friends advice, esp since I did not ask for it. I know we *should* not be seperated from our spouses, but come on it is not like we want to be. And since it was discussed before hand, this does not apply. Anyone have any supporting information here or just want rant and rage with me?

This is a serious thread, not a joke, so I would appreciate no sarcastic comments, comments aimed to hurt or point fingers.... just cold hard evidence/information and some support. We are all in the same nasty boat. We all need support.

PS: Also rude comments from family and friends regarding the seperation and/or marrying a ME/NA person can be posted here.

henia, i believe there is a major difference between voluntary separation versus involuntary separation. i believe your "friend" has forgotten to factor this in.

also might not be a bad idea to find new friends. friends should be supportive, not destructive.

True. I can 86 the friends, but not the family