your fiance/husband's first night in america...

[jordanianprincess 0]

Doodle, welcome to the "anyone who disagrees with Green-Eyed Girl" clique.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Doodle, welcome to the "anyone who disagrees with Green-Eyed Girl" clique.

Which apparently includes just about everyone on this board

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Welcome to the "Everyone is allowed to have an opinion but her" group.

I have some advice for you long suffering whiners. Take it or leave it: the ignore button. I will not miss anyone who wants to use it to ignore me because anyone who would is not anyone I want to have to respond to anyway. I post here with and without you, and don't mind at all.

Edited February 6, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Having spent the majority of the last 6 or 7 years online, I think I need to sum up what I've learned so I don't feel that I've wasted my life:

It's not what you say, it's how you say it.

That's how I can have vehement disagreements with people, and still be their friends. I try to be polite, not condecending, and always open for dialogue. Plus, some humor sprinkled in doesn't hurt either.

There, now I don't feel like I've wasted my life post high school graudation

[brnidokiegurl 0]

At the same time no matter how you say "anything" there will always be someone to take it wrong or differently than intended

[Bosco 1]

You know, Rebecca, I have been holding back on saying this, but I will. You used to want to be friends. You used to be very positve toward me, and I haven't changed, but you did. You know how I found out that you didn't like me anymore? It wasn't the way you prescribe for others, that they discuss their issues in private. No, it was because I saw you making fun of me and mocking my positions with people you know didn't like me.

This thread was the first give away. From there, there were other posts that clearly were aimmed at my views; I don't collect them. I said nothing because popularity here isn't important to me. That's not what I'm here for, and that's why I don't really care who likes me and who doesn't.

You folks dislike my proveniciality, and you dislike my unconventionality. You want to put me in a little box that allows you to do and say as you want, but restricts me to silence and absolute prudeness. But, if some can joke about sex, then I can too. So, get over it, y'all.

BTW, we were having fun here, like many of you do when you're mocking me. We will continue to have fun. Get over that too.

Actually, you haven't held back because you said basically the same thing a few weeks ago.

Maybe you haven't changed, but my perception of you did, and that has nothing to do with anyone I know on here. Actually, I am not unique in this either. I think many people initially found your perspective refreshing and were thereafter put off. It isn't a cabal, it is what you are putting out. Fact is, I don't dislike you, but I dislike how you are relentless and I think that has has been exacerbated since the abnormal and gross incident.

Edited February 7, 2007 by Bosco

[Sofiyya 1,687]

A wise man on another VJ board once said: Anyone who comes here to make friends should kill themselves NOW.

I concur.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

At the same time no matter how you say "anything" there will always be someone to take it wrong or differently than intended

The interesting thing is, those who feel the way they do are amazing unaware of those who see them in a different light than the way they see themselves.

Rebecca, I'm over it. If it's clear to you how I came to that, then I have made my point and that's all I wanted to do.

No one else here is relentless except moi Thanks for the laugh!

Edited February 7, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Ig button, people! Good fences make good neighbors, and I am sooooo tired of your denial.

Edited February 7, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[babybunny 2]

I hate to change the subject.. BUUUTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

but should I make javed Peanut butter cookies or Chocolate chip cookies? the pre cut frozen kind < I am too lazy to roll the dough >

I was thinking of making a welcome home goody basket. what else should I put in the basket.

[~Jackie~ 30]

I refrain from using the 'ignore' feature. I prefer to read all the #######. Seeing how ignorant some members make themselves sound amuses me on slow nights at work. Seeing how low some can take things, makes my life seem so much more normal.

Jackie

Clique of one. (obvious rip-off of 'Army of One.' )

[UmmSqueakster 54]

My husband has aquired a taste for cheesecake, chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies since he got here We both gained 10 pounds in the first year he was here.

So, I say, go for both I would include in the basket a map of your city, a bus pass, if you have public transportation and some brochures to attractions in your city, with promises that you'll take him there.

[jordanianprincess 0]

The Hypocrites are afraid lest a Sura should be sent down about them, showing them what is really passing in their hearts. Say: "Mock you! But verily God will bring to light all that you fear should be revealed. If you do question them, they declare with emphasis: "We were only joking and playing." Say: "Was it at God, and His Signs, and His Messenger, that you were mocking?"

- The Holy Quran 9:65-66

It's so amusing that you have this in your signature. It's a wonder to me how someone can consistently call others hypocrites yet doesn't even realize that they are one themselves. It's not just me, but others have noticed as well. You constatntly change your story to make it work in your favor in different threads thinking no one will notice, as illustrated below. Why should we believe anything you say? You have insulted so many members on this forum and you don't let up. When someone confronts you about it you lash back with some BS about cliques because ofcourse you can't be wrong, it must be that we are all in a clique of people that just don't like you. Maybe you can explain to people here why in one thread you need a divorce decree and in another you say you were never divorced?

Khadiah said:

I am sure everything said here are all true BUT you must know it is traditional to have a Moroccan wedding with the family as a celebration. It is a way to prove you are married with family and friends at Morocco. My husband and I married at Morocco, we are both very simple muslim people BUT we still had a simple traditional wedding with family and friends of family to acknowledge our marriage to many people. I am sure this is what the CO had in mind because they know it is traditional at Morocco. Even if we are simple people it should have been preformed this way to make all family and friends know the marriage was accomplished. You should have photos for proofs as well.

I spent a lot of time in Morocco before I married a Moroccan, and I know LOTS of couples who didn't have a "traditional wedding". Hecks, lots of people all over the world don't have "traditional weddings". I'm Muslim too, and I know lots of Muslims who have very simple nikahs. In fact, there are ahadith that tell us this is proper to do because to do otherwise is a waste of money that one could use to give alms.

We had a small family reception, and like someone mentioned before, we married just before I left. We registered at the adoul in Sale at 7pm and I was on a plane alone in Casa the next morning to leave at 9:30 am! We barely had time to sleep, much less to throw a fete! The rush was because the judge was trying to find any excuse to mot allow us to marry in the first place and we were down to the wire by the time our newly-hired attorney was able to convince him that if the US Embassy had validated my divorce ( a requirement), then why wouldn't he accept their word, if not my divorce decree. We did have a honeymoon in May this year.

Ok, so how many ladies here have put their SO to the "test" regarding the just-for-a-visa issue? (Be honest now.)

I never tested my husband so much as I didn't take him seriously for a long time. He was 26 when we met online, I was nearly 47. Although most of the women in my family are married to younger men, several of them Moroccan men, and although men at least 10 years younger approached me regularly, I was still looking for someone my own age. That's what I was used to. So, despite the fact that I have a house in Agadir and go there at least once a year, it didn't really occur to me early on that this young Moroccan man had a chance to ever be my husband; visas never even crossed my mind. Besides, having grown up there, I knew that, outside of western Sahara, the percentage of older women married to younger men was very low.

I had some fun with him and was attracted to him, but kept looking for older guys. After a few months talking to him, I told him that it had been fun, but it was time for me to get serious and for him to find a woman his own age. He protested that I was the one he wanted, but I was gone. For about a year, all I would give him was cursory hellos, feeling oh so guilty about the continuing attention and gifts he showered on me. When he'd catch me online, I would remind him that he was too young for me and ask if he had found someone else yet. Always the answer was no, he was waiting for me.

After a while and several older suitors later, I realized that he was the only one who remembered my birthday, my favorite movie, what color my eyes were, and all the details of my life as I had related them. I realized that he was already committed to me, and so much better than the rest. Just because he came wrapped in a smoother, not so graying package was no reason to let him get away. I had to allay my fears about growing older ahead of him, perhaps he would change his mind about not wanting children. I've never been divorced before and didn't want it to happen to me, especially at an older age. But, these are the chances you take in any relationship.

No, I didn't test him, per se, but now, after waiting four years to meet me, and now more than 2.5 years to live with me, I know for sure he could have gotten a visa easier with someone else, so, even though he gets terribly frustrated with the bureaucracy, and sometimes with me, we're still hanging in there together.

OMG, I hate it when we are fighting and he says "as you wish"! That just makes my blood boil.

I hate that too!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I hate to change the subject.. BUUUTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

but should I make javed Peanut butter cookies or Chocolate chip cookies? the pre cut frozen kind < I am too lazy to roll the dough >

I was thinking of making a welcome home goody basket. what else should I put in the basket.

What does he like, shon?

I refrain from using the 'ignore' feature. I prefer to read all the #######. Seeing how ignorant some members make themselves sound amuses me on slow nights at work. Seeing how low some can take things, makes my life seem so much more normal.

Jackie

Clique of one. (obvious rip-off of 'Army of One.' )

I try not be be amused by ignorant people online, but God made so many of them, and they keep trying to get my attention!

Edited February 7, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[UmmSqueakster 54]

The Hypocrites are afraid lest a Sura should be sent down about them, showing them what is really passing in their hearts. Say: "Mock you! But verily God will bring to light all that you fear should be revealed. If you do question them, they declare with emphasis: "We were only joking and playing." Say: "Was it at God, and His Signs, and His Messenger, that you were mocking?"

- The Holy Quran 9:65-66

It's so amusing that you have this in your signature.

Not to mention inferring another muslim is a munafiq is a huuuuuge insult.

Maybe you can explain to people here why in one thread you need a divorce decree and in another you say you were never divorced?