your fiance/husband's first night in america...

[brnidokiegurl 0]

The more elite furniture can come in time, starting out just something that will accomodate. Around here there usually are good sales, estate sales, or moving sales, people sometimes sell some nice things just to keep from moving it.

Mine is in Calif. just waiting each day for the ok starting the countdown now, time line has March 8 so each day come to work checking ha

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Discussing your sex life, or lack of with strangers and mixed company is just tacky. And I would appreciate no suggestions to 'just not read' or 'go somewhere else'. I have longevity as you can see from my join date. I'm staying.

Jackie

Well I'm obviously a newbie but common sense tells me if you find something offensive that is as lighthearted as this... you just don't post in this topic! My point is why do so many women here have to be so rude all the time? if you posted something I found tacky I would never go in your post and tell you it was just for the sake of having my opinion known that i find you inappropriate! I would just ignore that topic because there are tons of others to read and post in! Newbie OR old school.

For me, it really had nothing to do with the sex talk....I think that the "fill in the blanks" was kinda cute and all that. I know you're new here but greeneyedgirl has publically stated that certain people's marriages are not valid and that they are fornicating with their men whom they call their husband. For someone to do that and devastate some individuals who take things to heart, and then to go and talk about extremely sexual toys.....well it just kind of was the straw that broke the camel's back. And for her to know that the fact that on the one hand she's destroyed a few girls emotionally telling them that their marriage was false and on the other hand she's freely talking about her sex toys bothers some, and then to insert many many many references of it in this particular thread KNOWING it would rub a few people the wrong way, was just wrong and I apologize that it distracted from the true nature of the thread.

So.............it's not really about the uptightness re: some of the bedroom talk.....it's more about the audacity of someone to tell a woman right after she got married when she's on her honeymoon that she is fornicating and not really married, and then turn around and talk about her vibrator.

That being said, I'm writing down all these good tips myself and I do HOPE that we all can use them SOON!!!!

Oh, the drama! I'm so powerful that I'm wreaking havoc with an opinion. Well, if there was no truth to what I said, why the consternation? This is about the long-term disagreement over couples having paper marriages that they call "Islamic", and the requirement for registered marriages as prescribed by the alim and legal authorities in the MUSLIM country they "married" in. Sorry, it's not their place to go to a MUSLIM country that has set up their rules according to their SO's understanding of Islam, then attempt to dictate what this country and the USCIS should allow. Anyone that has a problem with my view of that can suck wind. Fornication and vibrators are apples and oranges. For all you know, the dildos are being used for fencing, that's how descriptive we've been!

Frankly, if you all think I'm so horrible, just pay no attention to what I believe and blissfully go about your business. You're not my burden on the Last Day and I've done my duty by giving you my warning, as I am bound by God to do.

Anyone having any further problem with me can PM me; I'm done with you here. I will report any more interference with the enjoyment of this thread.

[sophyie 0]

When I came to visit my husband (then boyfriend) for the first time in the States, I was simply overwhelmed.

I always feel it takes 2 to 3 days for (I allways call it) my soul to arrive after my body. That is on long flight trips.

He did a lot of the stuff you were all suggesting:

He had just recently moved and made sure none of the boxes were still around when I arrived, he painted the bedroom and put together a little package about Seattle.

A city guide, a guide to public transport, a map, he bought a "go Seattle Card" which included admission to a lot of attractions.

For my first night he had not planned anything, just a light salad for dinner- we spent a lot of the night trying to understand that I was finally there...

The next morning, he took me to the beach, we got a coffee from Starbucks and sat in the sand with our shoes off, and enjoyed the sunshine.

The first two days were very slow, only then I started to meet friends and family, discover the city and discover American supermarkets

Enjoy those first days, everybody. It's a once in a lifetime experience.

[doodlebug 3]

The next morning, he took me to the beach, we got a coffee from Starbucks and sat in the sand with our shoes off, and enjoyed the sunshine.

I know it's a pipedream but I would LOVE for him to come here when it's still summertime so that we could spend our first days together on the beach!!!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

This is a suggestion that would last more than a few days, but leaving sweet, loving notes around the house for him to find is a winner! You can put them anywhere, in the medicine cabinet, at the PC, in the fruit bowl, where ever. Keep telling him how happy you are to have him with you!

[sereia 0]

This is a suggestion that would last more than a few days, but leaving sweet, loving notes around the house for him to find is a winner! You can put them anywhere, in the medicine cabinet, at the PC, in the fruit bowl, where ever. Keep telling him how happy you are to have him with you!

YES! I was at staples a few weeks ago to buy a hole puncher for my application and saw they had heart shaped pink post it notes... so i bought them for that exact reason!

[brnidokiegurl 0]

I had thought of the medicine cabinet also, matter of fact allllllll the cabinets in the bathroom, guess i need to clean out quiet a bit and be sure to explain some of the stuff there.

For later, when im not home and he gets a burst of energy,this product you can clean the wooden floors with, this one you cant.

[sophyie 0]

The next morning, he took me to the beach, we got a coffee from Starbucks and sat in the sand with our shoes off, and enjoyed the sunshine.

I know it's a pipedream but I would LOVE for him to come here when it's still summertime so that we could spend our first days together on the beach!!!

But it can also be very romantic to walk on the beach in fall or winter, just cuddle up in a coat and bring a hot drink!

The going to the beach has become a tradition for us, and I hope we can keep it up when I finally come to live in Seattle for good...

No better place to talk about things than on the beach, for me at least.

[sereia 0]

I had thought of the medicine cabinet also, matter of fact allllllll the cabinets in the bathroom, guess i need to clean out quiet a bit and be sure to explain some of the stuff there.

For later, when im not home and he gets a burst of energy,this product you can clean the wooden floors with, this one you cant.

awesome idea!!!!!!!

[Jenn! 918]

The next morning, he took me to the beach, we got a coffee from Starbucks and sat in the sand with our shoes off, and enjoyed the sunshine.

I know it's a pipedream but I would LOVE for him to come here when it's still summertime so that we could spend our first days together on the beach!!!

Just don't walk down Lynn beach - smelly!!!!

[Private 1]

Yes, it has. That's part of the problem. It's only noticed when done by those who are not among the favored.

Yes Green-eyed girl I will have to agree with you. When you look at the previous you see this happening. And after some of the things I read I am not "what" and they talk about me. Something else that is funny is that people try to PM and tell me to give it a break or whatever. Why should I give the board a break, you know, how are you to tell me when to comment and when not too. One thing that is off subject but gets on my nerves is the islamic questions. But anyway maybe I will start a trend with that one????

[Together4ever 1]

This is a suggestion that would last more than a few days, but leaving sweet, loving notes around the house for him to find is a winner! You can put them anywhere, in the medicine cabinet, at the PC, in the fruit bowl, where ever. Keep telling him how happy you are to have him with you!

We have been doing this. Its so comforting and wonderful, especially when our schedules are quite meshing except for 2 short hours of awake time. Just a little note somewhere to say "I'm thinking of you..."

[doodlebug 3]

The next morning, he took me to the beach, we got a coffee from Starbucks and sat in the sand with our shoes off, and enjoyed the sunshine.

I know it's a pipedream but I would LOVE for him to come here when it's still summertime so that we could spend our first days together on the beach!!!

Just don't walk down Lynn beach - smelly!!!!

I used to live right on Beach street and 95% of the summer my windows were closed and the a/c was cranking and I STILL couldn't get the smell out of my appartment!!

[Private 1]

You know I was going refrain from posting but I think many people are wondering...

Green-Eyed...based on the advice you gave Rahma the other day on proper adab, do you think you are following the same right now when continuing to discuss your sex toys? I would say that is very high on the list of lack of adab. I realize you have stated earlier that just because you have one doesn't mean you use it, but I would like to remind you that there is only one use for such a thing. There is no alternative use for it, therefore discussing it in a public forum is a lack of adab. If you want to talk about it then please by all means continue, but don't call others out about adab when you can practice what you preach I just want to add I don't really have a problem with anyone here discussing it even though I think its too personal, my problem is with those who discuss such things and then call others out for being disrespectful.

hmmmmmm....I remember saying that earlier!!!

I know you want to fit in with the cabal, doodle, but you don't have the grounds on which to stand.

Double standards are the norm on this board. Objections are not to what is said, but to whom is saying it. As I said before, people jump on whom they want to. Discussions of sex on this board are common, though veiled. When the "rigt" people are in the nix, nothing is said. When the "wrong" people are in the mix, that's whan it's all wrong.

I'm sorry, but some of the Muslimas here consider Islam a joke until they have someone to pick at to divert from what they thmeselves do and say. Then, they side with the pro-fornicators. They resent me for speaking out against fornication, and will use anything I say to try to deflect from themselves. That is clear to more and more too. You are losing your credibility as critics because of your own hypocrisy and failure to practice what you preach and not apply your finger pointing objectively.

I could give a rat's azz if I fit in or not. I think I've proven that quite a few times. What I do care about though is when someone calls another sister out for committing fornication, when she clearly hasn't. If you were half the person Rahma is, I would actually listen to your arguments but you've proven in this and other threads by waving your vibrator and ####### talk that you are not one to be spouting off any right/wrong speeches. You say that you don't use it for masturbation ..... do you hang it from a mantle then and use it for decoration??????

If you want to be taken seriously when you give out Islamic advice, I think perhaps you might wanna clean up your act.

I agree with JP that I don't mind the talk but when someone is being hypocritical and has hurt a dear friend, then I have to speak out as well. Obviously you've used this thread as you have others recently to try to scratch the surface and cause a fight. Do you think this is beneficial to your cause of peace on these boards? I think not, but then that's just me.

I am so upset I was not on here for this trend, but I will have to say that nobody is perfect. We are not perfect muslims and will never be, if one person does something but does not do another thing than so what. I have noticed in myself that sometimes we carry around a Christian mentality. We do not have hypocritics in Islam, we are all growing as muslims. Maybe you are doing something that I am not doing. I know people that drink and i think it is wrong but I do things that some may consider incorrect behavior. I think we should stop with the judging. Some people ask questions yes I know the knowledge does that mean I apply it all the time. I try my best but I do not. There are a lot of things that we have to consider as muslims and we never stop learning and growing. So what you think is not appropriate could be just that person growing out of a phrase. I am not sure what is going on but these trends of entertaining and we learn alot. I think I have learned the most hadith from this group then anybody. Personalities are different and yes they will clash. however when you are on a public board it is a free for all. I have learned this and I have learn the PM option.

Doodle, welcome to the "anyone who disagrees with Green-Eyed Girl" clique.

Which apparently includes just about everyone on this board

I am a Green-eyed girl FAN. I was waiting for the new album!!!

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I bought some electric liquid poupouri pots and use a rose poupouri in them. It makes the whole house smell wonderful!

Another thing. Talk of showers made me think of warming a towel for him to use when he gets out. It's especially appreciated on cold winter days.

Edited February 7, 2007 by Green-eyed girl